My partner and I keep breaking up and getting back together again. I don't know what to do any more.

Before you guys get together again, both of you need to know and figure out why does your relationship keep on falling apart whenever you patch things up. I believe that the first thing you guys need to answer

Relationships are hard and need lots of work and patience a work in progress and learning to except each other as individuals

You have to decide if the reasons you are getting back together are more important then the reasons you are splitting up. If it is a some one that you truly love and believe is worth trying for then do not give up on them. But if it is harmful to you on an emotional level then maybe it's best to decide to give it up.

set an ultimatum with each other that you are going to either make it work this time or be done all together

I came here because I'm in the same situation and I was looking for some extra motivation to move on-because I know that's what's best for both of our mental stability-but instead I found myself wanting to share my two-cents. I believe you both may be struggling with separation anxiety due to co-dependency or unhealthy attachment to one another. Both co-dependency and attachment disguise itself as Love. You may feel like you love the person and don't want to be without them, but that's just fear taking over and keeping you from moving on. Break-Ups are very tough and we all naturally want a return on our time, emotions and finances that we invested into this dysfunction we think is love. But believe you me, it's over and there's nothing to repair not any possibility of it ever being what you really wanted it to be. Move on hunny, you'll thank yourself late.

You have to stop and evaluate the relationship to see if it's healthy for you mentally, physically and emotionally. There's obviously love in your heart to keep going back but sometimes the best things to do for ourselves are the hardest things to do. If the relationship has not been healthy, the best thing to do is to leave. I believe we all deserve to be happy in all relationships and should never feel like we can't be at our best. Keep your head up.

I've been in that position. The best thing to do is take time for yourself, work on yourself and try to stay away from there for a bit. I find when people break up that many times its obviously for a reason and you need to both move on.

I guess that your time to stay strong has come. It can't always be on and off again and again and its pretty obvious that something needs to be done. Usually relationships that were damaged by breakups are hard to repair. Partners become less of a friends but of a competitors, trying to prove their opinion. So you should both stop causing pain to each other and have a last talk when you will explain everything you feel.

You need to seat down with your partner and discuss the cause of the break up, you have to end the foundation of this break up by discussing what is the reason behind why you can't be in a happily relationship. Find a nice romantic place and surprise him/her, then seat and sincerely talk of what is the problem. let everything on the table!

I've personally been in this situation. You fight and take it to the extreme where you break up and then you start to wonder why you took it so serious & get back together. This isn't healthy and I've learned that from experience. You need to put your happiness first always, always, always. If the fighting and arguing is to the point where you have to break up I strongly suggest you sit down & have a serious talk with your partner, if you don't do it now then when will you?