My partner and I keep breaking up and getting back together again. I don't know what to do any more.

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Anonymous on Jan 2, 2016

I think that you should look at the reasons why you're always breaking up with each other. If it's because of constant fighting or cheating on each other, I suggest you break up completely. Love isn't supposed to be all sunshine and rainbows, but  it's not supposed to be tornadoes either. And breaking up with someone you're in love with is hard but it may just lead to better things

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foreveralistener on Jan 3, 2016

Well, you guys have to talk it trough, talk about the things you both do not like about each other, discuss things in a polite manner and do not get angry

chamomilewizard on Jan 6, 2016

I think the two of you need to sit down and discuss what you both want from this relationship. In order to have a proper relationship, having similar values is key. Talking together as a unit promotes understanding and insight.

musicalDew34 on Jan 7, 2016

These are normal things in relationship these days which means you both love eachother but dont get along and still you wqnt to be together

comfortingLioness25 on Jan 13, 2016

That must be quite frustrating. Have you tried sitting down with your partner to discuss the issue in an open and frank way?

Piercingtheveil on Jan 16, 2016

Could you may tell me more about it? Whats the reason why you both break up?                         

Zellav on Jan 17, 2016

Find the reason for the frequent breakups and attempt to resolve it. If the issue cannot be solved/and or may be re-occurring, end the relationship. A relationship should make you happy, not stressed.

Anonymous on Jan 21, 2016

Maybe you could talk to him about why you both keep breaking up. That might help to build a stronger relationship so that you both know what each other expects from the relationship.

ReniK on Jan 23, 2016

Ask yourself do you actually love/like him or you are with him just because you are used to it. If you do love /like him then go and talk to him and sort things out. 

Anonymous on Jan 27, 2016

find what is the reason. Once you find what is the cause of the break up try to see if that can be worked out. Also talking to your partner on how you feeling and see how they feeling about the relationship.