I can't stop thinking about my crush. What should I do?
BigFaith98
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Mar 9, 2016
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So it seems like you have taken a special liking to a person, How long has this been going on for you?
CompassionateGirl90
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Jan 19, 2016
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Don't push yourself to stop thinking about them - that's resistance. Whenever you tell yourself, "Don't think about this," it just drives your mind to dwell on it more. If you're on good terms with your crush, look forward to the next time you'll interact with them and go on about your day like normal. It's important to still engage in things that you enjoy doing - whether that's learning, reading books, writing, games, etc. Think of what you did for enjoyment before your feelings for this person became so intense.
If you're not speaking to your crush because you don't know each other well, think about a way to break the ice. Remember that if you don't know the person well, then you may be attracted to an image you have in your mind of what they're like - and it may or may not be true. You may be attracted to someone's looks, but when you get to know them, they have a rude personality or aren't much fun to be around. If you realize they aren't what you imagined, that's OK! Better to break the illusion than hold on to it while your feelings build based on a false perception. If your crush turns out to be disappointing, then it makes it a bit easier to move on.
If you aren't on good terms with your crush because you were rejected, ask yourself if it's possible for you to simply be happy being their friend if that's an option. Sometimes people are afraid to get involved romantically and ruin the friendship; this could be why the other person turned you down. If they rejected you because you somehow aren't good enough for them and you can't be friends, remember that everyone gets rejected at some point. Maybe you took a chance, and that's very brave! The sting of rejection does not easily go away upon thinking these thoughts, but with time and practice, you can minimize the intensity of the emotion.
Always remember that you have a life and interests besides this person. Your life is your life.
And you never know when someone else may be crushing on you, too.
Caringmagic60
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Feb 10, 2016
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No matter how much I think about him he's just my crush.I can't have feelings for someone just because I think about him a lot
Bettershapes
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Apr 22, 2016
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Talk to them, tell them how you feel. I know it's scary, but now a days, in this lifetime, you dont know how much time you will have to tell them, dont waste it. Take a chance.
GentleShadows
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Jan 20, 2016
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If your crush is that prominent in your mind, do something about it! Your emotions are important. Tell them. If they respond positively, you'll be very happy that you did. If they respond negatively, then your heart may be broken for a bit, but you'll heal and eventually you'll be okay. No matter what, everything will turn out okay.
Anonymous
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Dec 8, 2017
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So I like this guy and he likes me but he friend zoned me cause he wasn’t ready but then one night he sent me some inappropriate photos and now I don’t know what to do? He’s gone away for three weeks with no phone and no way of communicating and it’s only been a week and I’m missing him more than I thought
sworkerpplegictaranahanif
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Jan 22, 2016
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It's not bad to think about one's crush. I personally rather term it healthy. But to a certain limit. The thought should not hamper your oath works or it should not become your obsession. Think about crush. But have a control on it. To have a control go out and have pro around and mostly train your mind that way. It's May be a little difficult but not impossible. And within your range of capacity.
Anonymous
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Feb 5, 2016
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I personally would come out and tell them exactly how you feel. Whats the worse that could happen, you get rejected? Fair enough, but you aren't with him/her now anyway so what do you have to lose? Be straight up and honest, tell them how you feel without the hesitation, if they dont feel the same thats fine you haven't got nothing to lose anyway, if they feel the same back thats an absolute bonus! Life is way too short to be worried about what people think, smile and be honest:-)
GentleNinja
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Mar 6, 2016
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Tell your crush how you feel. Pull him/her aside and let them know all your feelings towards them. You would be surprised how great that can feel regardless if they return your feelings or not. Best case scenario is they feel the same way and you get the kind of relationship you have been longing for. You get to live out your dreams rather than being stuck day dreaming. Worse case scenario is they do not feel the same way towards you. It will obviously hurt to be rejected even if they say they still want to be friends. However, you also will know how they feel towards you. You can stop dwelling on what could happen between the two of you. You won't be spending so much time thinking about your crush which will leave room for other things. It will decrease your anxiety and you can move onto someone else who will be better for you. I know it can be scary to confess your feelings to the person you have a crush on. It is scary for everyone but you might be surprised how understanding your crush will be. Good luck!
AlabamaLove
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Jan 22, 2016
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Express to you crush how you feel. Express your emotions. You'll get that burden off your chest and definitely feel better.
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