Is it normal to breakup multiple times?
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Bblovetj
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Mar 13, 2016
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It is normal, in fact I have broken up with the same person multiple times till I realized he wasn't right for me and eventually I stopped going back to him and moved on. I no longer talk to him and I now have a new boyfriend I love very much. :)
newbeginnings3
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Mar 13, 2015
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Every relationship is different, but think about why you both keep breaking up. Communication makes or breaks a relationship, any kind, and having good understanding of one another as well a s expressions of your thoughts and emotions is important. Also think if the relationship is honestly for you or not. If it is, do your best to work through your problem(s) and always talk and listen to both sides. If not, move on kindly, learn from this experience, and find someone more compatible. Good luck!
RosieBlue01
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Apr 15, 2016
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No. It is unhealthy and you should have established that there was a reason for a breakup to begin with. You shouldn't have to force a relationship.
MoonlitHaze
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Apr 29, 2016
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Is it normal? Yes. In fact I see this happen a lot, especially in younger relationships. It's hard to let go of someone you loved or had good experiences with, especially if they were the first person you've felt that way with. But chances are when people break up multiple times they get back together because they miss the feeling, and not so much the person themselves. It's not always the case though. As for me my partner and I broke up about 4 years ago and started dating again this year. Things are going very smooth but thats because we discussed the reasons the relationship didn't work out in the first place. If you don't discuss it and figure out a solution, then it will not change and you will become stuck in that cycle. Sometimes its better to move on. It really depends on how willing the people involved are willing to figure out whats making the relationship rocky in the first place.
Compassioness89
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Dec 1, 2015
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No. Either you stay with the person or you do not. There is no grey area. Even if either of you messes up, breaking up might not be the right choice and you should remain supportive and loyal to the person. Stable, that is. It is not helpful to break up over and over, because once this happens, trust can usually not be reestablished.
Anonymous
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Mar 10, 2016
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You are the one who decides what is normal. Relationships are a messy, beautiful thing. As long as you feel safe and in control, you are the only measure of what is normal for you.
Anonymous
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Jan 21, 2017
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Some couples are really passionate and go through many fights that lead to break ups. Then they go back together and enjoy the fresh feeling but it doesn't last long. So the real problems come back. So no, it is a sign of a non healthy relationship.
brilliantSoul17
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Mar 7, 2015
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There really is no way to define what is normal when it comes to relationships. One of the things that is the most important to keep in mind is whether or not that relationship is making you happy.
Anonymous
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Jan 12, 2016
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I believe that if you break up with someone and then realise you cannot live without them it is fine and healthy for the relationship. However if you're breaking up multiple times its not good for your relationship. You need to think about the reasons you're breaking up and whether you can over come them. It seems as though you are in an unstable relationship and if you want to see a future with this person in particular it seems almost impossible to do so as you don't trust one another to stay together. Assess the issues you have and maybe you can progress past them and build a strong relationship.
Anonymous
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Mar 10, 2016
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It depends upon your situation. If the relationship is toxic you should break up. But multiple break up also reflects commitment issues with a person.
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