I love two different people. What should I do?

There is this saying that if you love someone and a new person is introduced whom you gain an attraction for, you should choose the second lover as if you truly loved the first one, you wouldn't fall for another. I think that quote is crap. You could love two people for various reasons. Each person brings out a different side of you and you have a different connection with the both of them. Maybe lover 2 makes you step out of your comfort zone and makes you feel alive while lover 1 makes you appreciate the little things and makes you feel happy. Who would you choose? It depends on what you need. If lover 2 gives me something that I'm lacking such as trill and adventure, pursue them. If lover 2 brings out the best in me and makes me feel good about myself which I lack, go for that person. Make a list, point out how this person affects you both positively and negatively, do you see yourself long term with this person?

It depends on what do you mean with love. If it means that you like both of these people as humans and that you like to spend time with them (they are your friends or just acquaintances), it is great and it can be fulfilling for your soul. If you mean romantic love, then you can maybe consider who do you prefer to spend rest of your life with. Select one of them, not both. Then you can consider engaging with this person romantically, while tell other person in polite and kind way that you haven't got romantic interest in them (singular them!) but if you are comfortable with and person you love romantically agrees, you can remain just friends with this other person.

Being in love is supposed to be a positive thing. You can enjoy spending time with someone you care about and start working toward building a future together. What if you care about two people in the same way? Is it possible to be in love with two people? Whether it's possible or not, this has the potential to be disastrous. It will be vital to determine who you truly love out of the two people you're in love with. Though you might love two people, most situations will not allow you to keep two lovers. This is definitely seen as taboo in most mainstream cultures, although some exceptions will be discussed later. Regardless, you need to do the right thing for the other people involved in this love triangle.

Thank you for reaching out! This is a difficult situation to be in no matter who you are. The thing is that we generally never want to hurt another person, especially if we have been hurt in the same way. It’s important to reflect on how you feel about loving two different people and what kind of support you would like regarding your feelings. You are asking what you should do about your feelings for these two people. Ask yourself about your whether or not your relationship status makes you feel afraid of loving two people? It’s understandable that if you already are in a relationship you may experience feelings of guilt and shame and not know how to go by ending your relationship with someone. Ask yourself who the better fit for you is currently and who you can see a future with and why. To get your thoughts flowing and a stronger awareness it may benefit you to write down why you are attracted to each person and also the pros and cons of being with them. The thing is no matter how hard you try somebody always ends up getting hurt. As difficult as it is be honest and compassionate with yourself and pick anyone in your support group you trust to talk about this. You are also welcome to explore your thoughts and feelings further with any one of our amazing listeners or therapists on our site. Hope you make a decision that feels healthy for you and those in your life that would be affected.

It's okay to love more than one person . We love our parents , friends , sibling and also we have crush on ppl , celebrities ., but be clear about your feelings. and about the relationship you have with each person. To be exact if you like two persons of opposite gender or same gender in a romantic way just remember - 'if you like the person or love the person' . Ask this to yourself. And chose the one for you. You will be confused between like and love or crush and infatuation.. it's okay to be confused. Take your time and progress slowly. And try not to hurt anyone after your decision.

I think it's important to recognise that love. Do you want a relationship? If yes, it's important that they return the same feelings. If they do, which person can you commit to. Which person do you trust to commit to you, and who do you think you'll feel secure with to develop independence in the relationship. A relationship that you're happy and secure in takes a lot more than just love. It can be difficult to build. Which person out of the two do you trust to be that person in your life, the person you can feel secure with no matter what.

Be honest with yourself and with others. Take some time to reflect on what you truly desire and need, and ensure that you are not only honoring yourself, but you are treating others with the respect and kindness they deserve. Remember to be kind to yourself. Know that this may be an uncomfortable experience for all involved. Focus on the good in yourself, others, and the situation. Instead of avoiding conflict, be proactive and try to find a path forward. It may not be easy, but you will be moving toward happiness for all involved. Stay positive and keep your heart open.

Carefully consider your feelings. Some people are capable of loving more than one. That's why polyamorous relationships exist. However, if you're certain you're not that type, then it's imperative that you focus on how you really feel about both those people. Usually, the second person is favored more, because if you really loved the first person, you wouldn't have fallen for the second. Although, if you're already in a relationship with one of them, perhaps consider looking into why you're not happy in that relationship because there's obviously something lacking that you've sought in the second person. But if that's not the case, and you are indeed in love with two different people, take a moment to consider whether you want it to be one or the other or you want to have both. And if you decide to have both, then go for it. Why not?

Weigh out your options. Balance 'em out. Place them beside each other (in your mind or literally, that'll have to be your choice), and there will always be that someone who holds a larger part of your heart. I suggest making a list of traits you're looking for and see for yourself who fits best. If you're unsure about which of them is ready to love you back, it's okay to ask. If you're not yet ready for any sort of confrontation, then you could stay quiet and observe, and pay attention to both of them more. Spend some quality time together and see who makes you happier. This may seem like a hard job, but as long as you follow and listen to your heart, all will be well.

First of all you need to determine what you see and experience as love and if one could possible be love or if it could be lust. This is harsh but if you think you are in love with two people are you really in love with either? Now I don't say this to be mean or cruel but love is often an emotion that is out of our control and can consume us. If you are questioning if you love the two different people maybe take a step back. Think about what love means to you and if you love yourself as well as this is most important.