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I'm dating someone who has cheated in the past. What should I do?

Profile: carlee11
carlee11 on Feb 1, 2017
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I would discuss it openly with them. Gaining insight on the situation may help you better understand the context of everything. Knowing someone has cheated in the past can affect how you perceive your partner and how you trust them. I feel that everyone should be given the benefit of the doubt, and it is important to remain open and honest in the relationship. I feel that since your partner has shared their past mistakes, it should be seen as a good thing that they felt they could be open with you on a controversial matter. Best of luck!
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Profile: DudeGuy45
DudeGuy45 on Feb 4, 2017
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If you love the person, choose to trust them and let them know that you're trusting them. If they respect you, they will honour that trust.
Profile: Ponderwillow
Ponderwillow on Feb 6, 2017
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I would suggest discussing with the person the reasons that they cheated. Once you know those, you can discover the best ways to work on your relationship and ensure an open line of communication where each of you can work to provide the other with what they need.
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Anonymous on Feb 15, 2017
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Talk with this person about how you feel about his past. Make sure he gets where you're coming from. Communication is key after all.
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Anonymous on Mar 5, 2017
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If you are aware of a persons past and make a choice to then date this person, you must then learn how to keep the past in the past. A relationship will struggle to succeed if you are constantly worrying about whether or not that person is being loyal to you. You shouldn't allow what a person has done in the past effect your current relationship. If you date a cheater, then you don't hold it over their head.
Profile: colorfulUnicorn23
colorfulUnicorn23 on Apr 23, 2017
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Cheating in a relationship is very serious but it can vary from person to person, it depends on why the person cheated , I don't feel anyone deserves to be judged on their past but yes a presence of mind is very very important. you need to evaluate them and decide for yourself . Some people are compulsive cheaters but that can't be the basis to evaluate everyone. "TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS," they are never wrong
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Anonymous on Apr 26, 2017
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I'm sorry to hear this. This has happened to me once. I started to try to deal with the situation by deciding if I could trust this person or not. I decided they were and everything turned out fine. This may be different for you, but I wish you luck.
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Anonymous on Apr 27, 2017
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If you dated someone who cheated in the past. Firstly the fact you know is a good start it's where the other person knew what he or she did wrong and is able to own up to it as we all make mistakes. You have to think whether you are able to trust them if you are getting closer....
Profile: blissfulOrange55
blissfulOrange55 on May 3, 2017
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Some characteristics of a person never change, even if it does, sometimes its temporary. That doesn't mean it's impossible. But its better to spend more time with the person before committing anything. This way you can ensure a better and happier life.
Profile: PandaPots23
PandaPots23 on May 12, 2017
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It's best to make it a point to keep an honest relationship in this case. Don't assume that this person will cheat again. Everyone makes mistakes, and just because that person may have cheated once, doesn't mean they will do it again. Keep love first in your heart, and keep an open line of communication.
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