I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?

Think of why they are your ex. Were they toxic for you? Did they abuse you? Be thankful to be single

I understand it is difficult to forget a loved one. Especially if he or she was your life partner. I have gone through this phase and it was very painful. But what kept me going is the fact that "there is a rainbow after heavy showers." So I accepted what has happened and did not dwell in the past saying "what if.....". I went out and became active. Made new friends, made lifestyle changes and found new love. that's what I did and it worked for me.

Acceptance is the basic rule to getting over something. For as long as you hold on to that tiny shred of hope that someday he might come back, you will never be able to move forward. Moving on has certainly been really hard but courage and determination does the trick. The hope has to be foregone for the person to move on.

It is your loneliness that is causing your heart to reach out to your ex. When you solve the loneliness, you won’t miss your ex. Finding friends can be difficult if done randomly. Here are two suggestions: (1) Find a hobby outside the home that you really enjoy. You will meet people of both sexes doing the same thing. You will find it very easy to talk to them about your common interests. (2) Volunteer for a non-profit organization that is involved with some issue that you feel deeply about. Again, you will meet people with similar interests who will be happy to talk to you and befriend you.

I believe self-care is a huge part of moving on. Focusing on yourself . Going no-contact with the ex is important so you are not drawn back in. Making sure you not tempted to see their social media by blocking them. Deleting phone numbers etc. Sometimes seeing a therapist to help understand why you are unable to stop thinking of your ex and why you are having trouble moving on is helpful as well.

Getting over an ex takes time and I guess after 5 years you must have been very close. 5 years is a long time to share together so it would be hard to let go. I guess some options could be to accept you need time, do something for yourself, reflect on what you learned in the relationship.

I’m having the same struggle for the past 8 years and I’ve been married just over 6 years to someone else and have two children... 😔

Meet new people and places. There is so much to do in life all we have to do is to understand that life is a book with many chapters, if we keep thinking of an old interesting chapter then we can't really enjoy the essence of the present chapter. Present may be much more interesting than all the previous ones but you are not in line to enjoy that... Love is beautiful feeling that should make us cheerful. Love has no limits please be open and allow new love in your life... always remember "This too shall pass" in any situation. Good luck my friend

Examine what exactly you think about or remember each time you think of them. It's likely that a few key memories continue to circle in your mind because they represent a more basic and fundamental conflict you haven't resolved, one that continues to influence your thinking and behavior. You'll be surprised how looking at what you're thinking/remembering can reveal these simple but formative ideas you have about yourself and your relation to other people. Ask yourself when these memories appear; do they always appear in similar situations or in response to similar thought patterns? Give yourself over to this examination and let the core notions come through. You'll begin to notice things that were there all along but somehow hidden.

I know it feels bad that you can't get over them, but its okay. I know that it seems like a really long time but It will be okay It's completely normal. You might also feel sad and/or depressed but it might help if you talk about it . I understand that it might feel weird that you still can't get over him but it's also okay to feel like that. You can talk to some listeners on 7 cups if you are not able to find anyone to talk about it. I really hope that this helped you.