I'm dating someone who has cheated in the past. What should I do?

Act cautiously, don't put to much of your heart into it. Your own happiness matters more than satisfying someone who may possibly turn and use your trust against you.

Coming from somebody who has been cheated on 10 times, there shouldn't be any 2nd chances if they do cheat. I would keep an eye out, because it's more than likely that you'd find out about it somehow. You deserve to be happy, and if they cheat on you, you won't be happy.

Continue to date them, if it's working for you. In the past I've continued to date someone who had cheated **on me**; we continued to date for two years after that, and it was wonderful. The infidelity was a small indiscretion; it had nothing to do with why we eventually parted, and, to the best of my knowledge, it never happened again. If you can't imagine yourself ever feeling sanguine about your partner having done this in the past, though, you need to give them the chance to find someone who can.

If he tells you that he has changed, && he shows it to you, && you actually see these changes for yourself && you love him, maybe you should give him the benefit of the doubt && just trust him this time:)

Always trust your instinct. If you feel one way then act in another, you're going against your instinct. Your heart will always want something more but never give up your dignity for a person who has already degraded you once.

Do not let their past affect your presence. if that person made a mistake before, it doesn't mean that it will happen again. if it truly bothers you speak to them about it, clear things out.

Give them the benefit of the doubt. Hopefully they regret their choices and have turned over a new leaf. I don't believe in once a cheater always a cheater. Unless, of course, they have a long track record of cheating that you know about. I think start with trust or don't start at all.

Like many of the questions that are asked here, there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. What IS important though is that you've talked to your partner about their past actions. Are they remorseful? Have they talked through what behaviors, attitudes, and emotions led to their cheating? And further, have they taken steps to ensure they will not be repeated? For many people cheating is a dealbreaker, and staying together is more about avoiding loneliness than it is about staying with a real partner. Be sure you aren't doing this - it is not fair to either of you. In other situations the cheating truly was an awful mistake that the cheater learns from. It's important that all of these issues are talked through - uncomfortable as that may be. Sweeping an issue like this under the rug is the only truly wrong solution.

Know your own self-worth. Everyone deserves better, but you are the only person who needs to realize that for yourself. Put yourself in a better, healthier position that will benefit you both physically and mentally.

It's important to understand that your relationship is different than the one the person had before. You might try to make expectations clear, what's ok for you and what's not. Trust yourself and you'll be fine.