I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?

try new things, spend time with your friends and family, try a new hobby, practice coping skills such as journaling or reading, when a relationship ends, we grieve it like a death

I have been in a very similar situation and in all honesty getting over a break up is very hard. However, its important to think of it as a new opportunity for you to get to know yourself and meet some great and amazing friends along the way. But also don't be afraid to get back out there and try to make connections with other people even though it is a long and difficult process. Your happiness is worth fughting for! I hope that this was helpful to you in some way and that you find the peace that you are looking for.

Perhaps, a good way to go about it is to examine what it is exactly that is keeping you so tied or attached to them. Was there a quality that you cannot find in anyone else? Are there any regrets that are making you come back to them emotionally? Are they associated with a partiuclarly happy or difficult time of your life? Have they done something for you that other people can't or couldn't? There are just so many bindings in relationships that it's worth sitting down going through them thread by thread. Not being able to move on is not always about love, there are many variables that can only be understood by searching your history with a magnifying lens.

Missing people is a part of life. If you broke up with them, consider why you made that decision. Remember why you broke up with me. There had to have been some reason. If they broke up with you, then they don’t deserve you. You deserve someone will love you unconditionally. You deserve someone who will respect and adore you. If you can’t get over your ex, try looking for new people. Whether it’s another relationship or just friendship you’re looking for, surrounding yourself with positive people will help take your mind off your ex. Just remember that you are loved and people do care about you.

You have two choices: staying under the influence of a former relationship, or making a change for starting something new. Sometimes it might be a little bit easy to stay in the past, but in the long run, you have the opportunity to make something more bright and beautiful if you let things go. If you can’t let go now, it’s okay. Nothing can be built in a day or two. However, if you really want to, start everything small, and never give up the will of letting the past go, and focusing what’s the most important thing for you at the moment. If it takes time, let it. If it’s painful, let it be. You will gradually notice your improvement through these little moments of moving on, eventually one day you will be fully healed from the past. You always have the rest of your life to do something amazing, so don’t be disappointed about what’s like at the moment, just keep going.

Personally, I think that it is important to ask how your feelings for your ex are impacting you! If they’re hurting you, then I think it is important to uncover why. I also think that it is very important to take time to fall in love with who you are as a person and to create a life that helps you feel good. You want to be in a healthy place not only for yourself, but also for someone special who may come into your life whether or not that person happens to be your ex. Love yourself and focus on things that push you toward a life you love! ❤️

The important thing to realize and understand is that losing someone close to us even relationship break-ups can cause a lot of different and unsettled emotions and even trauma at times. Grieving is not one of those things that one just gets over. It come and goes in waves and has different levels and we all experience the different stages of grief differently. Reminding ourselves that there are no wrong or right ways to feel or think when we are healing. There are no expectations on us unless we tell ourselves that there is. Allow yourself to feel the emotions of the loss and separation. Maybe even take up writing in personal journal what you are feeling and where in your body do you feel these feelings. Love yourself- this starts with forgiveness. Allow yourself the room to grow and see how it is you’ve been able to come this far and what areas have you grown because you’ve had to face the reality of the situation. Talking to someone can also have lots of therapeutic healing properties and help you process all that you are feeling.

Try something new! Go meet someone new. with my experiance of getting over people, you will never stop loving them, you just find someone you love more :) SO don't sit down and be sad. either go out with your friends or go out by yourself. chances are something great will happen. don't give up. and if they broke up with you then they obviously don't understand what an amazing person you are inside :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

1) Ask yourself, "Why am I finding it hard to get over my ex?" 2) Was the reason for the breakup due to a red flag situation, (e.g cheating, not loving the partner enough) 3) Something to do to help you get over this person is by talking to someone about your situation, such as a good friend or a family member. If you feel alone and have no one to listen, just write it all down or maybe say it out loud. It helps you to release some of the emotions you have kept in 4) Just cry if you want, let it all out

Seeing a therapist might help. Sometimes the longer the relationship, the harder it is to get over that person. There is a saying that if the relationship lasted 6 years, it will take 6 years for you to get over it. That isn’t necessarily true since it depends on the person. Sometimes we might feel like nobody will love us like our ex did but that is not true. Also, breaking down all communication and not seeing their Facebook or instagram helps. Talking to a therapist about it also might help figure out the reasons why it is so hard to get over them.

Hi , I'm sorry that you are in this situation ,it's hard I understand you .Sometimes some persons become part of us and we just can't let them go. They are always inside us. Don't try to forget him ,it's impossible ,just learn to live without him ,with your pain even he is present all the time to you. Love it's something that doesn't really finish .If you love someone once you will love ,remember him forever. It's hard ,I know but I'm sure you will make it ,accept the fact that he has gone. Take care for your self🙂.

It can be difficult to get over someone with whom you once shared a shared experience. It can be helpful to reflect honestly on the relationship in order to grow from it. Think about why it didn't work and what you want from your next relationship. Also, remember that time heals wounds. It doesn't help to be hard on yourself- give yourself the time and space for reflection that you need. Don't force it. You will move on with time. Most importantly, focus on self-love and being kind to yourself. Once you are able to do this, you can move forward.

Break ups are always tough, especially if they didn't end very well. Not getting closure would definitely effect how each person would move on. Sometimes meeting new people would only remind you of you last partner. Maybe it would be beneficial to talk to your ex and ask to talk about how things ended. It might lift some weight off of your shoulders, and maybe even their shoulders too. If that's not an option talking to close friends about how it's still hurting you could be beneficial as well. If it continues for a longer time, therapy could help you find resources to deal with these emotions and this difficult time for you.

Five years is a very long time for sure. There could be however few obstacles that are causing you to remain stuck: 1) emotional scars and wounds, and this case since it has been this long I’d suggest seeing a specialist. 2) seeking closure. And this could be the most difficult part to deal with emotionally. In this case you could be waiting for something that may not take place and even may not bring you peace if it took place. Still five years is a long time. And a therapist could be useful in this case too. 3) lastly, it could be that you reached a low level of self esteem. And in this case, I’d do everything to pamper and spoil myself to love and value myself. I’d engage myself in my hobbies, try new hobbies, travel and exercise.

Sometimes, we as humans have the tendency to overthink and over analyse what we said, did and how we behaved in the past. And while sometimes this is beneficial to better understand where your decisions and choices led you, it does no good to dwell on them excessively. When getting over someone whom you loved and cared for, it takes time and it is a continuous journey. However, having a discussion with your ex about your relationship as a whole might be able to offer closure and help you move on to the next chapter of your life. Try and view this experience as a journey that allowed you to develop as a human and share a part of your life with another individual. And sometimes, the best thing that you can do is just throw yourself out there and talk with other people. But in order to do this successfully, let go of any preconceptions and try to not compare your potential partners to your previous ones. And soon enough, you will find interest in other individuals who will eagerly take you on a new, unpredictable journey.

The emotions that we develop in a relationship can become so deeply embedded in us. They don’t just evaporate overnight – especially when the breakup was a painful one. The pain that we experience during a breakup is comparable to what we feel when we lose a loved one. It is in essence the process of mourning the death of your hopes and dreams for a future with someone.Delete him from your life for a while, and move on. Slowly but surely, you'll get there. Go out with friends, take risks and meet new people. Whatever you do, do not let your ex hold you back

Hi, thank you for the question. A break down of a relationship is never easy. No matter how many break ups we have, we never seem to get used to the pain we feel. I'd like you to know that there is no specific time limit on how long it will take to accept a relationship being over. It can be true that the longer the relationship, the longer it can take to move on from. It can be more so if the couple were/still are married. But each relationship is different. Is there something specific you are holding onto? Perhaps a specific memory, a specific item? You've seen articles or at least heard ways about how to get over an ex, I'm sure. They all will have key points. One being cut off all contact. And I will second that. If you've already done this, GREAT! If you're struggling with the temptation of contacting them, or are struggling to quit contacting them... I understand. It can be so tough. There are different types of grief/loss. They all have one thing in common. Stages. When we lose something there are 5 stages that we all cycle through- Denial, Anger, Bargaining , Depression, Acceptance. Denial: Disregarding the fact that there is a break up. Not accepting the truth. Anger: Feeling angry towards your ex or the relationship. This could be in the form of arguments, especially arguments that have/had happened after the break up. Bargaining: This could be the time you start to feel at blame, maybe feeling you were responsible for the break up. And start imagining "what if" scenarios. Depression: The heartache. In my opinion the toughest stage to get through (but also the most rewarding once you're past it) Acceptance: accepting the situation and being hopeful for the future I mention this because it can be really beneficial to identify how we are feeling about the break up. And being able to identify what stage we are on can help us achieve our final goal: acceptance. Some stages will repeat themselves. For example you could feel angry towards your ex and the relationship and then feel low about your break up, which could then go back to feelings of anger. It's important that we allow ourselves to cycle through the motions and to never rush ourselves through each stage (even the repeated ones). If you need to cry. Let it out. It's no good holding back those tears, it only prevents you from moving on. You say it has been 5 years since your break up. So I am sure that you have at least experienced a few of these stages throughout the years. Can you identify what stage you're currently on? What feelings or thoughts do you associate with this stage and why do you think you are thinking or feeling this way? These are just a few questions you could ask yourself. If you can answer any of them this could help you understand your own emotions which in turn could help you control them and think differently about the break up. I wish you all the very best 🙂 (It does get better)

Try to spend more time doing activities that make you happy. Doing things that you enjoy should help you take your mind off the breakup.

Sounds like you have feelings for you ex after quite awhile. I'd suggest that you meet new people and open yourself up. Who knows maybe you'll meet someone better.

Figure out why you think about them, do you miss being with someone, is it a physical attraction, is it certain personality quirks, were you more comfortable in that relationship, etc. Use that answer to figure out what you want in your next relationship. Between now and then....socialize often, take time for yourself, enjoy hobbies, hang out with friends, meet new people, and be healthy. It takes a lot of time to get over ex's, some people never do, and that's perfectly normal.