I'm dating someone who has cheated in the past. What should I do?
Theresalwaystomorrow
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Nov 17, 2016
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Do you trust that they are not going to cheat again? Are you okay with the possibility that they may cheat on you? Ask and reflect on this. If it is a pattern and you are not okay with that then you do not deserve that!
PrettyCupcake00
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Feb 28, 2018
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Hey love! If he has cheated you in the past once and you're dating him again then just remember what had caused him to cheat on you last time and taje precautions. And if has cheated someone else before and yoh know the story then make sure you know bith the sides of the story and make sure to keep all the details which led to him cheating.
Ky23
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Mar 24, 2018
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At this point, you can only give them the benefit of the doubt. You don't know the full story behind what's happened until they tell you. Trust them through actions they make that are worthy of your trust, and don't be so quick to assume things about them based off of a bad choice or mistake. It is VERY easy to do this, we're only human and I think jumping to conclusions is your brains very clunky way of trying to process something immediately and figure out if this means something risky for you.
Ask questions, and be honest when you feel the time is right or it is warranted. It's a tough conversation because breakups and cheating are normally a sore spot for anyone.
Angelwillsx
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Mar 30, 2018
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Before answering this, it is important to determine what you want for yourself and whether you are genuinely happy with this person. It is also important to establish your worth and how with or without a partner you’re content within yourself. If this person consistently cheats on you maybe unfortunately they are unable to see your worth whereas there are other people out there who can. However, once again. If you’re happy with this person and you’re certain you’re not damaging yourself physically or mentally with this person - vice versa then continue dating them. Ultimately it accumulates as to whether you’re both happy and growing in a positive direction individually.
aticuest
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Jan 6, 2022
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That is some really serious trust you are putting in your partner, who you have mentioned has cheated in the past. It is in every way possible that he/she has changed, and that they would never cheat on you or hurt you. If you guys are pretty close and in the stage where you are comfortable with ex talks, try to talk about and understand why he/she did what they did. Try to find out if your partner justifies cheating, or regrets causing that kind of pain on someone. Since the saying goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." So, be careful, and if you feel even a bit suspicious that your partner may be cheating on you, trust your gut and get out of that relationship. You don't need that kind of person in your life to love you.
Anonymous
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May 15, 2016
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Just be careful and look how the relation will develop. Don't expect too much, because the more you do, the more you feel disappointed if this guy/ girl cheats on you.
Anonymous
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May 25, 2016
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Leaving an open mind is very important when starting the date. The other person began dating maybe for a purpose for a clean slate, but that doesn't mean we have to let down our guard from the beginning. Go with the flow and interact with person get to know them, see if the person is loyal or playing around then on the outcome take action. But always remain nice and sweet
Anonymous
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Jun 2, 2016
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If he has cheated you in the past and you suspect he can do it again... Thn it's better to remain assist from him... But if he has done it with someone else and you are convinced that he might not repeat the same with you thn it's OK.... You never know in what circumstances he had done that behavior
Anonymous
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Jun 12, 2016
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People change people, maybe she/he has changed. I believe everyone has the power to do right again.
CayleighGrangerr
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Jul 23, 2016
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Be wary, but don't distrust them because of their past.. They may have cheated in the past but you don't know the exact situation they were in to cheat or what place they were in mentally when it happened. People do change.
Anonymous
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Jul 28, 2016
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I would personally watch out for signs they may be cheating. Be more alert as they have done so in the past. Although, also keep in mind - though this may be their past behaviour, maybe they have grown and changed since then.
freshFriend18
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Aug 3, 2016
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As long as they don't cheat on you - you should be okay. Sometimes we have to meet the right person, some people do not like to commit to others because of their own sense of self - hopefully that does not happen
Holly1127
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Sep 7, 2016
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Trust and communication is the foundation of all relationships. Talk to him about your feelings. Do not let these thoughts invade your headspace, just be happy in the relationship
blissfulComfort25
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Nov 4, 2016
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You have to give the person the credit he deserves. Dont let his mistakes define him or your relationship :)
LightManTsar1
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Apr 16, 2017
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Leave the person, by staying with the person you're doing nothing but prolonging your own suffering. End the relationship and start working on yourself. Might be best to not get involved in another relationship too quickly until you've managed to get over your last one and better manager to coope with your own emotions. Also remember to always forgive... But don't forget, no one deserves to be defeated like that
Missingperiodsandcommas
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Nov 20, 2017
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Trust, the foundation of a relationship. If you’re entering a relationship with someone you should always make sure you’re both on the same page concerning the boundaries and expectations, for example; no intercourse with anyone outside of the current participants. But when you find yourself in a situation where this trust has been broken it can be very hard to get it back. Very hard, not impossible. If both people are willing to work at it and commit to repairing the relationship then it can get back on track. The key to anything is communication. Ask questions, be prepared for answers. Ask your partner why they felt compelled to cheat and why they chose presumably not to confess after the action. If, and hopefully they are, remorseful then bridges can be built and steps can be taken towards a stronger relationship. That said, if you don’t like the answer no one says you have to give them a second chance. Just because you’ve been with someone a long time doesn’t mean you owe them or the relationship anything. Knowing when to walk away is just as important, especially where mental health and self worth is concerned. No one outside of this relationship should dictate to if you stay or leave, take friends and family advice with a pinch of salt, ultimately it’s you that has to make a decision on your relationship.
Anonymous
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Feb 8, 2018
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There is a law of life which says "When you love someone, set it free. If it is yours will come to you. Otherwise it is not yours".
Discuss and let him/her choose.
glowingLake86
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Mar 31, 2018
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Just give them a chance cause people can change. Just cause they did it then don't mean they will do it now
Anonymous
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Apr 8, 2018
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You should be able to trust them. I can't give you advice or my opinions, but you should be able to tell if they are committed as loyal towards you.
LoveIsLife94
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Apr 26, 2018
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Remember that everybody makes mistakes and should be given a second chance. If they then repeat their actions that's when you decide if they're good enough for you or not.
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