I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?

I will remind myself that if I do not shut this door another will not open. I would listen to pod casts on getting over your x daily. I would get some counseling, and work on making peace with my past. I would work on myself, and make a list of things that I would like to do or places I would like to go. Getting to know yourself brings growth. Loving yourself helps us to see what we like, and what we don't like. Building boundaries is healthy. I can make a dream board, and start thinking about the things that are important to me, and what I want for my future.

I cannot give you advice, but I can listen to you. Sometimes it is very hard to get over someone, and I understand completely what you are going through. The emotions may seem like they are here to stay, but someday they will fade and fade more. Have you been feeling confindent in yourself? That could be playing a key factor in what you are feeling right of now. Maybe take the time to fall in love with yourself and notice the beauty inside of you. Falling in love with yourself could help you get over your ex.

5 years is a long time to be with someone. It is ok to grieve, but when that grief prevents you from moving on, then it is time to address it. You should seek things that make you happy and be around friends more. Open up your social circle and surround yourself with positive energy. Volunteering can also help distract you and also allow you to meet new people. It is ok to miss someone, but do not allow them to be the center of your world. Opening up your eyes to new ideas or hobbies can help distract you.

I completely understand your feeling. Maybe if you chat with some help, you to go over your emotion. I get that you miss your ex, and somewhere in the back of your mind, you want your ex back, but be realistic. You guys broke up or divorce five years. Go out with your friends, have crazy nights, and let loose. Try to work upon yourself and be the best version you can be of yourself. You might love her, but a lot of changes have occurred in both of your lives and personalities. You both are different people now. And you deserve to be happy. So get drunk, make new goals, and try to achieve them. Learn to love yourself and then try to find someone else to love. The person who'll heal your heart back will come around the most unexpected time and in the most unexpected situations.

If you still have feelings for your ex many years after the end of the relationship, it is important to think about what void that person left in your life. Why do you miss him/her so much? How could you fill the void that this person left in another way than getting him/her back? For instance, this person may have been so important because of how he/she made you feel intelligent. Could you get the same result by taking a course? Often, we fall in love because we have unfulfilled needs and believe that one person can resolve them. However, it is often possible for us to learn to fulfill our needs on our own. Good luck to you.

It is normal to still feel a connection towards someone that you spent a large part of your life with and who you have shared many memories with. Don't feel too discouraged by occasionally thinking about your ex or even checking out their social media. If you feel like you can not move on, try to remember why the breakup occurred in the first place. Consider the Pros and Cons of restarting that relationship. This list can help you understand your relationship needs which, in the long run, will help you form better relationships in the future. Always remember, You must give yourself time to heal and process after a breakup and that length of time is different for everyone.

Ask yourself, "what am I still doing that is the same as when I was with my ex?" Are you living in the same house? Working at the same job? Do you still go to the same restaurants you went to with them? etc, etc. Try changing anything that is still the same. Sometimes continuing activities and being in places that in your memory are still tied to a certain person, keep those memories recurring. That is why when people are grieving the death of a loved one, they tend to keep doing the routines and visiting or staying in the places they had with that loved one. It helps them feel close to the person who is gone. For someone trying their best to "get over" an ex, these same behaviours can be a hindrance and a source of bad feelings. Change it up! Do something thrilling that makes you happy and has no memory relating to your ex attached to it. Filling your life with new places and new experiences you will think back on in the future that do not include your ex is a healthy way of pushing them from your mind and getting on with the wonderful life you still have left to experience.

The best thing is to focus on what you can do for yourself, what can you do now that you couldn't do before when you were in a relationship, what new things can you try to create memories for yourself and with others. Breakups suck, their emotional and consistent with remembering old memories, but eventually you will learn to cherish them, and appreciate the time you did spend with them. Make a list of activities, food etc of things you wish to do and experience and hold accountability to yourself to enjoy it in solitude and get into a relationship with yourself.

That is okay- it takes time to heal (even if that time is a bit excessive in your opinion). Look at your strategies to get over them- do you have anything in your environment that constantly reminds you of them? For some people, it helps a bit to hide pictures of you two together, limit contact, or focus on personal development- do you have any methods which help you? You seemed to have a very strong emotional bond- give yourself some time and do not judge yourself for doing so. It is not an easy task, so it is important to be gentle to yourself and forgive yourself for taking time.

well, it´s tough at times to let go of memories when those moments meant so much to you. but maybe there is a reason why it´s in the past. the question to ask is why did it end? was it because one of you made a mistake? if it was the other person then think about whether you would be able to forgive the person for their mistake. if yes, perhaps you might have been together. if not, was it because of a mistake you made? if that´s the case maybe it´s the guilt. you might not be able to go back to past and erase it but maybe you can be kind to yourself and help to relief yourself from the guilt. it might feel uncomfortable but maybe apologizing for your mistake and being genuinely sorry to other person and letting them know how important they were to you will ease you from those pent-up feelings. rest, maybe waiting for time to heal is sometimes what we need!