I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?

try new things, spend time with your friends and family, try a new hobby, practice coping skills such as journaling or reading, when a relationship ends, we grieve it like a death

I have been in a very similar situation and in all honesty getting over a break up is very hard. However, its important to think of it as a new opportunity for you to get to know yourself and meet some great and amazing friends along the way. But also don't be afraid to get back out there and try to make connections with other people even though it is a long and difficult process. Your happiness is worth fughting for! I hope that this was helpful to you in some way and that you find the peace that you are looking for.

Perhaps, a good way to go about it is to examine what it is exactly that is keeping you so tied or attached to them. Was there a quality that you cannot find in anyone else? Are there any regrets that are making you come back to them emotionally? Are they associated with a partiuclarly happy or difficult time of your life? Have they done something for you that other people can't or couldn't? There are just so many bindings in relationships that it's worth sitting down going through them thread by thread. Not being able to move on is not always about love, there are many variables that can only be understood by searching your history with a magnifying lens.

Missing people is a part of life. If you broke up with them, consider why you made that decision. Remember why you broke up with me. There had to have been some reason. If they broke up with you, then they don’t deserve you. You deserve someone will love you unconditionally. You deserve someone who will respect and adore you. If you can’t get over your ex, try looking for new people. Whether it’s another relationship or just friendship you’re looking for, surrounding yourself with positive people will help take your mind off your ex. Just remember that you are loved and people do care about you.

You have two choices: staying under the influence of a former relationship, or making a change for starting something new. Sometimes it might be a little bit easy to stay in the past, but in the long run, you have the opportunity to make something more bright and beautiful if you let things go. If you can’t let go now, it’s okay. Nothing can be built in a day or two. However, if you really want to, start everything small, and never give up the will of letting the past go, and focusing what’s the most important thing for you at the moment. If it takes time, let it. If it’s painful, let it be. You will gradually notice your improvement through these little moments of moving on, eventually one day you will be fully healed from the past. You always have the rest of your life to do something amazing, so don’t be disappointed about what’s like at the moment, just keep going.

Personally, I think that it is important to ask how your feelings for your ex are impacting you! If they’re hurting you, then I think it is important to uncover why. I also think that it is very important to take time to fall in love with who you are as a person and to create a life that helps you feel good. You want to be in a healthy place not only for yourself, but also for someone special who may come into your life whether or not that person happens to be your ex. Love yourself and focus on things that push you toward a life you love! ❤️

The important thing to realize and understand is that losing someone close to us even relationship break-ups can cause a lot of different and unsettled emotions and even trauma at times. Grieving is not one of those things that one just gets over. It come and goes in waves and has different levels and we all experience the different stages of grief differently. Reminding ourselves that there are no wrong or right ways to feel or think when we are healing. There are no expectations on us unless we tell ourselves that there is. Allow yourself to feel the emotions of the loss and separation. Maybe even take up writing in personal journal what you are feeling and where in your body do you feel these feelings. Love yourself- this starts with forgiveness. Allow yourself the room to grow and see how it is you’ve been able to come this far and what areas have you grown because you’ve had to face the reality of the situation. Talking to someone can also have lots of therapeutic healing properties and help you process all that you are feeling.

Try something new! Go meet someone new. with my experiance of getting over people, you will never stop loving them, you just find someone you love more :) SO don't sit down and be sad. either go out with your friends or go out by yourself. chances are something great will happen. don't give up. and if they broke up with you then they obviously don't understand what an amazing person you are inside :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

1) Ask yourself, "Why am I finding it hard to get over my ex?" 2) Was the reason for the breakup due to a red flag situation, (e.g cheating, not loving the partner enough) 3) Something to do to help you get over this person is by talking to someone about your situation, such as a good friend or a family member. If you feel alone and have no one to listen, just write it all down or maybe say it out loud. It helps you to release some of the emotions you have kept in 4) Just cry if you want, let it all out

Seeing a therapist might help. Sometimes the longer the relationship, the harder it is to get over that person. There is a saying that if the relationship lasted 6 years, it will take 6 years for you to get over it. That isn’t necessarily true since it depends on the person. Sometimes we might feel like nobody will love us like our ex did but that is not true. Also, breaking down all communication and not seeing their Facebook or instagram helps. Talking to a therapist about it also might help figure out the reasons why it is so hard to get over them.