I can't get over my divorce. What should I do?

I understand how you feel. I also went through a situation similar to this and I know it can feel like you can’t get over it for a long time. But I made it through and you will absolutely make it through as well. There is hope. Have you read the 7 cups guide on breakups? It is a really useful guide that gives you proven steps to getting over a divorce and getting back to being calm and leading your life on. You are a whole and full person and although the end of a romantic relationship can make us feel empty, you still have a lot of life left in you and a lot to give in this world.

I believe the first thing you need to realize is that you are capable of living a life and be happy without your partner. Think about the things that make you happy, and try to keep your mind occupied doing activities that make you feel good about yourself, otherwise you'll just think about your ex. Don't start looking for love right away, it will come when you're ready. You are much more than a wife/husband, you are a human being capable of achieving many things. Please also remember love is everywhere, not just in a partner.

It is so hard to forget about the days you’ve spent together all these times. I have read that to forget about someone, you don’t need to force yourself. Just let them in your memory as the beautiful one. Because everything happen for a reason. And try to forget everything they did to you. Get up and take a deep breath to start a new day. Show them that you can be better without them. It will be rough to forget the one you love. But you need to make yourself happy. So try a new thing that you never do. And don’t forget to love yourself that finally you deserve your time alone

First thing is to take care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve over your plans, dreams and expectations. Be gentle towards yourself and don't push yourself towards happiness, take your time. I had my rituals, which allowed me to process the grief and sadness. I set the time and cried for as long, as it took to cry it out daily. Use your social support so you will not feel so lonely. Focus on what you are interested in as much, as possible. Remember, that it is difficult, but you will get over it as you got over everything else in your life.

Do things that make you happy and get your mind off of the divorce by doing things you haven't done before. Connect with new people, see your family members or friends that you haven't connected with in awhile, travel to a country that has been on your bucket list. Take up a new hobby, learn an instrument, literally do anything you want! I understand it's hard getting over someone you cared about deeply but life isn't only about that. It's about experiencing new things and just living every day with a positive mindset. Getting over a divorce is going to take while but with the right people by your side there isn't anything you can't do.

i know it's so hard, but you have to accept your new life. Try to kill your free time by doing new simple things: go to gym and plan for your goals you want, get your support from yourself and lovely people around you. Support maybe was coming from one person but it's up to you now to get it from others. You didn’t take this decision with no reason- sure there were many reasons that made you decide to divorce and end a bad relationship. In life, we face many obstacles and this is one of them but know that it will pass.

Let the feeling sink in, its ok to feel what you are feeling right now and give it more time. As time passes by you will either start feeling better or will miss a companion because you lived with someone for so long. In case you long for a company and are ready to get into another relationship, you can try meeting people and talking to them, probably you will feel much better when you open up to someone with whom you are comfortable. You could also start a new activity that you haven't done for a long time or learn something new that you've been waiting for. Hope you are able to cope up with this.

You probably get this advice alot. But try to distract yourself with fun activities you liked to do. A divorce might have an impact on the rest of your life since it's not something you should take lightly. But it will help you develop as a person. For your next relationship you have learned how to cope and you will come out as a stronger person. Examples of activities you can do: Canoeing, painting, drawing, shopping (not too much), fun with the kids (if you have kids), focus on friends and family, start dating perhaps? There is always a silver lining

I can understand that this must be hard for you, because getting over someone is always difficult no matter what and I'm so sorry that you have to go through something like this. Trying to distract yourself and doing things you used to enjoy is always good, but don't forget that letting yourself grieve is also important! It's okay to feel those emotions and even If you don't feel like it, don't forget to take care of yourself! Exercise, keep in contact with your friends, seek help If you need to and try to eat & sleep enough! I wish you all the best and I hope this could somehow help you!

Don't listen to well meaning friends or relatives who tell you to "just move on" or "it'll all be ok." Divorce marks the end of a chapter in your life and you have earned the right to feel what you feel and how you feel it. This is a good time to focus on yourself. Is there something you've always wanted to try, or read, or see that you never had a chance to do while you were married? Why not treat yourself to this? The advice we give to others who are ill is to take care of themselves. In this case, we should take our own advice. That dis-ease or discomfort you are experiencing should be treated with self love and care.