My boyfriend told me he hooked up with someone else when we were on a break.

It is not indeed a world end. If you both are sure that you love each other truly- there is no need to be afraid or angry. Also it represents the fact that he can’t be with someone else, because he tried and it didn’t work out so he wanted you (the one who he truly desires) again. Some people (maybe your boyfriend too) are too scared or lazy to work on problems so they just decide to eliminate them- like in your situation you had problems you decided to take a break and he decided to try and move on with someone new that he would have no problems with. (It doesn’t work like that and he understood it) So I’ve been in this kind of situation but I was “the boyfriend”. We got back together because I just knew I loved him and wanted him. Initially we broke up because we were just toxic for each other, but love does that sometimes, bringing parts of you even you didn’t knew were there. Talk, observe and find the best decision for both of you!

This can definitely be a cause of less trust, which is fundamental when you're giving the relationship a second chance. However, it may also present an opportunity. Once you have made peace with your own emotions about it, telling him about them might help him to understand you better. The other way around works too. If you feel you can handle it, ask him why he did it in a non-judgmental way. This way you can learn what he finds important (sex, fear of being alone, female attention...?). Most importantly, always keep in mind that it happened in the past and although it can teach you a lot, it shouldn't matter if you have both decided to give it a second chance.

This is often a debate because the person who hooked up with someone else will often play the "but we were on a break" card. When couples choose to take a break, it is usually a time to reflect on things. What went wrong? What can you both do to better the relationship? Also, focus on yourselves. There's obviously something that went wrong. It's not a time to go around and hook up with other people because it will magically make you realize that you actually really love that person. Hooking up while you and your partner are on a break is a choice.

I personally went through this and yes it's painful but you will make it through you are strong and you are not alone! We are all here for you. Maybe try and talk to him about how you feel and let him know how hurt you feel. I know that's hard but you can do it and you will make it through this please feel free to connect with me or anyone else here we are all here for you and are all willing to help any way possible. Stay strong and we are all here any time you need.

It's up to you on what you want to do. It sounds like you may want to talk to the boyfriend to see what the boyfriend says. You can talk to your parents and other support systems to make sense of the situation also. If you choose to break up with the boyfriend, you're perfectly justified. Think of this situation as something that occured before things got more serious, like marriage for examples. It could be a red flag permitting you to take a breather. You can choose to leave. If you choose to stay, I won't shame you for that. However, if a person cheats once, they may possibly do the same in the future. Please be careful if you choose to stay. Weigh out the pros and cons. I wish you the best of luck.

It sounds like this really hurt you to know, and while he was right to be honest with you, it might be a good idea to re-evaluate your relationship. Most importantly, it's ok if this is a deal breaker for you. He can be great and amazing as a person, but it sounds like you guys just may not be working out, be it due to communication issues, personal baggage, or life circumstances. And while some couples can come out of a break and make things work with time and dedication, sometimes that doesn't happen, it's ok to walk away if that is what you need.

It sounds like you feel a little betrayed and the situation can feel quite painful. Often times when people go on breaks we might hope that they don’t really move on to someone else or mess around, and perhaps stay loyal to us instead even if we are taking a little time apart. Do you think you could personally forgive him and maybe between the two work it out? Or does it feel like deep down it kind of hurt you a little too much to keep continuing the relationship. Take time to think about what you might want to do, perhaps talking to him and being honest about your feelings and seeing how he responds. Even though he didn’t try to hide it and told you the truth it doesn’t mean it’s any easier to receive the news, it can still be quite difficult to process. But just remember that you are worthy and have a little time for self-love, don’t let his actions make you feel any less valuable, take a little me time and see what you feel is the right thing to do next. Take it easy, sending you warm hugs!

Be patient - not with him, but with yourself. A quick fix is to break up and move on. However, a longer, and more challenging route is to accept that this could happen again, that you cannot control it happening again, and also that you will be in more pain if/when that happens. If you are not ready to accept this unfortunate truth, then give yourself time - and space. Take the opportunity to explore other relationships. Keep in mind, while you are exploring options, he likely will too. A much longer, and even MORE challenging path is to walk slowly - together - toward reconcillation. He'd need to make amends - both direct and living amends. That means if there were ways to make it up to you, he needs to do those things (direct amends). And it means he'd need to never, never, NEVAH do it again (living amends). While he's making amends, you'd need to have an open heart to forgive and give a fresh start to the relationship. Lots of work, but sometimes love is worth it. Go slow, but move forward.

I am sorry to hear this, I think you must be sad and upset when you hear this news, but I think you should listen to his explanation and ask if he would do this and the reasons for the solution, you can be angry but I think when you are done you should open the door to negotiate again, if you refuse to communicate then this can become very difficult or even lead to the breakdown of your relationship. If you really love your boyfriend I don't think you want to see this happen, try to take a deep breath and calm down to resolve the issue peacefully.

Wow that is tough. Sometimes honesty or coming clean helps the offender to feel better but causes a lot of insecurity for the other person. Tell me more about what you are feeling.