Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?

Ultimately the decision is yours whether or not you want to disclose that with your boyfriend. It also depends on your relationship with your boyfriend, what values you have in relationship, and what you want in a relationship overall. Did you agree to not cheat on each other? Did you agree to tell each other if the other cheated? Did you agree on complete honesty in your relationship together? You may have not talked about these things, but answering these questions is helpful in making a decision. It also of course depends on if you want to stay with said boyfriend or not. Clear, honest, healthy communication is so vital in healthy relationships. If you tell him, perhaps his response will not be as bad as you think. He may be happy you told him because you were honest and you two can work through it. If you don't tell him, the secret could eat away at you and put a barrier between you and your boyfriend that wasn't there before. These are some of the positives on the side of telling, as an example, but I suggest you weigh the pros and cons/positives and negatives, and see which decision would be best for you. Best of luck.

Yes, if I were you I would definitely tell my bf that I cheated on him, no matter the excuse. Because to me, being in a relationship means being honest with that people, and I would feel so bad already that I cheated on him, so the least I could do is also being honest about it to him. I also know that I could face the fact that he might leave me, but that is his decision, I was the one who did him wrong. You can also think about it this way, by you not telling him, you live with a secret that would bother you so much, you will keep thinking about it, you will be afraid that he would find out one day, so why not just come clean??

Yes you should be open and honest about it. So that you feel at peace (otherwise it will always bother you that you are hiding something from him and he might also come to know about it from somewhere else) and he also needs to be aware about it. Both can choose and discuss what is required to be done NEXT, talk about what went wrong or why it happened? And if possible work through it or walk away from it if required. Ultimately it about both of you that makes up this relationship so both have the right to know what is going on and why things are the way they are.

Yes. You already betrayed his trust once, it isn't fair for you to do it again. I think that keeping that from him because you want to be with him is selfish. You should give him the chance to decide whether or not he wants to be with you. If you want to be with him and he wants to be with you too, brace yourself because coming back from infidelity is difficult. You both have to put in work, especially you. If he doesn't want to be with you, that's fair too. Respect his decision and go your separate ways. Remember that either way, you should eventually forgive yourself. You did cheat, but no one deserves self-loathing to a point of destruction. This should be an experience of growth.

Well honesty is always great, depending on the situation can cause more harm than actually do good. My sponsor when I became sober told me to tell him that I was sorry I wasn't the partner that he deserved, she also told me amends can be done without full disclosure, because it was no need to harm him beyond what I had done already and I should spare him of the details. After my amends were done I choose to live a honest life with dignity and pride once alcohol was what induce me to act in a certain way.

I can see that you currently are debating whether to tell your boyfriend or not about cheating on him. That seems a bit nerve-wracking and stressful! I am here to listen and cannot provide advice but will try my best to help you find the right answer for you. Some questions you can think about are: Why do you want to tell him? What will happen if you tell him or if you do not tell him? If you do decide to tell him you are welcome to practice with me to try to make it a bit less stressful and easier on you.

I believe that you should. You made a mistake and everyone does, but owning up to that does not just help your boyfriend or the relationship, it also helps you grow into a better person by being responsible. You made a mistake and that's okay, owning up to it shows maturity. Also take a moment to try to think of why it happened. Was there something that lacked in the relationship? Were any of you unhappy? Was it time for it to end? These are questions that you should now take into consideration when you are thinking about what led to it, and what you would want from a future partner.

It is impossible to state a universal answer to this question that will work for all situations. Some things to consider, however, are as follows: 1. Will telling your boyfriend create an unsafe environment for you? Will he react in a manner that may put you in danger? 2. Have you always been open and honest with no instances of retaliation or judgment? 3. Do you feel telling your boyfriend will have a positive/negative impact on your long-term relationship? There are many other things you should consider before proceeding. Once you feel you are ready to open up about the topic of cheating, ensure you have some supporters to lean on in case the discussion does not go as planned, or even if you are unsure about what to say in order to help manage the situation. Only you can know how to approach this situation, and I know you will follow your heart and make the best decision that you are able to make when the time comes.

Yes, you should. That's the short answer, but to elaborate: cheating is harmful, mostly to the other person. It's something you've done wrong, and if you know that, you need to acknowledge your mistake on your part by telling your boyfriend. Yes, I know, easier said than done especially because cheating isn't something small. It will damage and change your relationship, whether you tell him or whether you don't. When I tell you, he will find out sooner or later, either from you or not from you, he will. By telling him, yes he might choose to break up with you, or he might try to forgive you, but he won't forget. It really depends on how it happened and the situation around it, but there is no excuse for cheating. I am aware that I sound harsh, but telling him sincerely and earnestly will be the best way to go. Admit that you're wrong, you're human, and of course, respect to him and to yourself by telling him.

Yes, you absolutely should. I assume you still care for him if you're conflicted about whether or not you should tell him, so yes, please do tell him. He deserves to know the truth. Don't keep him in the dark, as it will only lead to more hurt, and more of a mess in the end. You may be scared of what will happen if you do so, but it will be for the best. He doesn't need to keep believing a lie, and you don't need to keep feeling guilty. Tell him. It is the best way to move forward.