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I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?

Profile: Allears247
Allears247 on Jul 25, 2018
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Try your best not to betray that persons trust. Show that person that they don't have to worry about you cheating on them by not doing it. Be faithful, be honest, put forth a fair effort, and be considerate.
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Profile: SeekApotheosis50
SeekApotheosis50 on Jul 25, 2018
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While you do not deserve to bear the emotional backlash of your partner's ex's wrongdoing, you can get ahead of the gate by initiating transparency in your new relationship. Make it a priority to respectfully and calmly bring up doubts and insecurities before they snowball into fears and mistrust. Establish open, tactful communication, as a value, right from the start. And don't forget to communicate about what your boundaries are, too.
Profile: ElHelper
ElHelper on Aug 8, 2018
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Make sure he knows you love him. ANd hes the one for you. Ive been going through the sme thing. ANd honestly, i never want him to get hurt again, and when he realizes that, he will trust you more. Just don't take it to heart, his brokenness. :)
Profile: lovelyLion74
lovelyLion74 on Aug 12, 2018
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First thing, don't cheat on them, obviously, and don't make too many jokes about seeing other people. Help them through it if they're still getting over it and act like you would want someone to act to you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 30, 2018
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Keep in mind that you should treat others the way you want to be treated. And remember they may be hesitant to love you because they may be scared you'll leave them. People that have been cheated on are generally more sensitive and dont forgive or love as quickly or easy. so even though it can be hard try to stay strong and stay patient with them. Tell them you respect them and promise to never hurt them and then show them that you dont break your promises by promises other little things and actually doing it can be a great way to start.
Profile: R0bbie
R0bbie on Sep 19, 2018
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I have always been a big believer in communication. I think it is the most important thing in making sure a relationship stays healthy. A person who has been cheated on has suffered a huge breach of trust, they find it hard to share valuable bits of information about themselves. They find it tough to develop new relationships because they are afraid of being hurt again. In terms of what you should do, I think it is important that you always consider the other partners perspective, to keep communicating and to show plenty of love and affection. This will help to remove any doubts they could have and keeps both of you very happy!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 20, 2018
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It's always hard when you or your partner has been cheated in. Being concerned on how to treat the situation is valid and one step on the right track for whats best for you. My advice would be to ensure they feel comfortable and secure within your relationship. Every relationship is different, so you may have different way of doing this than another couple. Don't force them to talk about it before they are ready to open up to you. But once they are, use that vulnerability they are giving you to reassure them that your relationship is completely separate from the one in their past.
Profile: annnnaaaa9
annnnaaaa9 on Sep 20, 2018
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A person who has been cheated on is likely to struggle with building new relationships and building trust as they are still dealing with what has happened to them. You should try and imagine what it must feel like for them and how this has affected them. You can give advice if they explicitly ask you to give it. However, if this is not the case, you should just listen to them and make sure they feel accepted and that they feel like you are listening to them and being them for them. In most cases, someone being there for them is worth more than advice.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 22, 2018
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Cheating is a tough situation for all involved, but the world changes everyday when it comes to cheating. Some people are very strict with their interpretation and others are more open to non monogamous dating. So one of the first things you should do is talk about expectations. What are your boundaries? What do you consider cheating? And what about your partner? What do they consider cheating? Is any close relationship with someone from the opposite sex considered cheating? If so, you want to know that so you can respect the other person's wishes, assuming this is something that you want to accept and vice versa. And after you set the ground rules, try to life within them and respect the other person. This builds trust and being able to trust someone after the betrayal of cheating is what is often missing when you've been cheated upon.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 26, 2018
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I've been cheated on in the past and it was a lot to deal with in future relationships. It's my thing to manage, not yours. But there are ways to help. I'd say be yourself, with an bit of extra awareness of communication. And be transparent. Act with integrity and be reliable. If you're secretive, need lots of privacy and space, or communicate inconsistently, this will unsettle a person who may have trouble trusting. Definitely avoid the temptation to give extra reassurance though. It is superficial and won't help. Just give straight answers when you're asked, and that's enough.
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