I broke up with someone, but I feel so guilty for hurting them. How can I talk to my friends without looking like the villain?

It's all about how you'd look at yourself! If you feel like a villain whose job's to hurt people's feelings and doesn't care about anyone's life but him/her self, that'd be what your friends see in you as well! Breakups always happen, they can hurt our feelings and get us in a bad mood for a while, but they're necessary. Imagine if no concept of breakup existed, then all those wrong matches didn't have any other choice but to tolerate each other and live a bad life for their whole life! You've done the right thing to decide it's not going to work, and it needs courage to stop it and leave someone. Believe it yourself first, and give time to others to believe it too. You're not a bad person. No one really likes to hurt anyone else. Just Things happen, right?!

There is no shame in sharing with your friends that you feel guilty for hurting your ex. You might share with them how grateful you are for realising the relationship needed to end because of blah blah blah (they are your reasons, so I won't elaborate). Someone had to end it, and that someone was you...but it could have been him and then you would have got to look like the victim. Victim/Villain...they are just labels that people use to quickly categorise players into roles...you could choose to say that you both feel sad about the breakup, but that you feel guilty because you had to be the one to end it.

show that you have sympathy towards the person you broke up with, maybe you still want to become friends with the person your broke up with? also if you do talk to your friends about that person you broke up don't say anything nasty about what happened, just keep it positive and simple.

it would be right to tell the friends that you feel guilty about all you did while you tell them.... and you can lower the intensity of things while you tell them... so it will feel good that you have shared things with a friend while not being concerned about looking like the villain.... and also good friends would support you even when u tell them the truth.. they will be glad u understand now..

A break up is hard in any situation. There will, most of the time, be people who take sides in these things too, which is never nice for anyone. All you can do is be honest to your friends about the reasons for the break up, be true and try not to get anyone “on side” by saying nasty things about your ex-partner. It’s one of the hardest things in life and the fall out can be messy, but remember that it’s only temporary. If your friends push you away or don’t support you then they’re not very good friends in the first place. But, give them time to come to terms with what happened too. Hopefully, while not a nice situation, everyone can move on in a mature manner and, if not, then just try to be as diplomatic as possible. You may lose some friends on the way but that happens in life anyway. There are more friends to be made round the corner and chances are, your friends now wont be around in ten years anyway, you’ll have moved on for one reason or another and this will all feel a million miles away. Stay positive, stay true and hold on tight and you’ll be ok.

It is a personal matter. Nobody knows the relationship. Everyone has different needs and wants in a relationship. You shouldn't really talk to people about it . But If people question you about the breakup explain that You needed to be honest. With yourself and you partner.

You just need to explain them everything that happened and be hundred percent honest so they could realize you're saying the truth , everyone understands so be open to them .

Yes you can. You feel guilty for hurting someone you once had feelings for, but you did what was right for you.

Be perfectly honest. Breakups are difficult for both parties. Your friends will likely offer some additional insight on your situation.

just be yourself...there must be a reason for breaking up so explain them your point of view and if they are not judgemental they wont take you as a villain :)