I want a baby but my boyfriend doesn't yet. What should I do?

Respect your boyfriend. It might not make sense now and may be frustrating but It is worth the wait.

Would you like to tell me the reasons why you feel so strongly about wanting to have a baby at the minute? Have you had a "sit-down" conversation with your boyfriend regarding this?

You should definitely wait. The decision to become parents should not be taken lightly. It's a life-long commitment that requires you to be "on the job" 24 hours a day, seven days a week for the first 18 years. It's not an easy job either. Even when things are going perfectly parenting requires a lot of time, energy and sacrifice. What if things do NOT go perfectly? What if you have to face a medically complicated pregnancy or give birth to a child with special needs? If both parents aren't 100% ready to commit to becoming a parent then the job of parenting can become even more complicated. Healthy relationships require us to make compromises on a regular basis... Settling for Chinese food when you're really craving Italian or going to see an action/adventure movie when you were in the mood for a comedy. When to start a family, however, is not something that can be compromised; both people need to be ready.

Congrats on making the most incredible decision a woman can make! I would see if he has an idea of when he would like to start trying first and foremost... The last thing I would do is make sure the two of you are on the same page with when you want to have a baby. Be direct and express your feelings and use "I" statements along with "I feel like" feeling statements. Concluding the "TALK," I would celebrate this amazing milestone in your relationship by having a mini-party with close friends and family with friends. Take care! - Robert -

Having a baby is a life changing step. Putting pressure on your boyfriend will only make the situation worse and cause him to back away. Gentle discussions about how you both feel and the expectations you each have of what you imagine life would look like when you are ready can help you understand where your boyfriends thoughts are. For example, he may not feel that as a couple you are suitably financially secure or he may feel that he has not accomplished something in his life yet. It is very difficult when your maternal instincts have kicked in and your partner is not ready. Sometimes it can feel like life gives you constant reminders about what is lacking in your life and it can hurt. Having a relaxed, compassionate and loving conversation about it will at least possibly shed some light on how you both feel and you may even be able to come to a place of understanding between you.

Take it at a slow pace. I would highly encourage getting married before having a child since anything can happen. A child needs stability in his or her life. Ensure that everything is ready and financially set for a baby. Make a plan with your mate. Tell him how long you're willing to wait and ask him how long he wants to wait. Perhaps meet in the middle somewhere. If both parents are not on board for a new baby, things could turn ugly fast.

I think you must talk to him and try to convince him and ask why doesn't he want a baby.Then you both must try to understand each other and get a right solution

Depending on why your bf does not want the child yet. Maybe you guys should discuss things over and know each others reasons and weigh it to make a decision. Taking care of a child takes team work so its good if both of you can work together before bringing a child into the equation.

When you want a baby but your boyfriend doesn't just wait and give him time until he's ready. When your both ready then he might want one, for him he has to think things over so just give him space about it.

Try to see things from his point of view. Ask him why he doesn't want a baby, and share your thoughts on why you want a baby. You two can come up with a plan on where to go with your relationship and when you'd both be ready for a baby. Respect his decision, and talk about your thoughts.