Is it normal to breakup multiple times?
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Updated: Jan 7, 2024
MintedTea
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May 24, 2018
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That is completely normal. Lots of relationships have instances where you are still sitting on the fence because you care so much about them, yet you also think that you don't work well together. This may cause for a couple to breakup multiple times. It's important to get out of this loop by sitting down with your partner and deciding once and for all whether to stay apart or stay together. But, if you both are having doubts about your relationship, it's probably the best thing to stay apart. When you are in a relationship with someone, you have to be 100% sure that you want to be with them.
MissNadia
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May 31, 2018
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Yes it is.no good relationship is perfect .there us good and then their is bad times..its all about learing and understanding each other.
ColourfulHorizon181
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Jun 7, 2018
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From my point of view it is not. A girl may say that you need to kiss some frogs before finding the prince. However I think that you need to build your inner courage and dignity to not settle for less love than the one that you truly deserve. Even if this means to be alone for most of the time.
awesomePower17
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Jun 8, 2018
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Yes it is normal but it also depends on of the relationship is healthy. Many people go through phases where they miss their s/o and will want to go back, this is completely normal!
SitaV
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Jun 14, 2018
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Normalcy in relationships is hard to define. The best person to answer this question is yourself and friends who you trust. Reflect on your past relationships and try to see what led to each of these breakups. Try to understand your feelings and discuss them with people you feel safe with and trust. The more you talk and reflect the more thing will make sense to you. Good luck.
officerli
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Jun 17, 2018
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While it's unfortunately common, "normal" is a difficult term, for this situation or anything for that matter. Arguably, multiple breakups with the same person could just signal incompatibility despite (complex) infatuation. I wouldn't say this is healthy, of course, though. So, in short, it isn't something to brush off. If you've broken up with the same person a bunch of times and gotten back together, perhaps it'd be best to part ways for good. Now whether or not the subjects are capable of staying friends varies and is up to the ex-couple themselves.
GemmaL0uise
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Jun 21, 2018
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When it comes to relationships, there is no "normal". We're all different, and as such, every relationship is different and that's what makes them special. One thing you can do when finding yourself asking yourself this question is look at it from an outside perspective. What would you think and/or feel about the reasons why you keep breaking up if you heard about it from a friend. But always try to put yourself and your emotional well-being first. Do what makes you happy.
Anonymous
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Jun 24, 2018
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Well, it depends. Is it you or them? If it's them, then you might hand around with the people who aren't your type. If it's you, then there's a pattern you always end up breaking up. Find the problem and you will have the answer.
acaiaboo
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Jul 4, 2018
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There is no "normal" in relationships. One of the biggest mistakes one can do in a relationship is make decisions about whether a relationship is good or not, by comparing to other people's. Everyone is different, and no one else knows the relationship you have with your significant other. Maybe it helps give you the space you need to think clearly and learn to appreciate each other, but it's no one's business to judge. If it works out for you guys, then so be it. As long as you're constantly communicating your needs to each other and everything is fine with that, and you guys know that you love each other, and nothing shady is going on, then you should be good.
sereneShoulder53
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Jul 6, 2018
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It is extremely normal to breakup multiple times... but it really depends on the context in which you mean. There are a lot of people who are involved in very unhealthy relationships, constantly breaking up and getting back together, exchanging hurtful words, and performing heartbreaking actions while split... but there are also a lot of relationships that go through big new steps in their relationships which can be very stressful and cause partners to split for a certain amount of time, such as moving in together, or having a disagreement. The question you need to ask yourself is, are things improving when you get back together with your partner, or are you both hanging on to something that is already over?
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