My boyfriend told me he hooked up with someone else when we were on a break.

I once had a boyfriend hook up with someone when we were on a break too. It is hard to hear when someone you care about does something that was unexpected. Your boyfriend told you what happened during this break, do think that means more than if you found out he hid that information from you?That's a tough one. Officially, if both parties were on a break, it indicates a temporary lack of commitment. However, relationships are sticky and just because both of you were on a break does not mean that your emotions were on a break as well. In other words, I can only imagine how hurt and conflicted you must have felt upon discovering that he hooked up with someone else during this time period. Personally, I would have a lot of reservations of returning to the relationship because I would think that he doesn't miss me that much if he could hook up with some other girl like that. Even though I understand that rebounds can happen, I would still think the action to be immature and badly timed. Nevertheless, a lot of relationship decisions are based on feelings. So if you still feel like it's worth it to pursue this relationship, you should do it. Basically, do what feels right to you.

It’s important to gain closure, understand why he did it otherwise the fact that he cheated will haunt you for the rest of your life. You may be tempted to take him back, but you need to ask you whether or not he won’t do it again, and what guarantee is that if you ever take another break he won’t repeat the same thing. It’s very important to have self worth, to know that you don’t deserve to be with someone who cheats on you because you’re amazing and you truly deserve to be happy and loved 100% whether you’re on a break or not. But at the end of the day it’s all about following your heart and doing something you won’t regret. Take care

I believe that certain people have certain ways of coping with emotions and that could have been his mechanism. Personally, he was honest and you guys were not together but personally, I think that is pretty low of someone to do especially if the 'break' was just a temporary thing. Breaks are never a good idea because it might lead to wanting a break as an excuse if he was wanting to initiate the break. I recommend in the future, asking for space (if it was you) but still assuring that you guys are together until he or she figures out if they want to continue the relationship or not.

It all depends if you guys had any rules for this break, this is why it is important to establish rules and tell your expectations to your partner when you decide to take a break. If you guys did not have any rules, you have to reflect if you can forgive him, if your love can deal with that. If you decide you are not able to forgive him, I am sure you will be upset because dealing with a break up is not easy, but always remember you deserve the best, and you are worth someone who cares and loves you!

This has happened with me before, and it was practically impossible to continue our relationship after that because I believed that it was a matter of breaching trust. I'm sure you're feeling a lot of emotions right now-- take this time to reflect and consider whether or not you want to continue your relationship with your boyfriend. If you believe that what he did was wrong, it's important to discuss with him and tell him that you believed it was wrong of him to hook up with someone else while on break. Also take some time to consider whether or not you want to continue the relationship, especially if you consider how he acted to be a betrayal of trust.

i completely understand where you are coming from. In a past relationship the same thing happened multiple times. I eventually noticed it wasn’t a healthy lifestyle and i deserved better. I broke up with him to take time on myself and work on myself to understand my worth. I understand you feel as if he might’ve been your everything but trust me you can get past this!! its hard but you have people here who will listen and help you. Take some time for yourself to learn your worth. You shouldn’t put up with someone else’s mistakes just because y’all are close or he’s your significant other. It’ll be hard but it’s all worth it!

How are you feeling? I'm sure you must be frustrated and sad and maybe even a little bit angry but I am here to talk! If you are experiencing any suicidal thoughts you should call the suicide hot line. I am here for you. Youre going to be okay. How do you know he hooked up with someone else? Are they really a reliable source? How did you feel when you found out? I was angry and sad when I found out. Just know you are cared for by the 7 cups community and you will be okay love!

This is a difficult question to answer, unfortunately because it can be an often occurrence in relationships, especially ones that are new or you are younger. What you need to ask yourself is- why were you on break? Was it his decision or yours to go on break? How long have you been together and has he ever done this before? Evaluate the situation thinking about your own interests in mind. When someone "Cheats" whether on "break" or not, it hurts and it is not right. If you both initiated the break, weren't together for very long, you aren't happy in the relationship to begin with or you were having issues prior to the break, then I think you should walk away. The best thing is to discuss this with your boyfriend on a serious level and determine how much you trust him. Right now your trust level is probably pretty low but use your instincts. If something is telling you that what he did was wrong and he broke trust- then you need to look out for yourself. If you yourself wanted the break and are looking to date others, then maybe you can talk it through and work it out. Always establish boundaries though. If you decide to give him another chance, if it happens again, then breakup. It will be hard but you must keep your own self in mind. Also, did he lie about the hookup or did he admit it to you straight out? Was this a one time thing? Sometimes younger people in their late teens and in college, tend to want to explore their options. They are not ready for a serious relationship. Also, did you hook up with someone or think about it yourself before? If so, maybe you aren't ready for a relationship either. Often in college, Sometimes at a party after one too many drinks or feeling attracted to someone is not necessarily a bad thing. If you or he in this case, regrets it and feels horrible about it afterward, then maybe the relationship can work. If it is this kind of situation, then reconsider and talk to him about it. HOWEVER, if your intuition is saying not to trust him overall, his behavior and the way he treats you, and you have been together a long time or your past your college experimental days, then you must decide for yourself if this relationship is worth continuing. Break up with him if you do not trust his behavior, you think he's lying to you, or it's happened more than once. If you are not sure what to do, give it some space and do not talk to him. If he wants to be with you and is truly sorry and it was a one time thing, he will come back to you and you will know it was a mistake by the way he treats you. But always consider how you feel. Respect yourself always first and foremost. If you are unhappy in the relationship and he is acting like a "player," or lying to you about things, then leave the relationship permanently.

And? It was a break meaning to most people that you are free to live life with out consideration for each other, unless you went so far as to prescribe some list of boundaries that applied while on that break. If he violated those, then that needs to be dealt with on your part to decide what that means to you. If there were no boundaries established then he did what he did and it had nothing to do with you, personally, and he could (and perhaps should) have not told you, as it really wasn’t any of your business. The question is, why did he tell you? That is another conversation entirely.

This all depends on how the individual feels about the situation. Most of the time, one partner will feel sad and angry. My suggestion is to leave them immediately, they are not worth waiting for. If you both are on a break, then that should mean both of you guys should have had time for yourselves not to have a break and have times with other people. It is better if the partner just leaves and finds someone better. We do not need people who are going to pull us down. You need someone who will wait for you the same amount of time you wait for them.