I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?

In my experience, not being able to get over someone usually means that I can’t get myself to think about anything else. Find something that makes you complete. Help others, save the environment, do hobbies you like. Do something by the end of which you’ll feel like you’ve accomplished something. For me that’s being a listener on 7cups, organizing events to clean up the city I live in, studying to create medicine to save people, learning languages and so on. If you don’t know where to start, I’d say that nothing brings more joy and the feeling of accomplishment than helping others. Volunteer at different places and try your best to do your part in helping the world. Through that you’ll meet amazing people with admirable ambitions, and perhaps you might even meet someone new to love, though that shouldn’t be the goal. Do something that will give you the feeling of accomplishment.

Breakups are the worst sometimes, especially when you just can't seem to get over the ex. My best advice would have to be to try and figure out why you can't get over them. I couldn't get over my ex until I cut off all contact with them for a while. We are friends now but for a couple of months I had to block them on social media and delete any memories I had in my phone. It was so painful and so hard but, in the long run, it helped me a lot. The other part of my advice would be to just keep an open mind and, if you are in contact with them, keep a healthy relationship with them. You will find someone better than them, even if it happens to be them again it will be a better version of them. :)

Accepting any loss can be challenging. But be patient while you allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling because this is the hardest part. The ability to finally move forward and adjust to the future can take time and it isn’t a “linear process”. That means some days will be easier than others, and others will be harder. But keep your hope alive. Seek out the greatest relationship with yourself. Find ways to love and respect yourself, like shedding old habits that don’t serve you, or would prohibit a positive future. And also, know you aren’t alone. Integrate yourself with your community rather than isolate, whether it be online or otherwise. Best wishes, friend. x

If you try hard to forget your ex, you would end up remembering more and more. You can do things like, point out the things that makes you remember about her/him. And try to simply replace those memories with something else. That's the one thing to do. There is a Exception Case, if its your First love, then you wont be ever able to forget him/her, so then the only option available is to get over that. There is one more way to forget her/him, that is to create a hatred for them in your mind, simple by remembering the painful things they did to you.

I can definitely relate to not being able to move past a relationship. After space, time, and working on being a better me, the blow of a painful separation softened. Some helpful things to think of are: What did you enjoy doing before your entered into the relationship? Are the parts of your ex's personality you miss something you can find in yourself? Have you tried any resource guides on 7 Cups? What are some things you've tried to move past your ex and the relationship you two shared? There are many wonderful books, articles, and videos you can watch that will help you gain insight on the reason you haven't been able to move forward.

What do you find is keeping you tied to your ex? What makes your ex someone you can’t get over? I have found that when looking at a past relationship that I lost, it’s easy to only remember the good things and reflect on missing those days hinges in the relationship. Have you sit down and either written or thought about the reasons that the relationship ended and didn’t work? When I found myself heartbroken I found that by giving myself love made me realize I didn’t need my ex to choose me anymore because I chose myself. Is this at all helpful to you?

The first step in get over someone is acknowledging what you are feeling and letting out all of your emotions. All breakups are tough, especially long ones so in order to start your healing process, you need to understand what you are feeling. You may feel anger, sadness, confusion, etc, and those are all normal feelings. You need to understand why you are feeling that way in order to get over the feeling. You may be feeling confused because you don't understand why the person would break up with you. You need to acknowledge that it is okay to feel that confusion.

Make your self better, progress is the key here, try to find a new hobby of another accupation so to meet new people and there might find another person in order create a new relationship. When breakups happen, it’s easy to take to social media to see what your ex is up to. This is a bad idea. First, you don’t want any reminders of them in your life. Second, you don’t want to see them with someone new or having fun without you. Unless you know you can take it, which, most people can’t, just avoid their accounts or even delete them. This is particularly the case if they are a narcissist. Narcissists tend to move on very quickly as they tend to approach most relationships superficially. It’s not out of the ordinary that will they will be charming manipulating someone else in a week or two and posting romantic photos. If not that, then they’ll probably be posting “selfies” where they look beautiful and happy.

Reflect back on what about them you're missing and if it even is something connected to them, or a feeling you could feel with someone else. Consider moving on to find someone else because there are so many more amazing people you deserve, or take some time to take care of yourself and build up your confidence to learn that you don't need your ex! You got this! Delete their lingering presence in your life, whether that be blocking their contacts, photos, or social medias. Let your friends know, because they know you best and can support you too! You may need to distance yourself from things that you associate with your ex, like certain people, songs, and/or places too, and that's okay! Come to the realization that whatever you're missing from your ex is probably something you could get with someone else, and maybe even better!

5 years is a long time to be in a relationship with someone. It is not something that you forget about or get over with easily. Be easy and forgiving towards yourself. You are going through a hard time. It may be important to think about the reasons why things didn't work out. It's also important that you think about all that was gained from the relationship. I'm sure there are beautiful memories that you may want to keep with you. I am also sure that there are things that you learned from maybe the not so good memories. Thats ok too. Getting over your ex will take some time, but keep going and keep growing and everything will be ok