I regret breaking up with my ex. What should I do?

Try to remember why you broke up in the first place. We often look back fondly at the good moments in our lives and gloss over the negatives. Chances are that if you do this, you will know if you are able to live with whatever it was. If you can and your ex partner wants to try again then you can choose to do this. If however you don't think you could get over whatever split you up, you can think about moving on. Sometimes a little distance can help us to see things differently. Give yourself time. We often feel lonely when a relationship ends. It's natural that you will miss the relationship.

You should reach out to them, but not right away. You need to give the person space to cool off and process. They are probably very hurt, sad, and angry. Give them at least a few days to think and process, then you may reach out. I suggest calling or Facetiming them because things get lost in translation through texting and Snapchattinyg. There is a chance you hurt them too badly for them to ever forgive you, but there is also a chance that they want you back. Have a mature conversation. Make eye contact, think before you speak, and leave the room if you need to compose yourself. Take deep breaths until you feel calm and level-headed. Ultimately, respect their decision even if it's not the one you wanted them to make. You will heal with time and you can talk to any listener on here.

Depends on how the breakup happened. Is the situation changed in a good way? Or everything is just like before? We miss our ex-partners deeply because they were our happy place, but we must not forget what made us do that decision. If something happened once, and the situation hasn't changed, it's unlikely there will be something good out of it. Take back the pieces of your shattered heart and slowly put them back together. Give yourself enough time to heal. Life moves forwards. If one day you will meet again to make it work, you both need to be different people. Or maybe you will find a brand new partner, ready to discover a whole new universe. Things can change in an instant, so take your time to be at your best, the opportunities will come by themselves. I am sure you will be just there ready to catch them all!

Do anything that you are able to control. Keep calm, forgive yourself, be honest and open, and try to identify why do you feel that way: regreat breaking up with your ex. Then make decisions that are based on that. For example, if you find yourself that you took the decision of breaking up due to a impulsive reaction, then try to initiate a connection with your ex, first, and when is the right moment, explain honestly your position and what you are feeling. If you are not sure about why you are feeling that way. Take your time, let time be the judge of what you are feeling and thinking and then try to connect with you again and think about what happened

I know this is hard, but reach out to him/her/them! Explain your situation at let them know how they feel. If that doesn't work out, then I suggest that you move on. It is best to focus on yourself first before you focus on others! Perhaps taking some time for yourself and doing activities that you enjoy will help you. Sometimes taking a walk helps me clear out my mind and instantly puts me in a better mood after. Listening to good music or spending quality time with family and friends can also be good resources for moving on. Eventually time will pass and you will move on! I hope you feel better soon! Have a great day!

I can imagine that this relationship meant a lot to you and you are definitely not a lone in these feelings. What elements of the relationship do you miss? How was the relationship overall and how did it lead you to breaking up with your ex? Were these warranted? Whether they were or not, ask yourself what made you end things in the first place and see if this reminder will give you the peace you may be looking for. Take the time you need to process the relationship, it definitely meant a lot to you as you feel regret but ask yourself where is this regret coming from? How did these feelings occur? Start to search from within and figure out how you came to this realization.

Think about why you broke up with your ex. What led you to making that decision. Breaking up can be really hard. Have you reflected on the positive and negative aspects of being in that relationship? Do you miss your ex? or do you just miss being in a relationship? I cannot tell you what to do, because every relationship and situation is different. What I will share is that ending a relationship brings up many emotions you may not have felt for a while. It may be difficult to live without the person you have been with for a long time. You will get through this.

When feeling regret after breaking up with someone, perhaps the first place to start is to explore why there are feelings of regret. When a person has been with someone for a while, having found a balance, they grow comfortable in the relationship. Then something occurs which interrupts the balance. With this interruption, feelings of uncertainty can arise. Uncertainty can often be accompanied by anxiety. in these moments if our awareness drops, we can make decisions which are not well thought out. This same dynamic plays out after a break up. The break up is certainly an interruption which disrupts the balance and comfort which were found in the relationship. Essentially this is a space of growth, and places of growth are usually not comfortable. We are no longer who we were and not yet who we will become. Many times people will make the decision to go back to the ex to try and find the space of comfort again. This is quite often not the best idea. It is easy to forget the reasons we ended the relationship in the first place. When the regret rises, perhaps the first thing to do is pause. This gives time to reflect on possible thoughts of rekindling the relationship. By giving oneself some time, either alone or with a trusted confidant can help to illuminate what is really going on with the feelings of regret. Is it that we are lonely, anxious, unsure of ourselves? If these reasons are at play in the regret then it is probably a good thing to work on those first. Those have more to do with us, than with the ended relationship. As we address those we become emotionally healthier and may not need the relationship. Another factor is grief. A breakup brings many losses. The loss of the relationship, the loss of hopes and dreams which we had about the relationship, and a loss of understanding of ourselves. This grief is very similar to the grief we experience when someone dies. We have to give ourselves time to grieve, and this is hard work. We also have to practice self-compassion and radical kindness with ourselves. This gives us space to work through all of the complicated feelings such as regret, sadness, anger, and loneliness. That which we do not grieve will always come back to haunt us. The grief work also gives us time to become who we are becoming. If we do the grief work, and give ourselves time we may find that we do not really regret the breakup. If after the time, we still find regret, the we can look at the pros and the cons of rekindling the relationship.

Consider all the reasons for your break up. How did they treat you, did they respect you, did you feel loved and appreciated by them. Remember the feelings associated with the reasons you broke up. Did you smile, laugh, or even feel relaxed. Or did you feel tense and not knowing what the next moment may bring. Now consider why you are really feeling the way you do in the present moment. Is it regret or perhaps loneliness. You are worth every bit of happiness. There was a reason you broke up and you deserve to trust yourself in that decision. What are your thoughts on this ?

Examine why you broke up; what did you not know then that you know now? Was the break up really the worst thing that could have happened? Do you even have a new found appreciation for your ex? Maybe let them know this, that's always good to hear! If they're willing to talk, great but if not, let things be for at least 12 weeks. By then your feelings may have changed and you might come to realise that your gut instinct was right first time. A bit of space might be one of the best things that could have happened in your relationship with that person. In the meantime, take care of yourself and keep busy!