I can not get over my ex to save my life. It has been 2.5 years since the break up and 1.5 of long distance before that. I feel I am still at day one since the break up. How do I forget her?
JumpyGoiaba
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Jul 27, 2018
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It's impossible to forget someone who shaped your life so significantly. Chances are this person will always be extremely important to you.
Make an effort to distance yourself as much as possible from the life you had when you were together, building new and different things for you. The best way to move on from the past is to shape up a different future.
I hope my advice was helpful in some way. Best of luck :)
Tess55
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Jul 24, 2018
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Relationship breakups can be extremely difficult to get through. You have to focus on rather moving on and letting them go instead of forgetting them, as it is hard to forget people were ever in our lives.
Cordiform
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Mar 26, 2019
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It sounds like you have not metabolized the ending of your relationship and you are still focusing on how good it felt to be with that person.
Forgetting someone who played an important part in our lives it's not an easy task. Even if it's over, they gave you much to remember.
And sometimes, that is a good thing: relationships can help us grow and develop new abilities that shape us into better people in the long run.
Try instead to focus your attention on the relationship itself, instead of the person. What made you feel happy about it and what was not so great? What difficulties did you face? Did it teach you something valuable?
Even if may find difficult to forget your ex, that doesn't mean you can't move forward. Use this experience as a motivation for personal growth.
Anonymous
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Jan 7, 2020
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It is my experience that we do not forget the ones we love(d). Instead, we find a way to shift that love into something that serves our greater good. That said, if you are finding yourself thinking/missing/yearing for them daily, I would invite you to look at 1) what you miss, is it a relationship, or this specific person 2) Is there anything you feel is undone between you? 3) Is it safe to have communications with the ex? If So, it maybe worth opening a discussion --without getting to passionate too quickly to see if perhaps you are feeling the ex energy or what might be lingering
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