I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?
sereneMermaid411
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Apr 23, 2020
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Talk to them about. Confront the issue head-on. Acknowledge that it may take more time for them to trust you than they would have if they hadn't been through that experience. Trust is like a jar of marbles. It's made of a collection of acts that build up and become stronger. However, continue to establish and assert boundaries. When someone is cheated on, they may become suspicious and want to read your texts, snoop through your phone, know where you are every second of every day. Know that you still have the right to privacy, and their insecurity is not more important than that right.
Anonymous
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Apr 26, 2020
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I think it is important to understand that your partner's past relationships will shape their perspective and outlook on your current relationship. Since your partner was cheated on, it may impact their view on trust. It is helpful to be accepting and listen to what they have to say. Your partner's trust had been broken at one point, so it may take them more time to gain trust with others. Be supportive, and be sure to prioritize communication between each other. Communication is a platform for building trust and honesty with others and with partners. Everyone is different, and everyone handles being cheated on differently, but having an open mind and validating their past feelings can be helpful.
contentedBeauty22
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May 6, 2020
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learn how to have patience, I don't know if they have properly healed from that situation but learn to have patience with them. it's truly a horrible experience knowing someone you trusted to do something like that. From what I have experienced, give them lots of reassurance, look into the 7 types of love languages, and look into that and have consistent ones. also, unexpected reassurance is the best because they have their fears that they might be not good enough to be loved which is not the case. I hope everything goes well and wish you both the best. give it time and lots of patience and love
Anonymous
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May 14, 2020
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Since he/she was cheated once they might be portrayed cynic but in fact they're much broken and emotionally unstable . At times they might sound really matured but don't get to that conclusion just in the beginning , because that maturity might just be a disturbance in their perspective and might not stay long which would disappoint you later. Well in the end it's like any other normal relationship, give time and take time don't be in a hurry. They might be too suspicious (mostly) but don't take them wrong just try to talk out things. Don't take decisions with assumptions nor allow him to do the same. Not every person who got cheated wouldn't end up suspicious , few might turn up really good ( if so try not to lose them)
zealousWinter25
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Jun 4, 2020
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Be you. Who you are, if you are not a fan of or condone cheating, will shine through and the person you are dating will see your true colours. It may take time for them to build up trust, but if you be who you are, they should gradually begin to trust you. They may also benefit from reassurance every now and again, however, it is important that this person can trust you as relationships are built on trust and can't function as well if trust is missing. It is not your responsibility about the person being cheated on. Just be you!
Dallas86040
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Jun 6, 2020
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Just take the relationship slow, don't try and move any faster than they are comfortable with, validate their experience and show empathy. Just be supportive overall and always try to validate the way they feel. The best way to earn their trust is with trustworthy behavior over an extended period of time. Be patient and understanding. The more empathy and patience you show towards your partner, the better. Hopefully over an extended period of time, they will trust you more and more and they will open up to you more and more. I hope this helps. Good luck to you.
Anonymous
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Jun 6, 2020
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Be patient with them. They may feel insecure or they may keep their guard up if they feel they get hurt like that again. Patience, understanding and building trust within the relationship, like any other, is valuable. Let them talk about something that they may be worried about and try to understand where they are coming from. Depending on the circumstances of how they found out they were cheated on? did the relationship end amicably or volatile? ect they may still need to heal and learn to trust someone in a relationship and to let go of the fear they may be carrying of it happening again
Anonymous
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Jun 10, 2020
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Ensure that the person you are dating with feels safe, comfortable and cared for. Give them reasons to trust you, but also make sure you are comfortable. relationships will only grow if there is a mutual trust, respect and understanding between partners. If you feel your partner is out of reach, talk to them and let them know you are there for them and that they can trust and rely on you. however, if you feel your partner is not putting in the same effort as you into the relationship, address these issues and find out why they may be reluctant. try to be patient and understand what your partner has been through.
Anonymous
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Jun 10, 2020
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For people who have been cheated on trust is a big issue in relationships(for obvious reasons). Someone they trusted betrayed them and this hurts a lot. To try and help fix this issue I recommend being honest with them and trusting them, this will help them learn to trust you and be less concerned about you cheating on them. Sometimes they can act cautious this can get annoying or even make you uncomfortable, which is very understandable. Don't be afraid to bring up your agitation/issues with their cautiousness, as long as you don't treat them like a child there is a good chance they will make an effort to grow.
Anonymous
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Jun 25, 2020
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In the beginning of my relationship my boyfriend had told me he had been cheated on before and so I reassured him that I wouldn’t cheat on him or hurt him like his ex did. Whenever he was worried or anxious about me cheating I would tell him that I cared about him and I reassured him that I lived him. He and I had long relationship that lasted about a year and a half we broke up because his family moved across the country and he had to go to. We did the long distance relationship for a couple months and he became really worried that I would cheat on him but I reassured him I wasn’t and I never would but it became really difficult for us and we fell out of love so we decided to end it.
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