I'm dating someone who has cheated in the past. What should I do?

At 7 cups, listeners are not allowed to give advice but there are many ways to do in this tough situation. First of all, I'm very sorry that you are in this mess. It must be tough and super frustrating. I think you should assesses your situation and work from there. Should you cut him/her off totally? Should you talk to him/her and see what happened regarding the cheating? How did you find out about this and do you think this is a common thing that occurs? There are many routes and thoughts to consider so think about it :)

You should be true to your own relationships standards. If you feel good about his past, keep going, if you feel like you'd rather date someone who didn't cheat in the past, then break up with this person. At the end, everything is up to your own boundaries. You could also ask your partner about this infidelity to provide you with better understanding. Remember you can never predict other's behavior but you can always choose what standards are a must for you to comitt to a relationship. We have all made mistakes in the past and the most important thing is to learn about then.

Part of the question is -- has that person cheated on you personally. Or has that person just had infidelity issues before. Have you talked to your partner about your concerns of this happening and becoming a problem? To communicate with your partner about these concerns is vital to figuring out how to best continue your relationship without that being a heavy concern on your mind all the time. If your partner had an isolated incident, versus multiple-- those are factors to consider and discuss. At the end of the day, it's about knowing the two of you can trust the other and that boundaries are respected.

You should assess your options. You know yourself best, and what you need from a relationship. I can't entirely tell what the situation is, but from what you've said, it sounds like they confided in you that they have cheated before. That can take a lot of courage to reveal to a current loved one. But then again, it completely depends on how you found out about these circumstances. You should think about whether you're happy in your relationship despite what you've learned. Even then, you need to think about what you want in a relationship, and have a good conversation with this person about the future of your relationship with them.

First of all, someone who cheated in the past may not do so now. Maybe they learnt from their mistake, maybe they weren't happy in their previous relationship( I know even then, cheating is not an answer) or maybe their were circumstances that you don't know about. If you trust that person and they do too, you shouldn't worry yourself with such thoughts. If your relationship is just in the beginning phase, try to analyze their behavior(this doesn't mean spying) and look for red flags, if any. Even still if you aren't convinced about this, try talking about this to your partner, but don't make them play the villain, try to make it subtle and ask what made them do what they did previously and also tell about how much this has been bothering you, if they fail to tell or are uncomfortable- that is a red flag!

Cheating is not a mistake it is a choice. I consider cheating as the most disrespectful thing a person can do in a relationship. If a person doesn’t respect you they don’t love you. Try to cut the cod. I know it’s hard then it’s said. But you are closing the doors for the person who will actually love and respect you. If it was a mistake you would have forgiven him but this was his choice to cheat on you, this will keep on repeating in you mind. Also, you won’t be able to be happy at all. Remember to take care of yourself as you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Communication is the single most important thing. Express your thoughts and feelings and allow them to do the same. Make sure this takes place in a safe space - ask them "are you free to talk right now or can we schedule this in soon?" They may feel like their past is haunting them and you may feel scared they could repeat their actions but by being open and honest with each other - you are both on the same side and you both know what the other expects as a partner. This also ensures that you are both having needs and expectations met which can prevent feelings of tension and resentment. Open up - allow space - trust in them

It is all about trust. If you think that person is going to do that do you then maybe you should leave them and if think that you can believe them then there would have been no question I think. So just talk to them and ask them that if they would ever cheat on you and then you will know what to do. If you genuinely like them then you will be able to overcome it. But if you think that this doesn't help feel free to talk to someone here and any of us would be happy to help you.

Make it *extremely* clear what your boundaries are, what you consider as cheating, what they consider as cheating, and make it very clear that if they do cheat on you, you're leaving without a second thought. If they value you and the relationship the two of you have built together, they will put in the effort and dedication into the relationship and, ideally, not cheat. People don't often ruin the things they worked hard on. You're dating this person for a reason. Remind yourself and your partner what that reason is, and make sure there's mutual trust by regularly checking in and being consistent in communication.

Did you find out about that by surprise or did he actually tell you that ? if it's the latter , i think you can forgive him because maybe he has changed. and people do change. However, You have to decide tho are you okay with or will you always keep doubting him, because no relationship can be sustained with trust issues. You could voice your concern about this for him. Don't overthink about it. If he fails to make you feel safe, then you should just leave him and find someone else. it's as easy as that.