If you loved each other so much before a breakup, why is it so hard to stay friends after the break up?

The type of love and affection we display towards boyfriends and girlfriends are a lot different than those we share towards a friend. The translation of seeing them as "yours" to just another friend is incredibly hard, almost like you're loosing some part of yourself - when in reality you haven't

It is hard to stay friends because you love them. You want so much more than friendship, you want that love to remain and it will never remain the same because your broken inside after the break up.

Break ups are very hard and only a small handful of people who endure break ups come out of it perfectly fine, and everyone differs. Honestly, from my personal expierence, it is hard to break up and try to remain in a positive friendship because you have that sudden change in the relationship, you can no longer say "I love you" without knowing, they may not mean it back anymore or the relationship is no longer like that. It is hard, but as time goes by, you'll subtly forget about them and possibly the deep feelings you had for them. You will be okay from it and you will grow flowers from it all.

Because it's like constantly seeing yourself torn away from someone you love. It's like being addicted to something and then trying to quit but still being forced to see that thing you so desire.

It's hard to stay friends after a breakup because you realize that feelings that were once there are no longer there. It hurts that the love is no longer there and it's hard to face the person who you once shared the love with.

Between true Boy and girl friendship, there is no space for sexual attraction and they just feel like they are beyond the gender and just they share their emotions through speech and at the most hugging. But in boy and girl loving relationship, there is a sexual attraction and there is more closeness and more space for physicality. So normal friendship is not possible after breakup if the couple had really loved eachother and agreed to be life partners.

You constantly are having memories or feelings of when you loved each other. It’s hard to have a friendship when you’ve had a different kind of relationship.

Because of that love. Loving someone as a friend is very different than loving someone as a companion in a relationship. If you break up with someone and try to remain friends, the love you have for them runs so deep that it's difficult to be friends with them.

Sometimes it is the best for both parties who take distance to avoid more damage to the situation or the way of seeing the person to switch to a bad.

perhaps it's too soon for friendship. Jumping right into friendship is like jumping out of a frying pan and into the fire. Your wounds are still raw, understand that it's a process and allow yourself time to really heal. You both have to get there at your own pace.