My long-term boyfriend told me that my mental health has affected him and he just wants to be friends as though nothing more ever happened. This really hurts me. What should I do?

You should decide for yourself , what you want. If you can be his friend and totally happy then become his friend. If you think that by becoming his friend you will continuously think about your old relationship status and the moments and that will make you sad, then you should cut him off. This is not a selfish step. He took a step for his well being and now it's your turn to take care of yourself. And believe me if you are thinking you won't be over your relation and love happens only one , then please see you will be fine in few days and its not true that love happens only once. So think of your well being and be selfish in taking care of yourself.

I think it's time to let go. Be his friend. Good friends are hard to come by. Not everyone can handle everything about their partner, and he is telling clearly that your mental health is affecting him. I like the way he is being upfront and honest. I think he will make a good friend. Of course you will be the heartbreak of it, so find ways to cope, healthy ways. Exercise, hobbies, studies, and focus on yourself. You never know what the future may bring. It may bring you a partner that can cope better than the partner you are letting go of...Good luck!

I can understand why you feel hurt. Something to keep in mind is you should come before anyone else. Take care of yourself and your mental health. With that being said still take is feelings into consideration. Maybe let him know that you respect his feelings but you are still hurt by what he has said. You should do what’s best for you and I would say leave him and focus on your mental health. You are going to be hurt for a while but once you over come what you are going through you will feel really good. I’m sorry you are going through this and i hope this helps!! Stay positive!

Maybe he's trying to do the best for you. he's trying to get you to focus on yourself and to make sure that your well-being comes first before your relationship. So if I were you I wouldn't let it hurt you I would think of it more as he really cares about you, And that he wants you to be all right.

First of all, sorry you're having to go through this. It's a horrible thing to hear that you're negatively affecting someone's life and thus they don't want to be with you anymore! I imagine that leaves you feeling abandoned and unlovable. I think it's important to think about what you want to say, get all your thoughts on paper, write him a letter or verbally say them all to him. Think about what you'd say if it was the last time you ever spoke to him. Once that's done, leave the ball in his court and respect his decision, and then focus on yourself. What can you do to help yourself? You deserve a therapist if you can afford one, you deserve to focus on your problems. Above all you deserve to be happy and healthy!

You must have been hit in the feels with a statement like this and your grief is totally normal. Now you are left with two choices: the first one is to accept the situation he offers and the second is to decide to go for good. If he has been talking about the impact of your mental health on him for quite a while, chances are his reasons are valid and you might be better off to accept his friendship. If this mental health question was never mentioned before, he may be trying to sever his romantic relationship with you in order to become available again. If you feel that is the case, you are better off severing all ties with him. Either way, you will have to bite the bullet and one hopes you will find the support you need until the hurt goes away.

From my own personal experience, it is important to put your own needs first, and staying friends with someone despite it hurting me never worked in my favor. At these times it is important to channel your energy into improving your mental health in any way that you can. A good way to make sense of where to start is to ask how your mental state has been affecting your boyfriend. This has helped me figure out what exactly I do that influences other people negatively. At times of mental instability, it goes a long way to concentrate on making yourself better, because I have learned that I can't reciprocate love and care when I am not feeling my best.

Well, as a boyfriend he should have tried to listen to you, at least tried to make you feel better. I understand he might feel scared about himself that maybe he avoids conversations on mental health issues because there is some underlying insecurities he might have related to his mental health that he thinks will come out. These things can be really minor, like maybe he is an over thinker or feels a lot of anxiety. So, maybe he runs away from mental health conversations. This can be a possibility. But again, it is just an assumption. Even then, he should have tried to help you or listen to you at least. If he did not, then i think you should leave him immediately because believe me a role of a bf is to be there for his girl, or at least try to, even if it's a bit. If he did not try at all to make you feel better, please leave him. You deserve a lot better and you shall fin better. Believe me. It will happen when you least expect it. Also, if he tried to help, and still wants to leave, then even then, let him go. Just smile and wave goodbye. Understand that he does not wanna be a part of your journey anymore and you can do it yourself. We all are capable of healing each other. There could be any reason. Maybe he himself is not sure. Maybe it is an inner feeling due to past experiences with his exes having similar issues and the relationship being bitter. It could be anything. Either way, be strong and let him go.

Try to understand his mental state and be supportive to him. Instead provide him with a comfort zone to make him feel good and let him vent out his feelings. Understanding your partner is really important and providing them with proper comfort zone and right mindset . Also dont blame yourself with all this anf understand his mental health phase . If you blame yourself you will end up loosing your own mental health at last and creating a more problematic scenario with no solution. At last work on yourself and let go off . Letting go is the best therapy

Though I'm not in your direct circumstances and don't want to give the wrong advice, in my personal experience I would reccommend respecting what your boyfriend wants, though he may love you and care about you he may not be able to handle your emotional needs anymore without hurting his own. Sometimes people can find it too difficult to handle another's mental health upon their own. Unfortunately I understand how you feel, it can be really hurtful for such a strong relationship to go down because a partner can no longer support you. Just respect what he says but understand your feelings with this are also valid.