My boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on me, should we break up?

First of all, a person that found himself or herself in this situation has to understand that there in no right or wrong answer to this question. You and you only can make the best decision, as no one can truly see the relationship from your perspective nor can they feel what you are feeling. After finding out this hurtful trough you should first take a step back from your relationship and reflect on what you are feeling. Without asking for any advice or making fast conclusions you should first take a break from everything and try and calm down. Think about what you would like to ask him or her. Write down all your questions and feeling. Only then you will be ready and capable of truly hearing out your partner and moving forward. After making sure you are feeling as comfortable as you can in the given situation you should engage in an open and calm conversation with your partner. This is the time when you should ask all of the questions that have been bothering you. Best questions would sound like 'what is the reason behind your action?', 'are you interested in pursuing the other relationship more than this one?', 'where do you see our relationship in the future?' and most importantly 'would you be willing to try and make things work out?'. After you get all of your answers it would be best if you could let the partner know exactly how you are feeling. Letting him or her know how you feel is very important to move forward because only then you will see if your partner can fully understand the hurt he or she has put on you and if he or she is taking the responsibility. After having this talk you should try and find out whether the person is really sorry and is taking full responsibility for his or her actions. Also do they feel like they truly want to try it again? if after answering you feel like you should give him or her another chance you are probably right. You see sometimes people make mistakes and only forgiveness can save a relationship. However be sure this is not a thing that may happen again. Also after you both have reflected on your feeling this is the best time to talk about this with your closest friends. Share your feelings, you may need their support with whatever your decision may be. Never forget that whatever he or she may say, it is never your fault. A cheater is the one who should take full responsibility. Never blame the other girl/boy for your partner's actions. They are the ones who caused the problem and the ones who should have to be blamed. Never stalk or even allow yourself to be compared with the person your partner has cheated on. It is very important to remain confident and strong and comparison will never make you any good. You are the person he or she chose to be in the first place - surely you are amazing and beautiful. Spend time with your self. allow yourself to heal and do not push yourself to hide you feelings. It is important to greet your pain and treat it well so that it doesn't become suffering and a long term problem. You can find a lot of useful information about forgiveness here: https://www.7cups.com/forgiveness/ Remember that no matter if you break up or stay together, forgiving and letting the pain go is extremely important. Stay strong, Glasbes.

The simple answer to this, is a plain yes. Cheating means that your partner did not love you enough to stay faithful to you, and that means that they're priorities are out of line and they most likely will not be committed to you from that point on.

Cheating can be caused by a number of things: problems in the relationship, desire to experiment sexually with other people, bad decision making due to intoxication or drugs etc. In my personal opinion, cheating isn't the worst thing a person can do to another person. I've been the person who's cheated in relationships and it's never been because I don't love my partner. After coming to discover myself, I've realized that monogamy isn't really my thing and I've been much happier in polyamorous relationships. Not to say that this is always the case, but it really depends on a person's intention and why they cheated more than the actual act. It's also important that your partner is open with you about what happened and that you are receptive to hearing what they have to say about it. When it comes down to it, it's ultimately your decision whether or not you continue the relationship.

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Yes, because if you keep dating him, he will think cheating is okay. That you won't mind if he hooks up with others. Break up with him and find someone who will stay loyal to your relationship.

That is souly up to you. In my opinion yes, if someone is Willing to be unfaithful to you once, it will happen again. On top of that, the trust there is broken. And no relationship will survive once trust has been broken. It doesn't matter how sorry that person is. I believe when you turly deeply care about someone, no other person matters. You aren't going to want to cheat on them. You aren't going to be worried about other people because you are to worried about how to make your partner happy in a new way.

Wait until he does it again then make the decision to leave or not.

If they cheated once, they'll do it again, it's easy for them to find a replacement for you, everyone deserves to be respected, and in my opinion, cheating is very disrespectful !

My ex-partner cheated and i stayed for the longest time. We talked about it plenty of times and he said he would never do it again. Of course, he kept cheating. The relationship was SOOOO unhealthy. Not just for me, but for him too. I finally decided to leave and i feel so much better now. I had no trust for him after he did that to me. Relationships cant be built without trust. Cheating takes away all trust.

I personally have been cheated on, and if you are or have been in the similar situation then you know it isn't a fun thing to go through. As to whether you should split should depend on the relationship. Everybody makes mistakes, right? There hasn't been a single human to make perfect decisions all the time. I think that if you truly believe that they are sorry and that it was just a poor decision made, and you really believe that they won't do it again, then maybe it won't hurt to keep going. It's going to be broken, but if the relationship is worth fixing to you, then do it. But if you have that gut feeling that it wasn't just a mistake, or that they aren't truly sorry, then don't fool yourself into staying. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. Can't get fooled again, right?