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I regret breaking up with my ex. What should I do?

Profile: LoverOfHappiness
LoverOfHappiness on Aug 6, 2016
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Have a nice quiet alone time with yourself. Make sure you want to take the venture out to going back to your ex, because you broke up for a reason. See if the reason was a valid one in your book and if you still feel it was a mistake; then by all means take a time to have a face to face discussion with your ex and see where that leaves the two of you.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 10, 2016
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Think about what you want. Think about why you're missing them. Is it because you're lonely, or because you genuinely want them back in your life?
Profile: Supergirl94
Supergirl94 on Aug 10, 2016
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Talk to them. Explain what happened, how you felt afterwards and why you regret breaking up with them, why you want to be together with them again
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 15, 2016
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Try talking to him/her and say how you've been feeling! Maybe they share the same feelings as you, because they weren't the ones who chose to break up.
Profile: justheretohelpyou
justheretohelpyou on Aug 21, 2016
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The most important thing after a breakup is to give the other person some time and space to think. You should use this time wisely too, find an alternative distraction and find something creative to do to turn any negative thoughts you may be having into positive ones. After that, writing down how you feel is a good start, and then you can be completely honest about how you feel with your ex, tell them how you're feeling once you have given them the time and space you need, they might not want to get back together, but don't let that deter you, a good friendship is the best possible thing that can come out of a situation like this :D
Profile: GeekRabbit
GeekRabbit on Aug 23, 2016
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Ask yourself if you really miss him as a person, or you just miss the relationship, having someone, os having something stable.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 24, 2016
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I feel as thought you should try talking to your ex, if that doesn't work. Try to refrain from contact of wanting to get in a relationship and just stay friends, and see where it goes from there.
Profile: gentleLight16
gentleLight16 on Aug 26, 2016
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That will be determined by led to the break up, if it is something fixable that you overacted on without being rational then you can request to meet with him and apologize and see if he is still available for and willing to fix things . If he has moved on already then learn from the mistake and make sure that you do not repeat it in the next relationship
Profile: wonderousWhisper18
wonderousWhisper18 on Aug 27, 2016
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well then you should call them and and fix the situation if they are willing to do that and have still feeling
Profile: TheLuckyFox
TheLuckyFox on Sep 4, 2016
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Sometimes we can feel feelings from our past... Sometimes these are residual, sometimes these are merely results of habit, sometimes it's a residual flame, and sometimes it's comfort in what you previously knew... But the truth is, you know what is right for you... You know what your should do... Maybe that's playing a song from a boom box outside their bedroom window like in that movie, or maybe it's getting back into a saying scene... Be cautious, friend, but don't be afraid!
Profile: taniaviridiana
taniaviridiana on Sep 9, 2016
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I shoul talk to him, ask for forgiveness and hope for the best. If is not for me move on and feel bad for some time and get over it.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 19, 2016
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You should think about why you broke up with him/her and if the reasons seem meaningless,try to approach them but becareful they might have change their mind about you too!
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Anonymous on Sep 24, 2016
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Call you're ex at the first instance and state how you feel. Trying is always better than regrets ..
Profile: Jbthai
Jbthai on Oct 22, 2016
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There are a lot of variables to account for. Ask yourself appropriate questions that you need to answer to. Why did you break up with your ex? What is holding me back from moving on? Was being with my ex making me unhappy with who I was when I was with him? My advice is to not rush into getting back with your ex, but to take time thinking about your well-being and whether your reasons for regretting breaking up is due to loneliness or something else.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 31, 2016
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You should talk to your ex. Tell him/her that maybe you were just clouded with emotions when you said that. And if she understands, give the relationship another chance. But if not, leave.
Profile: generousWaterfall39
generousWaterfall39 on Dec 10, 2016
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It depends. Do you remember the reasons you left? Sometimes people miss being with someone and forget the reasons things were not working well. Time and introspection help with this. It is also a two way street. Your ex may or may not be able to return to the relationship. Either way, be sure you respect yourself as well as your ex. Be honest, communicate and know that you want to try to reconcile for the right reasons.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 10, 2017
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Depends on the way you broke up with them and the duration since your breakup. If the breakup was an emotional decision in an angry moment for any reason; disloyalty included, it'd be relatively easier to return back together once both sides are calm and one side takes the initiative in bringing it up for a mature discussion about what happened and try to find out the possibilities of weather what happened can be overlooked in favour of continuing the relationship or if ending it is better so both sides won't have to endure stress that relationships are meant to counter . Of course Time plays a major role here, you can't just disappear for a year and come back without fear :p ! The second scenario is a bit messy; and I mean if both/either one of them had thought it all out and gradually lost interest in their partner (or in each other), and once it was all done they regret they might have done a mistake, they regret not appreciating the person they had with them! An apology simply won't cut it(except if your partner is really mad in love with you and couldn't just move on, would be easier to apologise and get embraced again :) ). This second case is a bit tricky, and quite Difficult to tackle ; nonetheless; there is always hope! One should improvise and tackle the situation according to their understanding of their partner and the circumstances in which the events took place, no one else can do that for ya! Good luck
Profile: Dingleberrez
Dingleberrez on Jul 14, 2017
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Relationships can be really tough because there never seems to be a right answer. Search for what you really need in a relationship versus what you're willing to give up for someone you care about. Clearing up your own needs will help you decide what to do next.
Profile: MeetVirginia
MeetVirginia on Jul 16, 2017
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Sometimes identifying the reasons you broke up, writing them down and seeing a clear picture of why the relationship ended can be a great place to start. I like to write down some things I can identify with triggering those feelings of regret. I then take each one individually and assigning it to a pro or cons category. Beyond that deciding whether the relationship can be repaired or if you still interested in pursuing it. I have had it work both ways for me. Try this when you feel you are in a calm state. I definitely find it difficult to make decisions when I am upset. 7cups is a community of compassionate listeners and sometime just expressing those to someone who will listen without bias can be very helpful as well. Best of Luck. Feel free to reach out again!
Profile: heavenYellow54
heavenYellow54 on Jul 22, 2017
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Every song ends, but can that be a reason not fall in love with music? Breakups are difficult and not easy to happen. And if it happens , it does for a reason. If you think the reason is strong enough then you should stop regretting and keep your self as busy as you can. Do some charity, help people, spread love. That will make you happy. And eventually you will find someone to fall in love with.
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