My boyfriend told me he hooked up with someone else when we were on a break.

Based on personal experience, I would talk to him about what and why he did it. Maybe he feels like your relationship is falling apart, or he is simply bored. If he is feeling guilty, you could work with him on forgiving him. If he is not feeling guilty or sorry, you will have to talk to him about this relationship, your expectations and your future. Maybe it's time for you to let go. Maybe this will only make you stronger. It hurts, of cause. It hurts very much, to be betrayed that way. But don't let it destroy you.

It can be a hard pill to swallow for sure. But we have to remember that not everyone has the same mentality or heart as us. A lot of times guys simply see it as a time where you both weren’t committed to each other so he could do whatever he wanted. Even if you could never imagine having the capacity to think about being with someone else.. This can be a super painful time for someone, believe me I know. The best thing you can do is communicate if this made you open your eyes to either want to be with him, and even if not. I wish you the absolute best in the future.

This kind of news will seem like a total shock when you first find out about it, but heartbreaking to deal with, especially if there was no official mutual "agreement" about avoiding hook ups with other people during said break. I can imagine how challenging the situation may be for you, how many emotions could be involved within your heart, and the potential thoughts racing through your head while dealing with this situation. Some people confront the person head-on, others choose to stay in silence to realise the occurrences, and certain individuals may want to take their time to process each emotion and current cognitive processing. It is up to you what you decide to do in the situation. Whatever decision you make, I hope it works out for you so you can heal gradually.

Oh that’s tough! I’m so sorry that happened to you. I really hope you get the support you need at this difficult point in your life. If you are wanting to stay in your relationship I hope you and your boyfriend take the right steps to having a happy and healthy relationship that is built on learning to trust each other again. I understand how it can feel like you could never trust again, and that is a perfectly valid feeling ! I hope you’re doing okay and I hope everything works out for you the way you want it to!

Talk to him but don’t get upset listen what he has to say remember he is a person too try to listen to his side of story don’t engage in hostile manner cause it will only further escalate situation and might open a rift between you too try to be caring if you can I know it is a hard and difficult task to ask of you I don’t want to risk you pushing him away that way he doesn’t feel to pressured but assert your concerns by all means but please don’t over do it it’s hard task

I’m sorry to hear that the truth is breaks are a Grey area when it comes to faithfulness in a relationship it doesn’t mean he has no love for u it just means that he may be feeling disconnected from you and looking for a connection you should discuss this with him he may have a good explanation or it could be for the best. It is hard but those feeling need to be further explored as you seem hurt closure is beneficial and important if moving on is what you want to do. I wish u the best

It sounds like a very tough situation for you. I hope you are managing yourself well right now. The manner in which it may have happened could cause a lot of stress to you. When your partner doesn't trust you and breaks the relationship after having another relationship, you can feel as if it was your fault. You can blame yourself during this time and feel sad. It is important to note that the differences and the reasons which led this to happen and not just the feelings. You need to find facts as well and not just try to find a solution to your feelings. It will certainly take time to heal. During this time you can take help from people you think who will not judge you. Take care !

The fact that he didn't waste time to sleep with another woman either means: 1) He was probably talking to this female while you were dating. or... 2) Your relationship didn't mean anything to him. I don't know if it constitutes as cheating since you were broken up, but the fact that he moved on so quickly shows you shouldn't be giving him a second chance. While he may not be cheating per se, he feels like he’s already doing the wrong thing by letting his gaze wander to someone else. If he makes you angry enough to break up with him, he figures, you get to be the bad guy and he won’t be seen as the villain for walking into someone else’s arms.

If you were no longer together at that point then he didn't technically do anything wrong. But if you feel badly about it you should communicate that feeling to him and talk through it. Problems are best solved by talking it out. If it is ignored it will not go away. It is important to see both sides and try to understand why he did what he did. Next, figure out what it means for your relationship and whether it is something you can work around. Relationships can only last with compromise on both sides so remember to listen and have an open mind!

A "break" is a strange grey area that is all too often used to cover emotional or developmental immaturity. A person who doesn't want to commit yet, but wants to be able to come back, uses a "break" to try and make an allowance for wanting something other than the relationship. My experience with this, being on both ends of it, is that it's extremely unhealthy and that either breaking up or staying together is the smarter and healthier choice. If the relationship is intolerable, a break won't solve any problems -- it's a very squishy pause button. If the relationship is good, a break isn't necessary! Taking the high road and avoiding breaks, hall passes, and off-on relationships has been the best decision in my experience.