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I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?

Profile: MPuffin
MPuffin on Jul 19, 2018
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be patient as they may have a lot of anxiety about being cheated on. As someone that has been cheated on and is currently in a relationship I found it difficult through the first few months to trust again but after opening up to him about these trust issues i have realised that i can trust him it just takes time
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Profile: Kbxw
Kbxw on Jul 22, 2018
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Hard to say, but if you had been cheated on, you must recover the self-esteem you shall have before starting a relationship. A new person is a new story, don't be conditioned by your past, most likely you're the one that should condition the past learning from it.
Profile: Moondust673
Moondust673 on Jul 26, 2018
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Ask if the person has moved on. It will be difficult for both of you to be in a relationship when one of you is not fully invested. Then show your loyalty and faithfulness. And be clear you expect the same.
Profile: independent9
independent9 on Jul 27, 2018
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Treat him/her the way you want to be treated. Be sensitive to the needs of that someone and at the same time be open to him/her.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 4, 2018
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Try to understand how that person was hurt by the experience. Attempt to keep an open mind, and be sure to listen and learn from that person's experience. Let them know you will be there for them.
Profile: GabrielaaTaker
GabrielaaTaker on Aug 9, 2018
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Make sure you are always there to comfort your partner and let them know that everything is okay, alway's be kind enough to reassure them.
Profile: optimisticBlossom66
optimisticBlossom66 on Aug 11, 2018
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When you date someone who has been cheated on the past, its likely they will feel weary and often scared that you will cheat on them. Actions speak louder than words, remain faithful, be open with them about how you're feeling, don't be secretive. Eventually, they will feel like you're someone who they can trust. Afterall, put yourself in their shoes, that can help you see the world in their view. Hope this helps.
Profile: yalocallistener
yalocallistener on Nov 15, 2018
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You can try to be for them the best you can and give reassurance. Many people are insecure after break ups make them feel secure. Also try talking to them about their problems and both of your expectations in the relationship. If their constantly accusing you of cheating you might have to let them loose. Sorry for the longness of the advice I'm just trying to get to a 100 words. You're a wonderful person and very brave for putting you relationship out there. Not to many people take advice. I hope your relationship goes well. Good luck !
Profile: Returncontrol2u
Returncontrol2u on Jan 2, 2019
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Every day we risk love with others. We can get hurt and that can make us want to not trust again. But we are all different and have unique ways of handling the event. Talk to your partner and ask if you can do things to support their trust. Be honest with your partner about your desire to support them but not be overwhelmed yourself. When your partner says they want something believe what they say, then follow up weeks or months later to verify it is still what they want. Our character is partially based on our ability to do the right thing when nobody is watching. This is a very difficult thing to prove and trust requires building over time. Don't be afraid to work longer and harder, your partner will probably have greater feeling for you in the long run.
Profile: livelovedream
livelovedream on Jan 26, 2019
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I would recommend having an open conversation with them. I have been cheated on in the past and there isnt really anything super major I need from my partner. They might appreciate talking about it or not, maybe they need you to tell them where you are a bit more than average, or maybe they want to have deep conversations about relationships. I think your best bet is to just ask what they need from you. Perhaps say..... I know this might be a sensitive subject, but I know you have been cheated on in the past and I want you to know that I would never do that to you. Is there anything that you need from me as a partner to feel secure in our relationship? They will most likely tell you :)
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