I want to break up, but I'm scared that no one will ever love me again. What should I do?

This is something I've dealt with a few times in the past. Over time I've learned that current struggles often cloud up our outlook on the future, such as a breakup making us feel unlovable. I went through this with my last breakup, actually, and it was an awful feeling. But giving something time is one of the greatest natural remedies. Feeling unlovable is a valid emotion - but there are also so many people you haven't met yet that can be potential lovers. You may feel stuck right now in the love department, but remind yourself that the future holds so much for you.

Breakups, they are a very hard and emotional subject. Have you thought about all the possibilities that could be if you did break up? Compared to those if you didn’t breakup? I cannot overrule advice on your direct question, but I can advise you on You creating your own solution. Some thing to think about are what has caused you to think this way? Why cant there be an alternative option? How long have I been feeling this way? If you can create a solution for these commonly asked questions, you can resolve your breakup dilemma, as I can only assist you in directing your responses.

First, learn to love yourself. You are responsible for your happiness. Happiness comes from within. In order to be loved one has to learn to love. Love should be unconditional. It is 100% on each person's part. Fear is not real. You are afraid of something that has not happened. Work on eliminating those thoughts. Ask yourself why you want to break up with your partner. Is it something that you will take to a new relationship? Have you discussed your thoughts with your partner? Discovering why you want to breakup can help you in future relationships. It will also help you to determine if the issue is within you or your partner.

I had the exact same thoughts during and after the break up with my first boyfriend, with whom we’ve been together 1,5 years. More than 10 years passed, and I am here to tell you, it is really not something you should fear. The reason for my fear was that I thought I knew how the world works. It was quite a simplistic view. The pretty, nice, smart, funny girls can make their way in life, they will be the ones having successful career, being able to new partners any time they want and live in a happy relationship. The whole package. The my kind of people, quite shy, not really attractive or too ‘anything noticeable and positive’, should live under rocks, because, well nobody cares. But what I learned is that nothing is just black and white and the world is full of different lives, types of people, stories, needs. You are needed and wanted and worthy. Your thoughts will be the most interesting things for someone and your smile the most precious. The next relationship might not gonna work out or the one after that. You will probably have periods when you won’t be with someone. It may not sound very motivating right now. But along the way you will learn things about yourself and you will learn to see some positive, love-worthy things about yourself. And that is the most amazing achievement, to be comfortable with yourself. Try to aim for that and it’s okay to be afraid on the way, but keep on walking.

YOU can love yourself. You don't need someone to love you. Just believe in yourself. It's enough. Enjoy your life. You know that someday you won't have your heart flutter when you hear his/her name. But you'll giggle when you see how far you've come, how strong you are, how you didn't give enough credit to yourself. Believe that there'll be love coming at you once you love yourself. You won't always get what you want. You won't always deserve what you get. But life give you thick fogs so you can grit your teeth, and declaring that you won't give up. That you will slowly, and steadily, walk to get out of the fogs.

I've been there and I know how hard and scary it can be, but if that's something that you want, I think you should always put yourself first. Don't suffer from something you can "get out off" just because you're scared of the unknown, it's gonna be an adventure and I know you are brave enough to start that adventure. The world is full of love yet to discover, and if you don't feel right, that's not your person. Your person is still going to show up and give you everything and all the love you deserve. You deserve the world, don't accept less than that.

Are you still happy? It's the question I keep on asking my mind before when I've been on the same situation. I was afraid that no one will love me again. That I will be left alone. But I wanted to be happy. I thought about it. It's scary to suddenly be left alone. But hey, I remembered, why will I be scared that no one will love me? I have my family, my friends. God too. And most importantly, I have myself. Learn to love yourself more. Soon, the right person will see your worth too. Don't be afraid to let go if you're not happy anymore. Your happiness is what important.

Know your worth and work on your self love. If you want to break up with someone it's because you're not feeling happy and love: which you deserve both. Learn how to enjoy your own company, learn how to be your best friend. Don't be afraid of going to the movies alone. Don't be afraid of going to the beach by yourself. If you love yourself your fear stops making sense. If you love yourself you can't be afraid that no one will ever love you again: you already do. You should be in a relationship because you want to. Not because you feel like you need to. Not because you feel like you have to. Love Yourself.

Why should you feel afraid of a new opportunity in your life? There has to be something great about you, that the person has falling in love with you in the first place. Maybe it's something the next person would cherish more. Why settle for less if your not happy with where you're at? What do you believe is your greatest characteristics? Some people dont realize what's out there, because they've gotten to comfortable with what they have. Exploring beyond your boundaries could be the best thing you've ever done. We never catch what matters the most to us because we are to focused on benefitting someone else and their needs.

Just because you break up with someone, it does not mean another person will not love you. Learning to love and let go is very, very hard, however, sometimes convincing yourself that there isn't just two people in the world. There is I think more than 7.5 billion people. Out of all these people, yes it may be difficult to find the "right one". Answering the question, you want to break up but is scared that nobody will love you. As mentioned before, try convincing yourself, and if that is hard (most possibly may be) talk to someone else.