I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?

One good step might be to write your ex a letter. You won't be mailing it, so feel free to say anything and everything! Put it all on paper and store it in a special place. Some day you'll be ready to throw it away. In the mean time, you may feel better that your feelings won't be forgotten or taken away as long as they are in that special letter.

This is a great question. First, embrace the fact that you and your ex obviously had a very special bond at one point in time. If you have separated and not gotten together for this length of time, the communication could be off and off for a reason. Perhaps it is a blessing in disguise. Write a pro and con list... what were the pros about your ex and what were the cons? Do the same for your overall general relationship. You'll see that even though there were good and bad times, perhaps you now know what you two separated in the first place. See the list and for what it is. And be optimistic that love is a blessing and will add greatness to your life if you choose to see it that way. It's a bond and a powerful emotion with someone that reminds us people come in and out of our lives for a reason. You learn something from them as they learn something from you. It has helped you grow into the awesome person you are today. Also, writing a note to your ex and then burning it sometimes helps to relieve any old feelings or tensions about the relationship. Or maybe it will open your eyes to something else you haven't realized.

Ask yourself what are the things that are prohibiting you from fully moving on. After the breakup, what stuck around? What are the things you have not cut ties with yet? Are you hanging on to things related to your ex that you shouldn't be? What are methods you haven't tried or tried enough to get over your ex? Or, it could be that you still need time to do its job. Sometimes it takes people like you many years before you fully move on. But it will happen eventually, that's for sure.

Try and transfer the love you had for them to someone else. That sounds weird, but i did it. My life is great with this person and i love them more than i ever love my ex of 4 years

Typically when we can't get over someone it's because we are second guessing the decision we made to leave the relationship. If you ended the relationship, I would suggest writing out a pros and cons list, one with the pros and cons of leaving, and one with the pros and cons of staying. This may help to clarify the reasons you initially felt were important. If you were not the one to end the relationship, I recommend practicing acceptance of the situation. Since it is not in your control, there is not much you can do to change the situation. By coming to terms with the fact that you can't change the situation, you are on the first step towards the path of letting go of this relationship. From then on, you can focus on building a life for yourself that doesn't involve your ex.

Do something you haven't already considered so far. I know it sounds simple but challenge yourself with new opportunities for change.

You keep thinking about that person until he/she drains away. Not forever, it can never be forever. If you do this long loving a person that is not yours, then it is a shame. And you will find a greater love for you.

First you figure out what they represent to you. Once you know what they are a representation of it will be easier to know what parts of yourself you may need to focus on; where they gap is that they helped you fill. Forgive yourself for the your part in the relationship that may have gone bad. Forgive them for their part of the relationship that may have gone bad, and accept the lesson that relationship may have for your future.

Practice self love - don't give yourself the expectation that "I should have moved on by now." Continue to focus on self improvement, including and especially being kind to yourself.

Break ups and past experiences are what made the person you are now. Try thinking about the things you learned from it and be thankful and try not to think of it as a negative thing but cherish it instead :)