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I regret breaking up with my ex. What should I do?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 6, 2019
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Move on. Let go. Trying to fill your life with other meaningful things. You can't turn back the time. Accept it. Try to open up your heart to a new person. It's never a good idea to read the same book. Because you know how it ends. Sure it's not easy but the best way to deal with it is accept it and you will gain a peace of mind. I honestly still love him. They best thing I can do is pray for him and hope he has a good life. Unless you two still have the same feelings.
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Well, this question requires a little bit more context. As a general rule, if someone is your ex, they're your ex for a reason. You may miss the familiarity, the expression, and attributes about them - but if you felt strongly enough to break up with them, the odds are that maybe this is a boundary you need to maintain. If it didn't work then, it's unlikely to work now. But if you feel that strongly, I would open the discussion with your ex about how you feel, and see how they feel about it was well? I can't give further advice than that, i'm afraid.
Profile: Heretolovexx
Heretolovexx on Feb 7, 2019
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Reflect on the background of why you broke up with him/her. Do you think it will be better to be apart, or could things work out again? Reflect on why you chose to end the relationship and what you can do in the future to avoid the situation. How about consider talking to him or her about possibly making things work again? If you are not comfortable with that just realize that there was a reason the relationship had to come to an end and never blame yourself for something that didn’t work out. There are so many people who would love to be with you and don’t take it personally because one person did not work out
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Breaking up with anyone is a difficult choice to make. So there must have been some underlying issues or concerns that made you make that decision in the first place. So now you must be feeling some doubt about your reasoning from back then. My best advice would be to look back on his you were feeling in that moment and determine whether the reasons you had at the time affect your life the same way now that they did back then. Sometimes in life you can feel lonely and think that you are missing something but really you are just misguided and having some doubts within yourself. Best of luck!
Profile: Wittie96
Wittie96 on Mar 17, 2019
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Sit back and think about what is making you feel like you regret breaking up with this person. Do you regret it because you miss them? Do you regret it because you think you’ve done something wrong in the break up? Do you regret it because you want the relationship back? Think of all of the pros and cons of being with this person. Is this a person support you and your dreams? Are they good for your well-being? Did they let you have relationships with your friends and family? Only you can answer these questions in the end. Good luck and I hope this helps a little bit.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 27, 2019
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An intimate relationship between two people can never be judged by another. Both of you know best what to do. Maybe you could talk to them about it. It would at least relieve you of bottling up your feelings and hurting yourself in the process. Or before that give it some thought, why did you break up with them? Does the reason still stand valid? Would it be best to reach out to them and talk things through? What are the consequences? What is the best and worst case scenario? Thinking about all that will really help you open up to yourself so you can make the best decision. Remember to take care of yourself. You are just as precious as anyone else. So don't hurt yourself in the process. I wish you all the best.
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enchantingReeds5270 on Jul 4, 2019
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As with most things in relationships, the answer comes down to communication. Direct, honest, communication. Before you reach out, however, think through what led to your regrets- is it a general sadness over having broken up, or a desire for this specific person despite the faults that led to the breakup? If you've recognized that the breakup was hasty or that the problems could have been resolved and you have the desire to work on them, it's time to reach out to your ex. Explain what you're feeling and thinking, candidly. Your ex is probably hurting too, so be empathetic and listen to what they have to say in response. Talk through what led to the breakup and your plan for how it could be resolved together, and then accept your ex's answer, yes or no, with grace.
Profile: Hanaa00
Hanaa00 on Jul 10, 2019
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Regretting the breakup. I feel like we have all experienced it in one way or another. But in my experience, it is a phase of a breakup where I doubt my decision, where i miss the person so much and where I’m so incredibly tempted to try to just get back to them. But I always try to objectively look at all of it as well. I first acknowledge that it’s a natural stage of grieving process, if you will. And I always try and remember why we broke up in the first place. Something led to that breakup that’s an indication of that relationship not working all that perfectly, therefore valid reason for a breakup exist.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 17, 2019
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Move on and find yourself. When you made a conscious decision to break up with someone, you are also making a conscious effort to let the other person know that whatever you may have been feeling for them is no longer present. If such a regret pops up, that could possibly mean two things. If the relationship was healthy, and it was going well, it shows that you were hasty with your decisions, and you now have a chance to work on being more patient and understanding with what you really want. Maybe talking about what you feel is wrong with the relationship with your partner will actually help strengthen it more. If the relationship was unhealthy, then it means you need treatment to help you with the trauma of feeling empty without them because they have made themselves a prime figure in your life by eliminating everything else that was probably important to you. This may not be the case for everyone, and everyone's case is different, but the one thing is that without regrets, we can't be our better selves. So move on and find yourself because the only person you can truly love is yourself.
Profile: darquem
darquem on Aug 28, 2019
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It depends on the circumstances - if the breakup wasn't too acrimonious and you feel like contacting them wouldn't have a terrible effect on the progress they've made without you, then try reaching out. If they want nothing to do with you, try to apologize for what you've done and learn to live with your decision, but be ready for the potential "I never want to hear from you again". Another thing is, ask yourself if you really regret breaking up, or of they've simply picked their life up and done more with themselves than you have since the breakup - trying to reestablish contact with someone who's made great strides to move on while you've made little to no progress is unproductive and unfair to both parties.
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