I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?
Anonymous
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Jul 8, 2017
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You should make sure he or she knows that you love him or her and that that person has nothing to worry about
adaptiveIceCream45
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Jul 16, 2017
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When in that situation don't try and show them that your different from their ex with words it's better to prove it with actions because that way they know your sincere. Secondly don't make yourself seem like the hero because that puts you on a pedestal that is impossible to stay on top of. Make sure that you both are happy in the relationship and that it is healthy.
SkylerGrey
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Jul 16, 2017
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Don't dismiss their insecurities, listen and reassure them. Important note: Being compassionate and reassuring doesn't mean that you should put up with possessiveness. K
now where to draw the line!
xylphzyk
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Jul 20, 2017
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The first thing you want to pay attention to is the trust element. He/she has been cheated on. It will hurt his/her trust to their significant other. They will think that there's always a possibility that they will be cheated on again. You have to gain his/her trust. Try to be as transparent as you can with them, don't try to hide anything from them. Always be mindful to have a good communication with him/her.
Anonymous
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Jul 21, 2017
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You should be loyal towards your new partner and try to understand what they have been through. The worst thing you could do is cheat on them.
joyfulSmiles17
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Aug 3, 2017
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Show this person you care and love them or care about them. They have been hurt and the past show them you are actually there for them and not there to do the same thing as the person in their past relationship. If you feel that you might cheat on them do them the kind favor and tell them or maybe stay single until you're ready to commit.
genuineTree90
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Aug 10, 2017
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Just treat them with love and support :) It might help to reassure them that you're not going to cheat and to allow them to talk to you about their concerns if they need to :)
Anonymous
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Aug 11, 2017
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You should help them find ways to trust you and make them open up to you and talk about what you can do together to make the relationship open and better for you both.
ManiRose
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Aug 12, 2017
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Recongize and understand that they are going to have some serious walls put up. Respect their boundaries and comfort zones, and take it easy! Having your heart hurt and broken is a tough thing, considering humans were made to love one another and give it their all. Be sympathetic and empathetic and be patient. Their biggest fear is most likely that you're going to leave.
enchantingRose58
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Aug 18, 2017
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Be honest and careful and understanding when they feel insecure and jealous without it being to intense
Anonymous
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Aug 18, 2017
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Just be honest and be truthful with the relationship. This person has been through a traumatic time, by showing you are trustworthy and loving, you can rebuild the person's trust.
Anonymous
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Aug 19, 2017
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Show them that you are different, but also remember your self-worth. You are not their previous partner.
animalsmakemesmile
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Sep 1, 2017
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As someone who was previously dating a serial cheater, I think patience is a strength that you will need. You will need to build trust with the person. From someone that has been cheated on before... a break in trust will open the floodgates to so much emotion. In my experience, even if there is a minor break in trust, I question if I want to continue the relationship at all, because I know I won't be able to handle the anxiety and 'what ifs'. Communication is so important. Your partner doesn't need to know your EVERY move (this is definitely unhealthy), but saying your are going to bed when you really are going out with your pals is a really bad idea. I got so good at spotting lies in my previous partner, that I can almost immediately tell when my current partner is lying. Although he has never cheated on me and I doubt he would, even white lies (for me) trigger those horrible feelings of being cheated on. However, you also need to let them know that you need space. Considering the fact that you are dating them, you should be empathetic of their feelings and emotions. However, ultimately, your partner is responsible for working to get these under control. I had a bad habit of wanting answers NOW, or a response to my text NOW, of needing 'to have a talk' NOW. I would say that the best counter to this is to let them know a date when you will be able to talk. Give them that reassurance. Or, if your will be away from your phone for a while, let them know. Small considerations like that can go a long way.
Layla910
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Sep 3, 2017
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Communication is a big factor in a relationship! It is important that you build trust with your partner, and talk to them about your worries or concerns
PrincessMadellaa
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Sep 14, 2017
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Try your best to earn their trust. It will take them a while but be patients and they'll come around
Anonymous
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Sep 21, 2017
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The best thing to do when you are dating someone who has been cheated on is to assure him/her that you won't do that to him/her. Not every person is the same and you just have to tell him/her to trust you and to believe that you are not capable of cheating on him/her just like what his/her previous partner did.
DreamsOfWonders21
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Oct 22, 2017
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Tell them you love them everyday and night and let them know you will never be like their ex. Their ex lost someone who would've been their world but know their yours.
MissNatureNat
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Nov 11, 2017
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Show them that you are not going to cheat. It will take time to build up their trust but if you stick with them and be patient and show them that you are trustworthy, they will start to trust you. try and show them empathy, tell them how you would feel if it was you in their situation. Its not easy to trust when you have been let down in the past.
Lexshinmiri908
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Nov 17, 2017
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Try to make the person feel more comfortable by reassuring them a lot about your relationship and feelings. Don't give up on them when they're giving you a tough time because they may have trust issues from previous experience. Have tons of patience and take things slowly for them. (:
ezraleeeee
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Nov 17, 2017
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The psychological trauma that a person endures after being cheated on is one of the most emotionally damaging things that a person can go through. Give them patience, give them reassurance. When they ask questions, it's not because they don't trust you, they've been hurt before and that these are the things they need to know in order to keep them from overthinking and reverting back into their depressive state. They probably are going to get jealous, have low self-esteem and are quite afraid. And again, this isn't an indication that they don't trust you, they just need your reassurance and patience.
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