I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Jul 13, 2022
Iknowyou
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Apr 27, 2016
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Try to focus on the better things of your life. Spend time with your Friends/family, try to fill gaps(if you have any) with others(friends/family), meet new people, invest your time in your hobbies, do something productive, Laugh, laugh a lot.
In this process you will make new friends, you will learn, a lot, may be you will find a new partner(May be he/she won't be the same as your Ex, but he/she will be perfect for you :) ) and if not then you will end up become a new Person, a better person. :)
Anonymous
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Apr 30, 2016
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It's okay to feel this way, try to get over him by distracting yourself and hang out with close friends, don't think about him much and block him from all social apps or stop doing whatever that makes you think of him.
InspirationalAdventurer
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May 13, 2016
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Try to understand what's keeping your ex on your mind. After you've done that, try to distance yourself from it. Go out and do new things that you never could've done with them, enjoy freedoms you never had and you will start to move on
LittleFloofFox
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May 19, 2016
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Learn that the past stays in the past. He is probably moving on to better things and so should you. Pick up a great hobby or go on vacation!
verboseIcarus42
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May 19, 2016
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Getting over exes is quite the challenge. I would use one of 7 Cup's calming resources to help sort your thoughts, then talk to them about your feelings.
Anonymous
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May 21, 2016
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My suggestion? Find hobbies, writing, photography, reading even. Anything that can express and keep your mind off of it all help you move on and find something else to hold on to. Going out with friends is also a big help. Sure it can be annoying, people, going out, we all have times of viewing those things as awful and just don't want to do it. But it helps build you back up become cheerful again and maybe even finding someone new and better.
Anonymous
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May 25, 2016
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it's tough. someday it will be figured out. i promise.
Have you met anyone?
Break ups can be really tough, but he best way to get over them is just focusing on yourself, and feeling better.
Aquagies
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Jun 4, 2016
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It's completely understandable to be attached to the good memories or to a person after 5 long years.its never easy to just forget a memory .but all I can say is some people are meant to pass and have an impact on your life.others create the impact by staying in it.its a matter of choice of who matters.if it's an ex it's meant to be forgotten coz somewhere either the ex or you dint make an effort to stick together.just cherish the wonderful memories you both shared and move on happily.
HarleysApricot
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Jun 8, 2016
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Spend some quality time with yourself. 5 years is a fair amount of time, some changes might have happened during that time.Get to know you once again . Some say the trick to getting over one person is to fall love with another, fall in love with yourself.
healingSnowflake51
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Jun 12, 2016
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Maybe you should talk to him about how you feel and see wheter he feels the same and if he doesn't try and do something which can distract you for example, going out with some friends and maybe try and meet someone new.
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