I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

It is going to be really hard to move on it is. It is not an easy journey. I am not here to sugarcoat it for you. But, I am here to tell you that you will get through this. It is going to take time as well as distractions. It is going to take self-care. Focus on improving yourself. Focus on the things that make you happy and surround yourself with them. You like to eat? Look up a recipe, go to the grocery store, buy the ingredients and make it! You like to go shopping? Ask a friend to go shopping (or window shopping) with you! Pet your dog! Brush your teeth! Wash your face! Exercise! Do what makes you happy! Over time, you will start to forget about loving him and remembering to love yourself! You are beautiful! You are amazing! You will get through this! Good luck on your journey!

I had to break up with someone who I loved and who still loved me. It was like I can't live without you, but I can't live with you either. Love was so strong, but relationship was very unhealthy. I had to leave. It was very hard to move on because I still loved him. I thought I couldn't even start dating, because it would be so unfair to anyone one - how could I be in a relationship or date someone else, when my heart was still breaking and I was still loving my ex. It took a lot of time. And patience. And self love. That's when I really learned to love myself. I took time for me, to learn to be happy being alone, being by myself. And eventually, I knew I was ready! It was then when I met my current partner (5 years together) and haven't looked back.

I think that the most important thing to know when moving on from a breakup is acceptance of your decision. I think it's important to remember your reason for breaking up with him and that your reason is very much valid. If you had to, then it's okay to still feel those feelings. I don't recommend trying to find a reason to hate someone to move on from them as this is unhealthy, mostly in cases where they haven't given you a reason to hate them. One way I recommend coping with this sadness is to hang out with friends/family. While it may be seen as a distraction, it is still a coping mechanism. It's important during a difficult time like this to surround yourself with people who are important to you. Another way to cope is to either partake in activities/hobbies you enjoy or are curious about. You may feel a lack in motivation, especially if these feelings are fresh. However, once you find a way to occupy yourself, you will find it easier to deal with these feelings.

It must be a really hard time for you because breaking up with somebody you love is one of the hardest things to do. I don’t know about your personal situation but I think first: it is a good thing and a brave choice to break up. I also think (however difficult) you should focus on you! I remember what my father said during my first brake-up: “breaking-up is like a heavy flu. You have to get through it and that really really sucks. But you will get better and even be immune to this flu.” This sounds more easy then it is I know.. but your relationship will not have ended for no reason. I think a break-up in lots of situations makes people suddenly feel very positive about their ex, you might forget the negativity, the reasons why this is a good choice. Try to tell and remember yourself the bad things about your relationship with your ex sometimes. Can you remember who you were before you’ve met your ex? There was a time you managed to live without your ex. And do you will manage again! My advice: try not to contact him/her now. Try focusing on yourself. Can be really difficult but you will find out that it gets easier over time. Give yourself some space to feel sad and talk about it, but also give yourself space to to carry on with your life and happiness.

I think you two should get back together if you people love each other so much and if you can't because of some reason then I guess you'll have to wait, it will take time, the hurt won't go away so soon. You can try meditation and journalism. Try to forget them by erasing all your memories and starting fresh. It will be hard because you love them but that's the only way out, forgetting them and removing them from your memory because moving on from someone you love, it's not really easy but it can happen! Though I am really confused why you two separated.

Hmm, this is a tough one. I do think that you have the answer to this. It may not be so easy moving on from this, and I am speaking from experience. Find what you love to do and do it. Grow in it and watch yourself bloom. The question is, why did you guys end the relationship? Do you wish to have what you had back? Have you guys tried talking about it? There are a lot of questions to think about and a lot of things to consider. calm down and think about it. you've got it.

My first impulse is why? There is no need to break up with him. Why did you have to? Depending on that reason, then I would then have to think about that especially if you love each other. But if other loves are involved I suppose it can bring stress and complicate the situation. Is one married to another or a parent to someone else's child? Perhaps it is parental demands or expectations. Or you are lo g distance and there are too many lonely longing to be with someone on the planet. Why is love between a man and woman so scarce. Shouldn't we discover our primal and earthly self in addition to the spiritual?

Firstly, well done on your maturity and bravery. Too many people stay together because they love each other but knowing that they don’t work together. However, this has its drawback because there isn’t a defining moment when someone does something unforgivable and anger is present. To move on, you have to reassess why you broke up in the first place. Maybe it’s helpful to write a list of why it wouldn’t work, or examples of times they made you feel bad. Refer back to the list when you feel your mind wandering to keep reminding yourself. Whilst you can go into another relationship, you may find yourself emotionally still with your ex. So be careful not to rush into a relationship too soon, until you feel ready to move on. In the meantime, do go on dates, rekindle friendships and create distractions and new passions.

You don't need to hate someone to be able to recognize that you don't want to be with them or that you want to move on. Many relationships end on "amicable terms". "Amicable" is another word for friendly. Ending a relationship on "amicable terms" means that the two of you decide to part ways but still maintain a general sense of mutual respect and acquaintance-level or friend-level care towards one another. In this type of relationship ending, while the romantic relationship is gone, there is no ill will between former partners. If you want to move on but not hate each other, it may be worth considering this type of relationship closure as an option.

It can be hard to leave someone you love. However, sometimes it is the best decision for ourselves to ensure that we are looking after our own wellbeing. It takes time to heal after a tough break up. Allow yourself to feel all of your emotions, they are valid feelings. Be kind to yourself. With time, you will heal and feel like yourself again. You will be able to look back at the good times and smile without feeling a tinge of pain. Practice self care and spend time with those who love and care about you. You are not alone.