Spying on ex's social media - since my breakup I can't stop from monitoring. Is that okay?

9 times out of 10 it does more harm than good. If you find yourself looking at their social media you tend to think things like "What are they doing", "Who are they doing it with", "Are they happy or sad without me", or the common gaze upon their pictures and reminisce in what you had. But the common trend is quite simple. You will likely not know as much as you used to about their day to day life. It's hard to accept it but there is a reason why the relationship ended. Whether it be in your control or not, the ending of a relationship changes a lot of factors. Quite frankly, it tends to not ever truly go back to the way things were. Every relationship after that is a different relationship. Even with the same person, even if it's a day after. There is a concept in psychology called "rumination" meaning to focus on thoughts that cause emotional distress. It's a reaction based in anxiety. We focus on the causes and where it has left us rather than the solution. I advocate you don't stare on your ex's social media, because there is no solution there.

No, you should leave it as it would just bring up habits of spying on people on social media and in town as well.

No its not since it will never you get over your ex and never let you stay happy so its better not to really do it.

No, but it's natural to be honest. Just slowly realize how much you do it and take it from there. If you really feel the urge a lot just block it for now, at least for a few days to a week is my suggestion.

It's natural curiosity to want to see what your ex is up to in the beginning - to a point. However, if it's become an obsession, then you are heading into dangerous territory. It's best to keep your distance or else you can easily fall into a 'stalker' mode - which is not healthy for you or the person you're 'monitoring'.

It is okay,that means that you are concerned about him.If you really can't stop you should just become with him again.

No, this is not okay. You are only preventing yourself from moving on. Sometimes distance is needed to gain closure in a relationship.

Monitoring is fine, spying is not. If you feel you've crossed the line then you already have the answer to your question.

I have done this. But only to a certain amount. You can't get too carried away with it because you will never fully move on watching then move on.

I believe that it's natural that you still have curiosity about how he/she is doing in life. "Social Media" just made it easier nowadays. After breakups, different couples experience different things. Some get over it pretty quickly, some can leave years of lasting impressions. If I were you I'd do a self-reflection and see why it is that I keep coming back to his/her social media and question yourself, is that really who you want to be? For example, some people can't get over the fact that their significant other is doing much better than they are and by monitoring social media they know that their SO is happy with their new life and it crushes them. In this case, why would you do this to yourself? You also deserve to not be burden by the heartbreak. But if it's, for example, you want to know that he/she is doing fine in life and that you're happy to know that the breakup was not as devastating for him/her, then is that not a positive thing to do? :) Good luck with this, mate :)