I can't get over my divorce. What should I do?

Coping with the end of a marriage is a form of grief. As we are all different people, we all grieve differently. Some throw themselves into work, some rely on friends and family for comfort and some turn to more detrimental coping mechanisms, such as alcohol, drugs or sex workers. I think that when finding yourself single for the first time in a long time, it's about finding yourself again. You have spent such a long time being a couple and being known as "we" not "I". Try something new. Dare yourself to be different and do all the things you felt you could not do in marriage. Rely on your friends and family for emotional support and fill your time with people who love you. Now I know you're reading this and thinking "but I miss my ex-husband/wife"... in times like these I want you to think carefully about your marriage. You divorced for a reason, and when you start to miss them, remember the good things yes, but I also want you to think of these things; 3 reasons you are proud of yourself, 3 things you have enjoyed lately, and 3 goals you want to achieve. The third thing I will say is that the stigma around counselling is slowly dying and there is no shame in talking through the divorce with someone professional. Counselling is good for our minds and our souls and I believe everyone should have some at some time. It can help you work through your feelings and give you a new perspective on your current situation. If you are struggling please feel free to give me a message and I'm more than happy to talk things through with you. Good luck, and stay strong.

Stop living in the past. Stop living in the what-ifs and would have, could have, maybes. Fall in love with yourself. Understand that it's okay that it didn't work out, accept that. Realize how lucky they were to have known you, and understand why they left for the future. Don't base your worth off of what didn't happen. Don't base your worth on everything that's failed. What happened, rather you see it this way right now, was good. It will be better for you in the end, and now a door has opened for you to be you again. Learn who you are again.

I think you still love your life partner and it is tough for you to move on if I am right? Then just give your relationship a second chance If you can. Talk to her/him and ask what he/she thinks about this. Because I think if It is difficult for you then the condition should be same there too And if you can't find new friends make a new relationalship with trust. If you think you can just do it because my dear perfect matches are made in heaven but due to some circumstances the perfect have to suffer some test to prove its perfection

Start with a new project. Go step by step without being fixed on the outcome. Do the things that you did before the marriage. Do something fun. And then when you feel pain. Choose to embrace it. Sit with it. Feel how it feels. Feel the loneliness and marry yourself. Start to be the person you are looking for. Sit in front of the mirror and just look into your eyes. Get in touch with yourself and your own inner light. Bless the marriage you had. And know that you are fine alone. You are complete already. And the only place where there is love is inside of you. Connect to your heart.

First, you can start by by reaching out to those who will support you through this trying time. Surround yourself with positive people who care about you and your well being. (And by the way, it was very bold of you to connect 7 cups for help!) Secondly, get involved with something you ENJOY. Do you like gardening, working out, or are you a sports fan? Whatever it is, go ahead and engage yourself in this activity. It will not only benefit you physically, but emotional as well. And if you need more help, feel free to contact me again.

Sometimes when the ideals we hold for a situation are not realized, one can get stuck. This is a part of grieving. Grieving what could have been or what might have been, when a significant relationship ends, it can shake us to the core. Fortunately, there are many ways to deal with grief and you should take as much time working through this change as possible. Grief is not linear and everyone grieves differently. Whatever your path, the ultimate destination for loss is acceptance. The common first step for grief is doing what you are doing when you asked this question. And that is acknowledging your feelings. By saying you "cant get over" your divorce you are acknowledging a problem and that is a good thing. You may seek out counseling to better process these feelings or confide in a trusted friend who has maybe been through this process before.

So you must be feeling upset and quite down. I think a good thing to do is to talk about it and tell someone how you are feeling this will lift a huge weight of your chest and make you feel like you are less alone. If you are ever feeling blue come to seven cups and talk to a listener. Another thing you could do is do things to take your mind off it. This could be starting a new hobby focusing on a hobby or spending more time with friends and family, not only will this give you something to do and take your mind off it it will also make you happier

I also struggled with my divorce as well. The only thing I can offer is to seek counseling. It really helped me. I went weekly for abut 2 months and then monthly for a few months. Altogether it took me about 2 years to fully get through my divorce. So, I can truly tell you it will take some time for you too fully recover. Just try taking it one day at a time and if that does not help, you might need to go to the doctor and get something to help you with stress and depression. It is nothing to be a shame about because over 14.5 million people suffer from mental health issues. And it will only be a temporary thing until you get things back to under control.

Accept the fact that it's over, not to sound hard or something but i'm sure it was for the best. Love yourself, take care of your self because you deserve it

Divorces are definitely not easy to get over, but you can do it. When you feel you can't get over something it is best to distract yourself. You have years upon years to move on from it, to go out and do things and eventually forget about it. But for right now the best thing to do for yourself is open yourself up to new activities and ideas. Coping skills or new hobbies are good distractions. There will be times when you think about it, but the divorce happened for a reason and you should remind yourself that you don't have to have a partner to be amazing, successful, or happy for that matter. You can be independent and do things on your own. Find yourself, write poems, paint, draw, go out with friends. Don't do anything dangerous though, like drink, drugs, self harm, or anything of that nature. If you need more help on this subject 7 Cups offers licensed therapist help. I hope this helped, you are loved and welcome on this platform. Talk to me if you need anything else.