I love two different people. What should I do?

Follow your heart. Write Pros & Cons for each person. Which one do you feel like more yourself with. Who brings out the best version of you.

It is hard to distinguish sometimes pleasure from love, love from liking, appreciating from deep connection that can manifest on different levels. It is not easy sometimes to listen your own thoughts and tune into your essence and figure out what is really going on. What do we really feel towards other person? Maybe we should spend more time figuring out our own feelings and see if we really do love two different people or if we find with them different part of the image that we like about ourselves. It is also quite possible that we do not love any of them if we look deep enough into the ocean of our emotions and finding the real reason why do we feel these emotions. It seems that we need to spend more time with ourselves if we believe in commitments. If we don't the question does not need to be explored further.

I've been in this situation at least twice, So I truly understand what you mean, what you're going through, etc. However, it is unlikely that you love both of them equally, the same way, to the same extent, etc. Try to figure out differences in your relationships with both of them. Who do you feel more like yourself with? Who makes you laugh more? Who can you talk about your feelings and thoughts more easily? The answer to all these questions wouldn't be the same person. Just weigh your options and see who you would like to be with more. This might take really long to understand and figure out, but the final answer or conclusion will be worth it. Also. I would like you to know that you don't HAVE to choose. You don't owe anyone the choice. If you feel Like you can't choose one person, or you can't hurt one of them, you really don't have to choose. You can stay friends with both of them instead, and live the moment. Not choosing gives you freedom, it ensures that no one is hurt and it also gives you peace. It could be very liberating. And then there's an option of choosing both and being in a polyamorous relationship. However, please communicate with each other If you do go for it. And I understand that it isn't for everyone, and I respect if you and/or the people you love don't want it. What you decide is your personal choice and remember that no one, not even these answers should influence your choices. I'm sure both of these people will respect your choice(s) too.

It's hard to choose between 2 people who you love dearly. The best you can do is to spend time with them separately and make sure if you love one more or if you find out you don't love them like you thought you did. If that doesn't work you can always just make a pros and cons list which sounds silly but it helps more than you think, I've been in a similar situation and I had a friend tell it me it sounded stupid but a pros and cons list is the way to go even if it seems silly.

That is a hard decision to make. However, honestly it all depends on you. I suggest to weigh out what you like from each person and what you do not like. Try to ask yourself to, "Are we really compatible?" "What do we have in common?" "What do I like about him or her?". I believe the more that you have in common with your partner, the higher the possibility of your relationship to last long. Also, try to gauge how the person reacts during you are down times. Like, how they interact with you when you are not your best self. All of these are just suggestions, but honestly when it comes to relationship, you'll just feel if they are the right one. Good luck!

Figure out who you can live life without. If one matters more that is the person you have more feelings for. It isn't fair to string someone along for your benefit or as a back up plan. When you figure out who you can live without then you need to be honest with them and let them move on with their life. Being honest now will prevent more heartache in the long run. If you sought out the attention and love of another that means you were not happy. It also proves something was missing from your initial relationship and you need to address what that was.

I cannot tell you what to do because you know your self best, but the best option is to think of why each individual makes you happy. Try to see the differences and what one is missing from the other. It can be very stressful in positions like these. Remember that you have time to think and you do not need to make any decisions right away. Your heart will always have a louder opinion but remember sometimes thats not always the opinion to focus on. With that being said, it’s important to focus on what your mind has to say as well.

I've loved two different people at once before. It's no picknick... To say the least. It kept me awake at night, because I was really tormented by the different feelings and thoughts going through my head. Eventually, a friend of mine recommended me a tip he learned from one of his therapists: Make a list... So I made a list with the 'pro's and contra's' for each person and this made things more clear for me then. I was able to choose rationally. Polyamory is also an option, but off course both people you love have to be up for it. And eventually this option makes things even more difficult...

Love is a great thing, and it must go as widely as possible, as far as we use this word to express a sincere wishing good for a person. Still, when it comes to choosing a partner for life (or a significant part of it), we have to choose one person. This must be a person we not only love, but who we feel comfortable with, and who will grow personally together with you. This must be a soulmate. It's quite a rare thing, so chances are that at least one of the two people you think about is not a good fit for this position. Take your time, and think about it long enough to be sure that you do the right choice.

i would choose whoever i think would make me more safe and happy in the long run, even if in the moment the other person is making me happier. i would choose the person who would stay with me through the good and the bad, even if we fight or are mad at each other. i would choose the one i think is better for my mental health and will provide more good memories than bad when i think about them when we have broken up. i would choose the one i can imagine a future with, like actually getting married and settling down with them and growing old with them.