Should I go back to him/her?

It depends. When you guys were together first, did they treat you properly? Be honest to yourself. Do they truly deserve a second chance? That's the first thing to consider. Next, in the time you were apart from them, did you find yourself? Do you love yourself and your own company? I think it's very important to be in love with yourself before you can be in a relationship with someone. Overall, I think if you are mentally in the right space to be in a relationship again, if your ex and you had a good relationship when you guys were together, if they treated you well, and if you truly still like them, then it could be an option worth considering. This may not be the situation usually so always be careful before going back. It really depends on the situation though.

You should ask yourself do you actually want them and genuinely enjoy it when they're in your life or are you just scared of being lonely or don't wanna let them down. We should only be with people who are good for our mental health, who make us feel seen and heard, who help us grow. And above all that the decision has to completely do with how you feel about them than how they feel about you or what would other people think. If all of the answers to the above questions point to yes then you should definitely go back to them. Also, it's important to reflect on the reason why you broke up in the first place, if it was a compatibility issue then I doubt it'll be any different this time but if it was something else, you should communicate with them and make sure it's solved before you take a step forward.

that is up to you. you have to be honest with yourself and look at the in's & outs of your relationship and really truly decide if that is what you want to continue with. not all relationships are bad, and not all people who break up with you are bad people. sometimes that is what they think they want in that moment, only to find out they want to get back with you later on. if you truly believe that your ex is a good person and that he/she has changed (as well as you), and you are both in a place to work on the relationship, then i don't see why not.

What do you feel you should do? If you are questioning whether to go back for someone, it may imply you still have feelings for them, or that you still see some good in the relationship. It's important to consider those feelings, if they're there. However, it's also important to look at the hard topics too, like the reasons you aren't currently with them, or the reasons you might not think it's right to go back. Ultimately, you and this other person are the only two people who can say whether or not you two should be together again.

It really depends on your situation. Only you know things that have happened, and why you truly want to go back. Some questions you can ask yourself are: What happened to cause us to break up before? Did it not agree with my morals? Has he/she respected me in the past? If they treated you in a toxic way, going back isn't the best idea. But if you think they care and would take you back. Go for it! They would be lucky to have you. And no matter what choice you make, it would be the right one because you are wise and know yourself.

Thank you for reaching out! The best way to figure this all out is to make a chart or take note of all the good and bad in the relationship. Reviewing as well as reflecting on that chart can give you space to think carefully and avoid rushing into decisions. Having a clear picture can help in processing and evaluating the relationship better. Sometimes reflecting on the chart with someone outside the relationship, like a best friend/ friend or parent, can also help because of another set of ears. Communication with people you are close to in your life can offer a new perspective in understanding the reasons things ended or figure out a better way to handle the relationship if you personally decide to take this person back. Talking about this process with a partner can be helpful as well. Through honest communication you both get to have a self-awareness of what you both expect and want from relationships in general and where you stand with each other. Relate is an example of an organisation supporting individuals in relationship issues whether they be going through break-ups, cheating and wanting to reconcile relationships. You are welcome to reach out to any of our amazing listeners on our site or any therapists on our site for a listening ear. For further support there is a Relationship Support Room on our site which is open 24/7 every Thursday if you are looking for a space to communicate what you are going through with people who can relate to you. You have all the power to make your decision with whether or not you want to reconcile your relationship with him/her.

Think about how you are feeling. How would it feel if you didn't go back to them? What does that thought make you feel? What are some reasons you wouldn't go back to them? Are these reasons positive? What are some reasons you would go back to them? How does that make you feel? Are these reasons positive? Where do you want to be in your life in 2 years? Will you get there with them? What would be the most difficult part if you went back to them? What would be the most difficult part if you did not go back to them?

You should if that's what your heart tells you to. Going back to a person after a break up is a really hard and really brave choice. It means that you are strong enough to try love again after being hurt or whatever reason it is. If you feel that you dont want to lose that person, go back and try to work your relationship. Love is sweeter the second time around, right?There is no right answer to this question. Not from other people. Do you love them? Why did you leave them? Can you trust them? Did you enjoy being with them? If the answer to any one of these is 'no' then you've answered your own question

When weighing pros and cons it helps to get clear. Some tools you can use include a guided mindfulness exercise that focuses on relationships. Another is the tried and true pros and cons list. Creative visualization also helps - what would my life be like without this relationship? What would my life be like being in this relationship? Understanding the expectations within the relationship as well as the reasons for its beginning and ending promote clarity. What was your role? What did you enjoy? Journal. Ask friends and family. Seek out support on 7cups. The honest answers are floating around in your mind just waiting to be unearthed. Lead with love and compassion, be honest, be authentic, be you!

You know what your relationship was like, and you must know how and why it ended. You also know what kind of partner they were, and who they were. I've been through breakups where I contemplate going back, because when I was feeling loss, all I could imagine was the good times. I still care about them a lot, but I try to remember the reasons the relationship ended. I know they are valid reasons, so I don't want to go back. Even if they change and I am more compatible with them, I just tell myself "Hey, at least they'll be happier with their next partner!" Sometimes I feel like being selfish and staying with them if we ever become compatible as a couple, but at the same time I contemplate if I want to go back or uncover a new chapter where I find someone else. I could also not find anyone at all, it's just important that I'm content with where I am in my life. My happiness shouldn't rely on them, no matter how much I love or care for them. So, try to think of why the relationship ended, and if you really want to try it out again. If you think it'll work well, go ahead! It could be good for the two of you.