My long-term boyfriend told me that my mental health has affected him and he just wants to be friends as though nothing more ever happened. This really hurts me. What should I do?

I understand that you are hurt. No relationship is easy, but if he feels a certain way you should listen to him. It was hurtful I am sure to be told "nothing ever happened", and I think that was inconsiderate of your feelings. I would try maybe talking to him how that hurt you. Feel free to reach out to me personally, I understand am here to help with compassion and guide you to the best of my abilities.

Take this time to focus on managing your mental health and finding love for yourself. Become the best version of yourself. Focusing on someone else and their view or love for you is only a distraction to your overall goal of controlling your life. I am sure that you love him and you can see how this may be a lot for him to comprehend, but if it meant to be then it will happen with time and effort. Be selfish and only worry about you and what is best for you. If that leads to you two getting back together, great!! If not, then you have the best version of yourself to give to another guy who can love you, and grow with you more than you could imagine.

Talk to hik about him this has made you feel. And if he doesn't care don't be his friend. He needs to understand your mental health is not something you can easily change, and if he doesn't get that he isn't the right person for you. I'm sure you can find someone else, and they will be completely accepting of your mental health, what ever it may be. A partner should completely accept you. He can't decide that your mental health is "too much" or act like you can change it for him. If he doesn't understand that's his problem. So -Divina

You should address it calmly let him know that it hurt you let him know that you are willing to be friends, but you'll never be able to pretend like nothing happened because he was apart of your life and that hard to forget just like that. then you should take care of yourself hold your head high and never forget that you are beautiful and he was something you had to go through to get to the person you will meet in the future that will love you and help you with your mental health problems and know that even though it's going to hurt you have to keep going don't let him see how much it has hurt you because you are amazing and we as girls have girl power

It's difficult to accept that your boyfriend isn't supportive of your struggles with mental health. Struggling with mental health isn't the easiest thing to deal with. Maybe you should be friends with him & focus on yourself for the time being. Take a new hobby like drawing, writing poetry, or cooking. Take the energy to focus on you and ask yourself how you want to improve. Create goals such as travelling around the world, meeting new people, getting a therapist to help you with your mental health issues, or learning a new language to meet new people. Those are some ideas that I have.

I had similar thing with my boyfriend a few years ago. I tried everything to get him back because that's all I wanted I even pretended I was fine. But he saw through that. It wasn't until I looked at myself and I thought about what I was going and how I could go through things. I realised I actually did need help. So I went and got help took a long time but i started to sort myself out. Then me and the boy started talking again became friend and eventually got back together. You have to do things for yourself not to win someone round. Might take months or years but if your meant to be together you will be.

I myself would ask him why he wants to be just friends, what in your mental health affected him and how. I think the most important thing in this is that you two talk it all through, so both of you are on the same so-called level. This way, you two have an understanding of how you two feel. And, do not forget to tell him how this makes you feel. I think you should always tell the other person how you feel if they have hurt you by words or actions. Speaking up of problems helps a lot. After all of this, you can both re-evaluate whether you want to truly stay as friends, or continue being girlfriend and boyfriend.

It's understandable how this can really hurt you and how it can make you feel unwanted and unloved. However, it is good that he was so open and honest about it. He says he feels affected by your mental health, so he would like to just be friends. It's a simple reaction to take care of himself. And that is normal. It will hurt a lot, but you should respect his decision. Is there anything positive you can take from this? You'll have more time to focus on yourself. You can learn how to be happy on your own and how to accept yourself outside of this relationship. You can learn not to be dependent on him or any other boyfriend that might come along. It will be difficult and it will hurt a lot, but maybe you can see this also as a chance for personal growth.

talk to him about. tell him how this makes you feel and maybe even talk to your parents about it. they might be able to help you. if you dont feel better after that then try to get out and do things. distractions are an easy way to forgive and forget. im not giving adivse im just telling you from personal experience what i have done when this has happened to me. break ups are hard, they are even harder when you feel like they are your fault. it is not your fault though it is his because he cant handle something that is hard to deal with. he just isnt the right guy for you.

Look words can hurt, but you should go talk to someone like your parents, teachers or friends because I have never been in your shows and don’t know, but don’t always listen to people have your own personality don’t let one boy ruin your confidence you have on yourself, and always know love is all about how much can you handle each other no matter what you have he must take care of you and still be together this is what true love really is but if you also think it might not work then go ahead no one is stopping you but keep in mind, you are the best!