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is it a bad thing to stay in love with someone who left you?

Profile: haphapz
haphapz on Oct 18, 2019
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i don't think it's a bad thing to stay in love with someone who've left you! especially if this person left really suddenly. after all love is a feeling and human nature. it's just unhealthy to ourselves to hold onto to someone who've left you, knowing that they'll never come back to us again. you have to consider about your own well-being as well and try to meet new people and perhaps love someone who shares the same feeling as you! when that time comes, you'd realise this will be so much better for your mental health. all the best! please engage a listener when needed.
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Profile: blueHuman6457
blueHuman6457 on Nov 6, 2019
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It depends. Did the other person move on or do they just need a break? If someone leaves you, they are unhappy with your behaviour. If you can convince them things will be different this time around, they might come back. I would say if you don't want to apologize don't bother. If you do, it might work and it might not. You will have to decide if you want the relationship back and if it's worth it or not. If you think that's the case, you will have to take a big risk with no guarantees. Sitting around waiting is a waste of your time. Try to get them back or move on yourself.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 13, 2019
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It is a normal thing for feelings to remain for someone even when the relationship is over. These feelings should dissipate over time however that doesn't make the process any easier. If the person in question leaves you for no reason, it is important for you to question why you still harbour any feelings towards this person at all. You must surround yourself with people who can have a positive impact on your life in order to separate yourself from the problem and let yourself get over it. This is easier said than done, however, since any thought pertaining to the person in question could trigger those feelings again.
Profile: Hazerinooo
Hazerinooo on Dec 27, 2019
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No, its not something you can really help. Love is a chemical that can stay in your brain for a while. However it's bad to hold on for a while. Try to learn and move on, give yourself time but don't hurt yourself in the process. Try doing things like interacting with your friends more. Talk to them about how you're feeling. If you are stable with your parents, try talking to them. A lot of people suggest that you cut off the person you love, and while I don't think that's the best move, it's generally a good idea to at least take a break from talking to them. Keep talks short. It'll take time but you can get there.
Profile: GracefulLove
GracefulLove on Jan 2, 2020
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It is not bad at all to stay in love with someone who has left you. We are human beings after all. We are made to love each other. It's natural. It depends on the person if they fall in love easily or get out of it easily but to stay in love is the hardest. It is not a bad thing to stay in love with someone who has left you but it is a sad thing. My mother always says "let go of people. If they come back, they are yours. If they don't come back then they were never yours." That someone has left. Life still goes on and you should too,honey. It is a process to get over a person. It takes time so don't rush. Let it happen naturally.
Profile: AnOpenEar247
AnOpenEar247 on Jan 9, 2020
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It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but you should definitely try to move on. Staying in love with them means you care about them deeply, but in the long run it will not be beneficial to you to keep being in love with them. It may take time to get over them, but you should learn from the experiences you had with them and use them to become the best version of yourself you could possibly be. There will always be someone out there who loves you and respects you and appreciates you, and if it isn’t this particular person, then at least you know.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 22, 2020
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It's not a bad thing at all, even though that person left you there was a relationship and there were feelings involved so it's completely normal to still be in love with them. In some cases the feelings you have for that person can remain for months, so it can take a while to move on. Eventually you will find another person that you will love, but for now try to practice self-care and doing things that you like. Also hanging out with friends and having a good support system can help a lot too. Good luck and take care!
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Anonymous on Feb 20, 2020
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I don't think it is a bad thing, it actually happen to me the bad thing is if you keep in contact with that persona and they only contact you for interest or if they feel lonely, but otherwise I think is okay, cause as human we can not just unlove someone just because they left us, so we just have to be careful to not let the feeling of being in love to stop loving ourselves or know how much we deserve. As long as you don't let yourself get stuck in a toxic relationship with someone has left you is okay to still have feelings for them
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 1, 2020
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Although it doesn't make you a bad person, it's hard to practice self love and good mental wellness if you love someone who hurt you. Looking for someone who will be more loyal and committed to you will be good for you, and yes, I understand, love isn't something you can choose and a lot of the time the feelings can be really complicated. If you feel like the person being an important figure in your life would bring more harm than good, then look after yourself and figure out what you need and want. It's totally okay to just focus on yourself
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Anonymous on Mar 14, 2020
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Grieving is a word most often associated with the death of a loved one, but we also grieve the people we love who haven't died, but are no longer a part of our life; of course it isn't a bad thing. There is no universal experience, but I can understand this circumstance in my own experience. Give yourself the space you need to heal for as long as it is necessary, but begin to slowly refocus attention and energy to other parts of life. Spend time doing things that you love when you feel yourself getting overwhelmed. And as always, contact a counselor or therapist if you can if you feel too overwhelmed.
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