My partner is using me, should I break up with my partner?
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Moderated by Danielle Johnson, MSED, Community mental Health Counseling, LMHC
Updated: Nov 2, 2021
Anonymous
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Mar 1, 2016
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Yes, if he is using you, you don't need someone like that in your life! You want someone who is going to love you and show you that he cares about you rather than using you for something.
Smilekid0808
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Mar 21, 2016
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I want to start by saying this: Every single person deserves to be treated with love, respect, and dignity. Using someone is NOT treating them with love, respect, or dignity, and therefor it is not ok. However, your feelings, while 100% valid, may not be completely clear or understood by your partner. It is possible that they do not realize how their behavior is affecting you. If you feel used, I would recommend being upfront with your partner about how you feel. Tell them specifically what it is that they do that makes you feel used. Be open and honest about how their actions make you feel, and why that is a problem. If they are willing to make a change, and you feel that the relationship is worth a second chance, give them that second chance. But if they are not willing to recognize the flaws in their behavior and make the necessary changes, then the best thing to do is walk away. You deserve better.
serenekindness66
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Jun 7, 2016
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Yes and no. If it's something that you can fix: bring it up and address the problem with your partner. It it's not, break up and find someone who will treat you better.
Anonymous
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Jun 13, 2016
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Yes. It is never okay to be used. No matter how many good times you guys have if he dosnt really care or you then it is pointless pain
Laks1
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Aug 2, 2016
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First of all, you need to let your partner know how you feel. You need to tell him/her that you think he/she is using you. Sometimes people don't realize what they are actually doing until they are told. So you can take your decision due to his/her reaction after tell him/her how you feel.
Anonymous
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Aug 30, 2016
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speak to him about the problem? and if that solves nothing.. do as you wish.. but always give yourself better ok ?
cosyheart21
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Oct 17, 2016
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At the end of the day, you have to do what is best for you. And if you're being used, that is not what is best for you. You deserve nothing less than love and respect from a partner, so do not settle for anything less :)
Bosque
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Jun 20, 2017
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If someone uses you and doesn't care about your feelings, does it worth it to have a partner like this?
benevolentBlanket61
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Jul 3, 2017
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If the love isn't mutual, yes I'd break up with my partner. It would be difficult to make things work if the relationship is one sided.
LJSharp
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Nov 20, 2017
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You should break up with your partner if you feel that is the right thing to do. Always remember, there is someone out there for everyone. It just may take a long time to find them, so don't rush into anything.
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