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I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?

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Anonymous on May 22, 2019
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People who have been cheated on often have problems with trusting again because they are afraid that that trust will be broken again and will lead them to unwanted emotions like disappointment and/or sadness. So the important part is to be patient and prove that you are worthy of their trust, that you are not their ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. This will be a hard process and how long will it take to go through will depend on how much the person was hurt with the event. So except for proving that you won't hurt them, acknowledge their emotions and show them your support.
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GhostLily on Jun 26, 2019
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For someone who has been previously hurt, and in this case, cheated on, to trust you and to love you, in itself, is a wonderful thing. Express your gratitude to the fact they are putting themselves in this vulnerable position for you, because trusting after you have been cheated on is frightening, and requires a lot of courage. One of the best things you can offer them is unwavering, absolute honesty. Be open with them and express your emotions, communication is key in any relationship, and the need for open and free communication and honesty in a relationship with someone who has been cheated on is perhaps even greater. In conclusion; express your honest and true love to them, they may need it and appreciate it more than you know.
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Anonymous on Jul 10, 2019
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Most people who have been cheated on tend to lose a sense of trust with others and a decline in self-esteem. They may feel unworthy of affection, or may think that they aren't good enough. In these situations, you cannot make the solution for them; they have to become comfortable with themselves and others on their own. But you can be supportive of them and offer them words of affirmation such as "I appreciate when you do this for me" or "I really enjoy being with you". If they feel insecure, just know that it isn't anything you're doing wrong.
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fairyava on Jul 13, 2019
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People who have been cheated on may have trust issues, need more validation than others, etc. As someone who has been cheated on, I can tell you that solid boundaries as well as the ability to be open is very appreciated. However, everyone is different, and it can be very helpful to have a 1-1 conversation with this partner to try and see what they need in the relationship. Being communicative with anyone in a relationship is good, especially in this circumstance. Someone who has been cheated on may be scared to go into another relationship in fear that it may happen again, so try checking in to see what they specifically need.
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Anonymous on Aug 3, 2019
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First, the fact that you're asking this question shows that you're considerate of their needs and how they have been hurt in the past. I think it could really help your partner if you showed this to them too, in a clear way. People who have been cheated on can have trouble trusting that a relationship is real and stable, doubting their own judgement. Your reassurance that you care about them deeply and don't want them to be hurt could go a long way. Another thing you could do is ask them this question yourself. Sometimes people don't know what they need, and that's okay, but they may have some ideas about things that would help them feel more secure and comfortable in your relationship. Even if they don't, you're opening up with honest communication and allowing these sincere conversations about your separate needs in the relationship to occur, and that's always a good thing.
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Anonymous on Oct 18, 2019
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dating someone who has been cheated on requires a little bit more work than usual! it has probably taken a lot of courage on their side to move into a new relationship. they could feel a little insecure and doubtful of this new relationship, in fear that it could possibly turn out the same as their previous relationship. therefore, a little bit of patience, reassurance and a lot of you from you would help a lot in this relationship! it is important to show that you're different from the previous person and it's also really important to understand her needs as well.
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Anonymous on Nov 14, 2019
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You should move on, or try someone else...If it was hard to date the person that cheated on you, sure it might be hard again...But don't worry, there are many people in your life to love. You have to at least try with love...And go with the flow of your life, even though it is very risky, worrisome, and scary. Dating someone is hard enough, but actually falling in love with someone is very beautiful. If your looking for someone try not to get too attached before they break your heart...Or you break there heart not wanting to, but you know you have to give them up...
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Anonymous on Jan 8, 2020
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You should listen to him/her and get more information as possible. You should make him/her feel that you are here to listen and is willing to help him/her. You should not bring that topic often. Help him/her by talking out of that situation. Often communicate with them. Try to make them feel ease by saying things like that you are there for them and whatever they are feeling is ok and normal. There's nothing wrong with you. If he/ she cannot accept you for what you are then getting rid of them is the best choice. You will not be regretting larer on.
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Anonymous on Jan 19, 2020
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Just act like your would do in a normal relationship, but just accept the fact that it might they them a little longer to completely trust you. And show them that that's okay. It takes a lot of courage for them to put their trust into someone after being cheated on and that process takes time. Don't try to focus too much on trust by being like: "Want to check my messages?", since it is a natural process that slowly builds itself up. If they want to talk about their feelings, let them. But if they don't want to, don't force them, since they probably want to move on.
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TheTinkerer on Feb 15, 2020
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Being cheated on sucks, it destroys the element of trust, and makes it much harder to trust one's partner. However, if one is dating a partner who has been cheated on, One must understand that there will be turbulence due to trust issues and that is not due to themselves, rather the experience of their partner. Expressions of trust where one wordlessly communicates the value of their partner, works wonders in the long run. It should also be noted that communication is key. If One feels like the relationship is turbulent, it doesn't hurt to open up a dialog with their partner. One of the key factors to a healthy relationship is good communication. It sorts out a lot of unnecessary issues in the long run.
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