I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?

Firstly, try not to take their insecurities and fears personally. It's hard, I know. If you really care about this person, the only way to allow them to feel safe with you is to build trust. This takes time. However, people who have been cheated on can be difficult to have a relationship with. It's important to set boundaries. Feelings of insecurity can raise negative behaviours that might be directed towards you. Aggression, violence or abuse should never be tolerated. Your person may be hurt but they should still be expected to behave in a respectful manner. Sit them down and ask the same thing you've asked here. Get them to be as honest as they can (this may be difficult as it means they need to feel vulnerable) and just listen. However, only do this if you are serious about them. Don't get them to let you in if you are not sure you can be there for them.

It's always tough to have a partner who has been cheated on in his or her past. Partly because it's confusing for you as to why your partner seems distant or wary at times. Partly because your partner is afraid that he or she will be cheated on again. Make sure your partner understands that you're there for them. That you will not cheat on them. If your partner is cautious, that's understandable. Build trust with him/her slowly. Allow your partner to understand that you're there for them. Don't worry. Take a deep breath. Trust yourself, and you'll be fine :)

It is important that you love and respect anyone in all relationships. In this case, you want to be very careful and pay attention to what make that person comfortable and be cautious as it may be frustrating for them. The ultimate goal is to love them no matter what, support one another, stay faithful through the good times and bad, and respect is key to the relationship. Listen and talk to your partner as it is crucial in a relationship to communicate what is working and what is not as you always want to be working and continuing on.

i have been in a kind of similar situation and let me tell you it isn’t easy. you just have to stay loyal and be honest. if he wants to see your messages with that guy he’s worried about: let him. if he wants you to reassure him: reassure him. it will never be easy but eventually he will learn that you won’t hurt him. if you do cheat you will break him for good. all the guy needs is honesty and loyalty for him to realize that this is ok you won’t cheat (and please do not cheat).

Show them you can trust them and if they come to you with feelings of cheating or being insecure about someone you talk to, reassure them that it is completely harmless. They are hurting and scared the next person will hurt them the same way, so spend time with them, don't run out unexpectedly, talk often and let them into your life. This doesn't mean you can't have friends or go out with anyone, just be cautious about it and understand their worries as you would want them to if you were the one hurting from being cheated on in the past.

I think we shouldn't judge someone from their past. Dealing with someone that was cheated on can be hard. First of all, if they are still hurt and have not gotten over their partner, issues like difficulty to trust, to open up will be present and it's normal. We need to make them feel comfortable and let them know that we are here for them no matter what. I´ts important to gain their trust and viceversa to build a strong relationship. We need to take in mind, that if we promise not to hurt them and to be always for them it needs to happen. If they get cheated on again, it will destroyed them. Most importantly, show and tell how much you love them.

Simply, ask him what he needs for now from your side. It may occur that he is now okay with all this cheating situation and you're just too stressed. Communication in the relationship is very importand and the question "what do you need" is crucial. If you're not communicating you can only guess what other person has in his mind and you're making decisions for him. Also listen to yourself, what do you feel during dating this person? What do you need from him? Trust yourself :) And don't forget to communicate your feelings and needs. Just make sure that you're both on the same site.

Show them that you are not the same as the others that the person has been with and let them know that you will not cheat on them like other have done before. Also if they are still worried let them look at your phone and be open about what are you doing on your phone so they can know you are not texting someone else. The most important thing is to make sure to build trust with this person and show them that you will not hurt them and that they can open up to you without fear of you leaving them for another.

Talk to them and see what they want out of your relationship. You need to try and understand how they feel and try to have a transparent relationship. In a relationship, you need to be able to lean on the other person and be able to help your partner in any way that you can. One thing you need to do is see how they feel about talking through what it was like to be cheated on. Thye might be a little bit more controlling. If that happens you need to talk to them about how you are feeling about what they are doing.

People who have been cheated on tend to have low self-esteem or low self worth for a while. Has your partner moved on? Or was it not too long ago? If they are still trying to get over it, offer them your support and love. Ask them how you can be considerate of their feelings, if youre comfortable with that. Take in account their personality and form of loving as well. Show them your affection frequently, but dont overdo or drain yourself out. Just make sure you are always thinking of how they might feel. Best of luck!