I still have dreams about my ex, sometimes they're good and sometimes they're bad. What does that mean?
Anonymous
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Jun 9, 2021
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Many times our brains want to figure some things out, things maybe left unsolved. Other times it might mean you miss that person or that you want to live again some moments even if they're created in your head while sleeping. Maybe some things are triggering the memories of that person and that's the reason why you're having dreams with that person. There are many reasons why you might still have dreams about a person whether it is an ex or someone else.
It is completely normal to happen, specially when some things are inconclusive in someone's thoughts or feelings or experiences lived with that person.
Anonymous
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Jun 17, 2021
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If someone is still on your unconscious mind, it means you haven't been able to get over the event. Regardless of them being good, or bad, the mere fact that you are constantly dreaming about them is a glaring hint that you need to resolve the issue. Whether that's by coming to terms with how you're feeling, or taking time to practice self-care so that you feel more confident about YOU than them. Perhaps you didn't have time to get over the breakup or your ex is someone that you find it hard to get over, it's your body's way of telling you to take care of how you're feeling inside. You've got this, we're all rooting for you.
calmMoon2479
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Jun 24, 2021
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Hi,
Having dreams about your ex and the associated attachments sound natural. We all form attachment bonds to others we become close to and when we lose these connections it takes time and care to process, like cutting off a plant stem, we still have our roots and know that a new stem will grow, but only if given time, and the right attention.
As for what it means, perhaps it's your body giving you a sign that there are still things it needs to process from that time and it feels that now is perhaps the right time to do so. Perhaps it may help to discuss the details of your dream with someone who will listen closely, as well as explore what may be important to you about the relationship to you still. Alternatively, taking time for yourself to write out the events of the dream or your past relationship on paper/ digitally, it may give you some perspective, which you can repeat at a latter time and compare.
Lastly, I think it's positive that you are taking the time to notice and seek to process your dreams about your ex step by step. To have something mentally reoccur a lot is often a sign it is important and to bury it would likely only make it more intense.
Good luck with your exploration, please take it at your own pace, to process an emotion/ significant event is never a strait light, but more like feeling your way through a dark room.
Thanks again for reaching out and take care.
AMomentInTime1830
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Jul 9, 2021
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This doesn’t necessarily have to mean anything. Sometimes people or things can appear in our dreams simply because they’ve been a part of our lives. Looking at your dreams and the other components within it, may help you better determine what your subconscious may be trying to tell you. How does the dream play out? Who was in it? What were your surroundings? And what was the general feeling of the dream? Taking a deeper look into your dreams can often help to show you what they really mean, and expose what may be happening in your life that you may feel unsettled or confused about
NinaBee
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Jul 14, 2021
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Dreams don't have a clearly defined reason for existing. There are theories, of course, that they're everything from a message from our subconscious to just the side effect of your neurons being stimulated while processing the day's events. But assuming dreams do have meaning, it's very possible your dreams are telling you that they meant a lot to you, and maybe they still do. It could also mean you have unfinished business. It's completely up to you, however, if it's worth your energy to seek that closure, or just forgive them and move on. It could also just mean they're a familiar face and an easy one for your brain to reconstruct from memory. So the short answer is it really depends on the relationship you had, and what you believe about dreams. What you give importance to.
Elleelf
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Oct 21, 2021
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Its normal to start having dreams, and it may be because you think about them often. When we think about things a lot, we often then start having dreams about them.
It may also be that you have not yet completely healed from your past relationship and if so, it might help to jump into the queue for a listener so that you can share what you are going through and talk more about how you are feeling about yourself and towards your ex. You can share your experience and your thoughts as to why you believe this is happening. Hope that helped :).
sereneHug6809
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Nov 10, 2021
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Dreams have many meanings. Sometimes dreams are our body and brain trying to process our complex emotions. We may not know how we feel and our mind tries to figure this out. This can cause of us to ruminate, which won't get us to a helpful answer. Instead we should take a different approach. For example, reaching out for help from a therapist or using the 7 cups guide to find practical solutions to resolve feelings. We could try to gain new perspectives on our problem, think about it in a new way that allows us to focus on our values and achieve our goals.
Anonymous
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Nov 24, 2021
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Your brain is just processing everything that happened! I thought mine once meant more, but reconnecting with my ex just brought me more pain that I didn't need to go through. When we sleep-and sleep is important-our brain is actually clearing out all of the muck of the day, like taking out the trash and sanitizing. Everything that was left over gets cleared away and there's more room for tomorrow's information and sensory input! What's really happening with your dreams is your brain is most likely clearing out the rubbish bin and scraping away the negative experiences. Just continue to get some rest and take care of yourself!
Chattytalker1
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Nov 30, 2021
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I know when having dreams, in this case about your ex could mean that there may be unfinished business or questions that you need answers to. Maybe it's a sign that you need to deal with that relationship(s) issues as there is unfinished business. Maybe there are feelings that you didn't realize you still had. I know for myself I had to do some self care and therapy in order to get over the relationship as it was toxic and very unhealthy. Look into yourself, some soul searching and maybe you can come up with an answer or maybe you may need some professional help to help you understand why these dreams keep happening.
kareladahiwala
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Dec 4, 2021
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A dream symbolizes as much as you want it to. If you think it is important for you to understand what this dream means, then you can think of it as your ex having a lasting impact on you and the dream merely symbolizes the ups and downs you faced in your relationship. On the other hand, it could also mean that you are trying your best to move on hence you are able to look at both the good and the bad sides. However, it could also simply mean nothing so it depends on what you would like to do with the information your dreams provide.
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