I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?

Hi , I'm sorry that you are in this situation ,it's hard I understand you .Sometimes some persons become part of us and we just can't let them go. They are always inside us. Don't try to forget him ,it's impossible ,just learn to live without him ,with your pain even he is present all the time to you. Love it's something that doesn't really finish .If you love someone once you will love ,remember him forever. It's hard ,I know but I'm sure you will make it ,accept the fact that he has gone. Take care for your self🙂.

It can be difficult to get over someone with whom you once shared a shared experience. It can be helpful to reflect honestly on the relationship in order to grow from it. Think about why it didn't work and what you want from your next relationship. Also, remember that time heals wounds. It doesn't help to be hard on yourself- give yourself the time and space for reflection that you need. Don't force it. You will move on with time. Most importantly, focus on self-love and being kind to yourself. Once you are able to do this, you can move forward.

Break ups are always tough, especially if they didn't end very well. Not getting closure would definitely effect how each person would move on. Sometimes meeting new people would only remind you of you last partner. Maybe it would be beneficial to talk to your ex and ask to talk about how things ended. It might lift some weight off of your shoulders, and maybe even their shoulders too. If that's not an option talking to close friends about how it's still hurting you could be beneficial as well. If it continues for a longer time, therapy could help you find resources to deal with these emotions and this difficult time for you.

Five years is a very long time for sure. There could be however few obstacles that are causing you to remain stuck: 1) emotional scars and wounds, and this case since it has been this long I’d suggest seeing a specialist. 2) seeking closure. And this could be the most difficult part to deal with emotionally. In this case you could be waiting for something that may not take place and even may not bring you peace if it took place. Still five years is a long time. And a therapist could be useful in this case too. 3) lastly, it could be that you reached a low level of self esteem. And in this case, I’d do everything to pamper and spoil myself to love and value myself. I’d engage myself in my hobbies, try new hobbies, travel and exercise.

Sometimes, we as humans have the tendency to overthink and over analyse what we said, did and how we behaved in the past. And while sometimes this is beneficial to better understand where your decisions and choices led you, it does no good to dwell on them excessively. When getting over someone whom you loved and cared for, it takes time and it is a continuous journey. However, having a discussion with your ex about your relationship as a whole might be able to offer closure and help you move on to the next chapter of your life. Try and view this experience as a journey that allowed you to develop as a human and share a part of your life with another individual. And sometimes, the best thing that you can do is just throw yourself out there and talk with other people. But in order to do this successfully, let go of any preconceptions and try to not compare your potential partners to your previous ones. And soon enough, you will find interest in other individuals who will eagerly take you on a new, unpredictable journey.

The emotions that we develop in a relationship can become so deeply embedded in us. They don’t just evaporate overnight – especially when the breakup was a painful one. The pain that we experience during a breakup is comparable to what we feel when we lose a loved one. It is in essence the process of mourning the death of your hopes and dreams for a future with someone.Delete him from your life for a while, and move on. Slowly but surely, you'll get there. Go out with friends, take risks and meet new people. Whatever you do, do not let your ex hold you back

Hi, thank you for the question. A break down of a relationship is never easy. No matter how many break ups we have, we never seem to get used to the pain we feel. I'd like you to know that there is no specific time limit on how long it will take to accept a relationship being over. It can be true that the longer the relationship, the longer it can take to move on from. It can be more so if the couple were/still are married. But each relationship is different. Is there something specific you are holding onto? Perhaps a specific memory, a specific item? You've seen articles or at least heard ways about how to get over an ex, I'm sure. They all will have key points. One being cut off all contact. And I will second that. If you've already done this, GREAT! If you're struggling with the temptation of contacting them, or are struggling to quit contacting them... I understand. It can be so tough. There are different types of grief/loss. They all have one thing in common. Stages. When we lose something there are 5 stages that we all cycle through- Denial, Anger, Bargaining , Depression, Acceptance. Denial: Disregarding the fact that there is a break up. Not accepting the truth. Anger: Feeling angry towards your ex or the relationship. This could be in the form of arguments, especially arguments that have/had happened after the break up. Bargaining: This could be the time you start to feel at blame, maybe feeling you were responsible for the break up. And start imagining "what if" scenarios. Depression: The heartache. In my opinion the toughest stage to get through (but also the most rewarding once you're past it) Acceptance: accepting the situation and being hopeful for the future I mention this because it can be really beneficial to identify how we are feeling about the break up. And being able to identify what stage we are on can help us achieve our final goal: acceptance. Some stages will repeat themselves. For example you could feel angry towards your ex and the relationship and then feel low about your break up, which could then go back to feelings of anger. It's important that we allow ourselves to cycle through the motions and to never rush ourselves through each stage (even the repeated ones). If you need to cry. Let it out. It's no good holding back those tears, it only prevents you from moving on. You say it has been 5 years since your break up. So I am sure that you have at least experienced a few of these stages throughout the years. Can you identify what stage you're currently on? What feelings or thoughts do you associate with this stage and why do you think you are thinking or feeling this way? These are just a few questions you could ask yourself. If you can answer any of them this could help you understand your own emotions which in turn could help you control them and think differently about the break up. I wish you all the very best 🙂 (It does get better)

Try to spend more time doing activities that make you happy. Doing things that you enjoy should help you take your mind off the breakup.

Sounds like you have feelings for you ex after quite awhile. I'd suggest that you meet new people and open yourself up. Who knows maybe you'll meet someone better.

Figure out why you think about them, do you miss being with someone, is it a physical attraction, is it certain personality quirks, were you more comfortable in that relationship, etc. Use that answer to figure out what you want in your next relationship. Between now and then....socialize often, take time for yourself, enjoy hobbies, hang out with friends, meet new people, and be healthy. It takes a lot of time to get over ex's, some people never do, and that's perfectly normal.