My boyfriend told me he hooked up with someone else when we were on a break.

Listen with your heart on what your next step is going to be with him. You decide on how you should take that information and act on it. Its all up to how you feel. But talking is key. Talk to your boyfriend and ask questions. Also think about why you were on a break in the first place and what place you are in now. Will anything change? Or is it to late? Think more with your heart then your head. More importantly trust yourself and do what makes you happy. Its your life to live to the fullest

And that makes you feel angry or not cared about? Was this break fully explained with strict rules? Were there guidelines and boundaries set or was it just an I need space situation? If something was set and he didn't abide by them I would be upset. If there wasn't any he might haven misunderstood and took it as a breakup. Have you asked him exactly what he thought the break meant? This may just be a horrible miscommunication that you can work through, if that's what you would like to do. Talk things completely through before making a decision.

Often in such times, we feel like being rebellious just for the sake of rebellion. We act rashly out of impulse, against our better judgement. While on the break, your boyfriend perhaps felt the need to explore his "freedom" as it were. It's not the best way to do it, but it is somewhat understandable. However, I understand how it's exceedingly difficult to come to terms with. But it is unlikely he meant anything serious by it, either against you, or towards the person he hooked up with. It was about him, trying to work out how he feels and acts in this new scenario. What you need to decide is whether you're willing to forgive this lapse in judgement and see it for what it most likely is: rebellion for the sake of rebellion. It won't be easy, and it'll take you time, and it may hurt so you need to decide if the relationship is worth it. Think about the reasons you were on a break. Was it because it was getting too painful for either of you? Or just a temporary time away, to give each other space. Consider all this, and keep it in mind when deciding how you want to proceed.

I have had the same experience, and honestly, it made me very upset because I thought that was the only reason he wanted to go on break in the first place. I didn't know how to react to the situation simply because I was so hurt. He tried to explain that he didn't plan for all of that to happen but I found it very hard to believe him. I did not even want to look at him, because if he was lying to me it would only hurt more if he was doing it to my face. He and I went from just having a break to completely breaking off the entire relationship.

Your boyfriend was not your "boyfriend" when you guys were on a break. He had a separate life- a life which you weren't a part of and that means that he was free to date with whoever he wanted to or sleep with whomever he wanted to. That does not in any way mean that he cheated on you. You guys were on a break. You were separate and that means you both were single and had the freedom to act like you were not in a relationship because you weren't. It doesn't matter what your boyfriend did when you guys weren't together. It only matters what you guys do when you're together

Okay, assuming this bothers you... we must first realize that our definition of a break might be different to someone else. Did you two establish what this break were to mean? If you did not, you have to think about him at least telling you that he did something with someone else. This might be a deal breaker for you, but you must consider all the options before giving a final decision. Sometimes people just make mistakes, we are only human. Maybe write a list of the pros and cons of the situation, and sit and talk with him about each. Good luck.

I've been through this as well. It's up to you if you think he deserves forgiveness. Restate the terms of the break to yourself, Was he aware of them? Does he regret what he did? Was there any emotion behind his mistake? What was his reason for making the mistake? You can ask yourself these questions or you can sit and ask him, either way communication is key and people make mistakes. We are all human at the end of the day. He was also honest about his mistake so this is something to consider, in a situation like this controlling your emotions will be hard but it is necessary so that you won't make bias decisions. You will be angry, hurt, jealous even disappointed and these emotions can often cloud your judgement and affect your long term decisions. If you still feel strongly about the situation wait awhile until you feel you're ready to sit and discuss it.

Hi, hope you're well. This is alarming but it honestly depends on what the "break" meant to the both of you. If it was a breakup, maybe it's okay then. But if it was a short lapse of distance to figure out things, and you both didn't really breakup, then it's not acceptable given that you both were still in a relationship. Its about boundaries. But maybe he wasn't sure about them, or they weren't determined. You should talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel. His response will help you find the answer you're looking for. Good luck to you.

First of all sorry that you had to go through that,,it must have been really hard to take in,,if he told you he hooked up my views are he is trying to come clean, could be he is having regrets that he slipped, the break might have been really bad for him, although it doesn’t justify his actions,but he’s trying to make it right, ask yourself do you love him enough to live with such information? Do you trust him that it was just a one time thing? Do you think things between you can go back to be the same as it was before with him now that you know what happed? Does he regret it and is it over between them? You were on the break, does it matter that much? Remember your worthy and its up to you to make a decision, but if you feel like you are being taken for granted and you are not happy, there is no point in staying.Love should help us Grow and not shrink Us. Goodluck,.

Accept the fact, talk about it, and move on. It is natural to get hurt. Talk it out. Starting a relationship is easy but maintaining is challenging. Many such experiences can easily ruin but true lovers understand the situation and a person. It is often a situation, not a person, to be blamed. Genuinely assess if he is the one who values you, respects you, helps you and makes you comfortable? If he is the one who helps you achieve your dream, allow space then he may be worthy for you. If he is not, then think about a relationship. Before you decide and judge him, assess whether he feels for her and what he feels about you and your relationship. Both of you discuss how do you want to nurture this relationship and how comfortable both of you are with an idea of living life together no matter what. If everything is positive, let go of his mistake. Forgive him and cherish the relationship.