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I'm dating someone who has cheated in the past. What should I do?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 2, 2018
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In this case, I think it is best not to jump in right away into a romantic relationship with the person you are dating. Try to get to know the person better and see if he is willing to be truly loyal to you through his actions. Just give the person a benefit of doubt. There should always be trust in a romantic relationship and you should not have to worry about the person cheating on you. Also remember that actions speak louder than words. I am just saying all of this so you can avoid yourself from a heart break in the long run.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 12, 2018
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Wow I would say try and trust them the most but maybe try and do a phone check twice a month I hope everything goes well for you
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 12, 2018
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I mean if they’ve been open about this and you said you were okay with it, then you have to kind of try and trust them but if your being weary this is natural because your scared of getting hurt but you have to ask yourself if your willing to take the chance of trusting them and if not you have to let go because it’s not fair on you or them
Profile: Gat89
Gat89 on Sep 6, 2018
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Cheating is rarely noble, but there are tons of reasons why it happens. Are there ever fair reasons to cheat? Never. But often, cheating is an act symptomatic of a bad relationship and poor communication. Cheating is an ignoble way to end things proactively or subconsciously, If possible, try and understand what exactly happened. Find out why it happened and whether it is part of a bigger, consistent character trait in your current partner. You need all this info to help you understand them better and gauge the progress in your relationship. Any red flags, have a chat and see if you both value the same things.
Profile: Tamy4210
Tamy4210 on Oct 11, 2018
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i would advise you to not continue dating, love. I don't want to sound rude but there's no guarantee that the same wont happen to you too and the pain of being cheated on is really bad and i wouldn't want you to go through that. Why take a risk? There are more cons than pros in this. So think about everything carefully. Try talking to your partner and unless you are completely sure that the person has changed and would never repeat it again, then i advise you to not continue this relationship. I hope you take care of yourself
Profile: joyousBubbles123
joyousBubbles123 on Oct 20, 2018
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First of all you knowing that the person has cheated in the past is a big thing. You either knew and yet you trusted them with your heart or they told you and then you trusted them. So either way, when you date someone don't have prior presumption. That is something you do before you start dating. When you date you trust not blindly but fully. So be cautious but see what makes it different between the two of you. What efforts they are making for you to believe in them. How happy they make you and how much they love you.
Profile: intelligentDay72
intelligentDay72 on Oct 31, 2018
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Past is past, if satisfied with his/her present intentions, character and all other things which YOU consider is satisfactory, then you can continue dating. There is nothing wrong in it as such. You can ask him why he/she has cheated in the past and all other relevant questions and understand whether, he/she has learnt the mistake of not cheating and its adverse consequences to him/her. If he/she has not learnt and is still trying/possible to cheat, then better not to date that person. It's important to know it's all your call at the end of the day regarding dating that person or not.
Profile: SolarSystemInATeacup
SolarSystemInATeacup on Nov 9, 2018
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I feel this is where trust really comes in. There needs to be communication & trust and if this is what you both want you need to work on it together. There will be worries and trust issues to start with, it’s natural but if you’re willing to accept them back into your life trust needs to be rebuilt. In arguments it’s not advised to bring up the cheating. If you’re forgiving them it needs to be swept to the side, not used as ammo. One of the biggest things, which is probably very difficult not to do and a lot of people are guilty of, is do not take all privacy away from them. If you’re learning to trust them again the invading their privacy is not one.
Profile: Mary0000
Mary0000 on Feb 15, 2019
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Trust, the foundation of a relationship. If you’re entering a relationship with someone you should always make sure you’re both on the same page concerning the boundaries and expectations, for example; no intercourse with anyone outside of the current participants. But when you find yourself in a situation where this trust has been broken it can be very hard to get it back. Very hard, not impossible. If both people are willing to work at it and commit to repairing the relationship then it can get back on track. The key to anything is communication. Ask questions, be prepared for answers. Ask your partner why they felt compelled to cheat and why they chose presumably not to confess after the action. If, and hopefully they are, remorseful then bridges can be built and steps can be taken towards a stronger relationship. That said, if you don’t like the answer no one says you have to give them a second chance. Just because you’ve been with someone a long time doesn’t mean you owe them or the relationship anything. Knowing when to walk away is just as important, especially where mental health and self worth is concerned. No one outside of this relationship should dictate to if you stay or leave, take friends and family advice with a pinch of salt, ultimately it’s you that has to make a decision on your relationship.
Profile: maddisonblogs0
maddisonblogs0 on Jun 23, 2019
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You have to give it a chance because people change, maybe infidelity is very bad, but sometimes the person goes through very bad times and does not know how to control their actions. Give it a time and see how their attitudes are, maybe change. Find out with your friends, and always warn him that you know everything. Everyone deserves an opportunity, but if you must be careful Since you always have to love and respect yourself, no matter how much you love someone, you have to love yourself first. We were all wrong and if someone was unfaithful maybe that person repented
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